Longer-Term D/s Considerations

lifeofdom​(dom male) - And this is you assuming that every dom does what you just mentioned:pounce on any new submissive joining this website..
Dont judge others without confirmation.

ErosRising​(dom male){Hekate} - I don’t think that the O.P. is assuming or is judging others. What he states is true, as witnessed by many others on the site. I have heard way to many times from to many females joining the site that the feel they are in a pool of sharks with blood in the water.
Now while every Dominant Male may not pounce on new female submissives, they do get pounced on and to say anything different would be false.
Ask how many submissive females that have been on here for a good long time get pounced on by new Male Doms coming on.
CaptRick has made an observation about what he is seeing and there was no reason to attack him for it. My question would be - Why the attack? Usually one only attacks if they feel threatened, which now begs the question of - Why do you feel threatened by this post?
My personal opinion on this post is that it is a good post and an eye opener for some.

Hekate He Near​(switch female){Eros} - True. I hit the lottery with Eros, probably with the same odds. But some of the "invitations" I received were truly disturbing. And considering I don't know any of them, the content of the "pounces" had everything to do with what's going on inside of them and nothing to do with me personally. We subs are often just a mirror or screen reflecting back desires and fantasies-and being bombarded with that level of intimacy uninvited is unsettling. A word of advice? Start off as a human being and have a conversation.

lifeofdom​(dom male) - You call it an attack i call it differing opinions. . Did i insult anyone? Is this not a debate of ideas ? Your opinion is yours to do as you wish including stating it here. I do not feel threatened by this post in any way. My point of view is different from yours and his. Subs state being pounced and subs state otherwise.
So there are two sides to the same coin..
Maybe you sre the one feeling threatened by a different opinion and have to "defend" someone else that also has a voice to.defend themselves should they feel the need..
Pets need someone to speak for them.. you may have a career there.

ErosRising​(dom male){Hekate} - So you just contradicted yourself that you didn’t attack by attacking me in your reply.
How did you not attach when you said “And this is you assuming “. That is not I differing of opinion but an attack with words. When you tell someone in a rude way that they are assuming something and “Don’t judge others without confirmation “ that my dear boy is an attack on someone.
Did I attack you in my reply? Nope, I gave my opinion on personal experience.
Does CapnRick need me to defend him? Nope he doesn’t. I am sure he has a voice.
But, as stated in a previous post of mine, I read the blogs and am done with others attacking other people without them being called out. I am tired of the wannabe and instas. And I said I will call them out going forward with no regret whatsoever.
Now my opinion on you based on the response to the post and to me, you have some issues you obviously need to work through and your posts here are a huge Red Flag to anyone reading them. You obviously do not have the intellectual capacity to have a difference of opinion on a post or a reply without attacking those people. You also probably have no clue what the Pillars of this LifeStyle are. So my suggestion to you would be to look in the mirror and do some deep self evaluation and then do some more research before attack those who have a lot more experience than you. 😉😁

lifeofdom​(dom male) - No contradictions here. You expect fair treatment , you give fair treatment back.. your words were anything but correct.
And ill leave it at that..

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Life, I went to your profile and read it. For someone who says that they pay attention to details, your profile is filled with errors and not very detailed.

Bravo on slipping into the name calling. That usually happens when you do not have a point to argue yet still feel as if you are right.

I'm a submissive who has been here for ages, and *I* can tell you that EVERY SINGLE NEW (female submissive) MEMBER gets flooded with messages. Some are well meaning Doms but most are from Insta-Doms trying to beat everyone else to the fresh meat.

lifeofdom​(dom male) - Where is any name calling? Now who's not being exact?
If my profile is not very exact its up to me.. filled with errors?
Looks like i need to go back to school

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - @LifeofDom:
"Pets need someone to speak for them.. you may have a career there."

You insulted right there. How? Taking a shot at Eros' masculinity by inferred that Eros' submissive (and me) were his "pets" and that he needed to "handle" us. That couldn't be further from the truth. It was Hekate's right to defend her husband. I happen to be friends with the BOTH of them and frankly, don't much care for bullies. (That would be YOU, btw).

And yes, you do need to fix your profile, especially if you are going to claim that you pay attention to details.

I'mME - What is wrong with you? The idea that the OP writes about, has been the topic of numerous forums on this platform! He is on the money, it can be like that no matter what platform a sub is on.
He singled no one out.

Hekate He Near​(switch female){Eros} - Someone needs to be socialized. *giggles*

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - I know. I work too much though so it's hard to find the time. 🤣🤣

CapnRick​(dom male) - WOW! I had no idea I was starting a food fight ! Now for Life of Dom--you are absolutely right, not every Dom is doing the pouncing, though certainly some are sharks. I did not expect to upset your hair-trigger attack mode. To clarify, my post did NOT say ALL Doms are pouncing as you tried to claim -- my exact words were "a number of hungry males pouncing..." I stand by that, and wish to thank the posters who leaped in so effectively!

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - *stands pin straight and salutes* EY EY CAP'M!

lifeofdom​(dom male) - I stand corrected.

Satindragon - Personally as someone who has been on this site for quite some time now. (Almost five years to be exact) I concur with the Captain.

There has always been that fresh meat syndrome on both sides of the slash. But because most of the time Dom’s out number submissive we get a larger number of profile hits.

What I find amusing is reading comments on blogs it lets you know how people think. Sometimes they are all about creating conflict. It makes you think hard about even considering that person as a Dom or submissive. I hate to argue or feel like I’m being attacked.

Captain, I think it was a very astute observation this morning and thank you for sharing.

Sky dancer 51 -
Being on this site for 5 years this coming July. I can not do anything else than fully agree with CapnRick, as it is sometimes annoying the messages that come in my mailbox and most of them are even not worth my time to politely declined the persons offers.
I can only say that some of the so called Doms contacting me gives me the creeps and in my opinion the way they think they are allowed to talk to me does make me question myself if I really still want to be on here.
In my time here I have made great friends both Doms and Subs and that is the reason for me still being here.
It would be nice if the persons who want to respond to anyone here on this site reads the profile of the one they want to get in contact with and respect that persons wishes when it is mentioned "not looking" or " only interested in making friends".

@ CapnRick Thank you my dear friend for you your great observation and as always very good blog post.
Love Sky ❤️

Little momma​(sub female) - There is a definite out of balance ratio of male Doms who are looking for female subs and female subs looking for male Doms. Very good observation FGD!

PlutoOrange - The real statistic (by Aella) is that dom males are in minority, and sub females are majority in population of human beings. I was never scared or annoyd, not sure why there are so many posts of people who are annoyed by men texting or blocking people, so much of a narcissism in that, lack of empathy. If you dont text back, noone would spam you

I'mME - Perhaps it is the content of some messages is what it's an often talked about subject. As far as stats go, there may be more subs than Doms in the lifestyle but I'm the OP was spending on this platform and what they had observed on the day they wrote the post.

PlutoOrange - I wish more people would think about the Actual problems that we have as online bdsm society in june of 2023. Because everyrhing else is just a freedom and a freedom of speach and a freedom to make mistakes, a nature. But i guess ill die alone with my curiousity. While science is doing its beautiful job as a war between dark and light forces.

Hekate He Near​(switch female){Eros} - Aella isn't science. She is a very successful sexworker turned "data scientist" through informal web polls and has a subscription newsletter. Real science, peer reviewed journals, agree that there are both more me in lifestyle behaviorally and more men engaging in dominant/sadistic roles or behaviors within lifestyle, as well as far more men involved in fetishistic sexual behaviors overall. Aella is as successful as she is due to her thorough understanding of this demographic situation.

I'mME - @Hekate He Near,
I had no idea WTF or who Aella was, didn't really care. I read the Op's piece as what he had observed that day.

Im not positive on what 5he next post meant by the Aella fan or whether it was addressed to me.

Thanks though for clearing up the Aella mystery.

Nonya