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3 years ago. June 21, 2020 at 3:35 PM

So, I am part of a sub group on a different platform. There are about 10-12 different women. I thought that I had found a place for me to create friendships and share who I am (my thoughts) with these women but that is not the case. Some of them are very nice but the majority of them can be judgmental and click-ish. The “mean girls” influence the others to be mean as well. They push you out and ignore you. It makes me so sad to see. This lifestyle is already hard, at times, but to not be able to be in a group with other women who are supposed to share your need and cravings for the lifestyle is even harder.

Side note: No one knows about my true self outside of online and it can be so very hard. 

Mr E​(dom male) - Really sorry to hear this. Its a sad fact that sometimes all you need is two people in one place and hierarchies begin to form. I can offer no solution but to say move on; these aren't the 'friends' you need or deserve. Sometimes searching is the better alternative to finding, and having it be the wrong people.
3 years ago
PlusSzdBeauty​(sub female) - Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. I think you are right and it is time for me to just move on.
3 years ago
slaveMikayla​(sub female){MstrJ } - I'm so sorry you had that experience. E has it right. I hope you will find a group of friends who will be there for you, whether here or elsewhere. <3 Honestly, leaving that group is no loss... you wouldnt want to be friends with lemmings and sheep anyhow, would you?
3 years ago
PlusSzdBeauty​(sub female) - Thank you. Definitely not!! I have a great group of friends outside of the lifestyle but they wouldn’t understand my need for the lifestyle so I can’t share this side of myself with them.
3 years ago
ohgoody{Under cons} - I feel this post. I find this is true in life. But don’t ever stop being unapologetically you. If you ever need a buddy to vent to or get advice from (I’m new to this too so I’ll offer what I can) then feel free to message me. And screw the mean girls they’re just hatin and projecting their own bullshit. ❤️❤️
3 years ago
PlusSzdBeauty​(sub female) - Thanks so much for that! Welcome to thecage :)
3 years ago
Grey Eyes​(sub female){Owned} - That's really a shame. I personally don't do so well in large groups of women. They can get catty in my experience. Better and happier for me to be in smaller groups, or one on one. But then I am an introvert. I agree with the others, move on and find your happy space. I'm here for you if you need to message me (I am plus sized too).
3 years ago
PlusSzdBeauty​(sub female) - I don’t normally because yes they can be very catty and I have a big heart so I give most people the benefit of the doubt, but I wanted to branch out. Thank you for your kindness!
3 years ago
AphroditesKiss​(dom female) - I agree with everyone that has already given you such great advice. I would like to add, you can always start a group of your own. Here or on another site. But honestly, I think you would benefit more if you reached out to a local munch group in person and found live people you could see and talk to in person. Don't get me wrong, I love my friends I have made online, but there's something about having someone in person you could grab coffee or tea with and just share feelings about what you're going through. This is an important part of your life and you should be able to share it with someone who understands it and can give you a hug and comfort you in person as well as online.
3 years ago
PlusSzdBeauty​(sub female) - Thank you for your response and advice. It is GREATLY appreciated!!!
3 years ago
AphroditesKiss​(dom female) - Oh, FYI... your post inspired me to write one, and I give credit where credit is due.
3 years ago
PlusSzdBeauty​(sub female) - Thank you 😊
3 years ago
HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - What about the ones you get along with having a chat group with them outside of said group. Maybe they would like it too but are afraid if they leave they would have nobody else.
3 years ago
PlusSzdBeauty​(sub female) - I did think of that... They are kind of loyal and I don’t want to really start any unnecessary drama. Thank you for your response!
3 years ago
BigBubbles - I'm always here if you need to talk. Sorry about the mean girls. They are everywhere unfortunately. Hugs💜
3 years ago
PlusSzdBeauty​(sub female) - Yes they are and I grew up getting bullied. I try hard not to be a mean girl back even though I want to because it doesn’t benefit me. Thank you so much!
3 years ago
DiscoveringMe​(sub female){Cocooned} - I mean it when I say this....you can chat with me ANYTIME! I have made a new friend on here who is also a sub and we chat daily! We share our thoughts, concerns, fetishes and kinks. We do not judge each other and its liberating. I'm not premium but my Daddy is so you can message him to get my contact info. Support is important. ☺🤗
3 years ago
PlusSzdBeauty​(sub female) - Thank you so much!!!
3 years ago
Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - This breaks my heart! I don't understand why anyone would be mean or cruel to another human being, ESPECIALLY when it's supposed to be a support group. Personally I say you are better off without them and by all the comments here, it seems you have a good support network. Always remember you can teach out.

I like HGB's suggestion too. And you never know if you don't ask.

Much love and peace to you! ❤️
3 years ago
PlusSzdBeauty​(sub female) - Thank you so much for your thoughtful response and kindness! All of you ladies really touched my heart!
3 years ago

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