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Hello Friends,

The last erogenous zone many of us explore is the anus and the area around it. There are legitimate concerns but several ways to minimize the risk of spreading urinary infecting bacteria and, in some cases, STDs like HIV. The viral aspect is best approached by testing and treating so it isn't contagious. A UTI is not a STD. We all have bacteria in our bodies, and spreading them to our urinary tracts or our lover's urinary tract routine hygiene is a good defense. A healthy (especially young) body can defeat a urinary tract infection independently, but why risk it if simple preparation substantially eliminates or reduces the threat?

Now, there are plenty of guides online to help you. Numerous sources have made several points. I will quote later and provide links. The Anus does not store feces. Simple cleansing with a mild soap will remove residue in and around the Anus. Yet activity in and around the Anus may produce some feces even if you take great care to wash up: accept that as a real possibility.

This applies to Condoms, gloves, and sex toys, too. Keep toilet wipes handy, just in case. Avoid complex products and anything rough that can damage the surface of the internal or external skin.

If you are planning Anul penetration with a penis or large toy, it would be helpful to use an Anul plug to loosen the opening to make things easier and more comfortable. Use a lube. Now, here are some links to gain more details.

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Hello Friends,

I have been interested in dreams² periodically for years, read books, kept a diary, and sought ways to stimulate and remember dreams. Mugwot, an herb used for many ailments, is also known for its influence on dreams.

Mugwort¹ is a perennial plant that is native to Europe and parts of Asia and Africa. It now grows in many parts of the world, including North America. Historically, mugwort has been used in traditional systems of medicine in different parts of the world.

Mugwort | NCCIH National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health (.gov) › Health Informa

Other common things that help produce dreams: There are many foods and supplements that claim to promote dreams or help to remember dreams. I settled on just a few: Melatonin, Vitamin B6, and Mugwort tea, but it is so bitter I mix it with peppermint, tea. I am trying (new to me) tea: Traditional Medicinal Nighty Night, Organic Tea (Commercial brand).

 a search with Google will direct you to many articles and books on dreaming and dreams, and that is excellent because what may work for me may not work for you. My goal is to achieve LUCID dreams but that is a challenge and I have only succeeded on  rare occasions I am not sure if any tea or supplement helped or it was a random event.

Happy Dreaming, Sweet Dreams

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Hello Friends, Happy ST Patricks Day

It may seem academic, but I asked myself, what are the reasons I want to make love to a woman?

1. I Lust for her

2. I like her

3. She is pleasant to me

4. She entices me

5. She likes me

6. I want to express love

7. I am wild with being horney

All these reasons can be controlled. Yes, even being "horney" can be controlled if necessary.

What is missing? We want to have a family.

Hello Friends,

I have read in some of the blogs here that the writer feels they do not belong . . . .

I have, throughout my life, struggled with being different, often withdrawn and self-isolating. I have also been troubled by the world's flaws: war, famine, disasters, diseases, etc. My favorite artist is Vincent van Goh. The movie Lust for Life was made from the essence of Irving Stone's historical novel. 

In the Song by Don McLean Vincent, there is one set of lyrics that haunted me for a long time:

" . . . Vincent, This world was never meant for one
As beautiful as you . . ."

I went through an artistic period imitating Vincent Van Goh, and I felt those lyrics as if they applied to me. I have had a lifelong struggle with clinical depression, but finally, after many years, I was diagnosed with a bipolar condition; counseling, Cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) 1 , and medication have brought me closer to a better balance. I can still be withdrawn at times and overly sensitive, but the good news is after I adjusted to all the therapy, I regained my creative spark. I had feared quelling my emotional challenges would also harm my creativity.

It turns out I am resilient and able to adapt and still retain my empathy and inspiration to express it.  My high school creative writing teacher was the first adult to recognize my sensibility; he told me I was experiencing sadness for the world. Weltschmerz ²
 

1. Cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) is a type of psychotherapy. It may help you change unhelpful or unhealthy ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. CBT uses practical self-help strategies designed to immediately improve your quality of life. CBT can be an effective way to treat depression and anxiety.

2 weltschmerz \VELT-shmairts\ noun. 1 often capitalized Weltschmerz : mental depression or apathy caused by comparison of the actual state of the world with an ideal state. 2 often capitalized Weltschmerz : a mood of sentimental sadness.
Weltschmerz Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster 
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Did I hear some of you ask what is Retrograde Ejaculation?

I am glad you asked. 

Retrograde ejaculation occurs when semen enters the bladder instead of emerging through the penis during orgasm. Although you still reach sexual climax, you might ejaculate very little or no semen. This is sometimes called a dry orgasm.

Retrograde ejaculation isn't harmful, but it can cause male infertility. Treatment for retrograde ejaculation is generally only needed to restore fertility.  . . . Retrograde ejaculation typically doesn't require treatment unless it interferes with fertility. In such cases, treatment depends on the underlying cause.   Mayo Clinic

Who gets retrograde Ejaculation? 

People also ask
Older age — as men age, it's normal for ejaculation to take longer. Psychological conditions, such as depression or anxiety. Medical conditions, such as diabetes or multiple sclerosis. Specific medical treatments, such as prostate surgery.May 18, 2022

There are many factors and causes, and for some men, a fix:

WEB MD Some blood pressure medications
Some depression medications
Medications for prostate issues

For me? I have what many men develop after fifty years old: "calcium deposits." In my case, the prostate (and elsewhere) has me prone to urinary tract infections (easily treated with antibiotics, but the calcium hides the bacteria from the antibiotic ).

There are a lot of online resources, but please see your doctor so together you can discover what may be the issues in your particular case.

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Hello Friends,

The ancient Kama Sutra is not the only ancient book of love; here is another:

Excerpts from Song of Solomon 1 King James Version (Bible)

. . . 2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.

3 Because of the savour of thy good ointments thy name is as ointment poured forth, therefore do the virgins love thee. ...

... 10 Thy cheeks are comely with rows of jewels, thy neck with chains of gold. ... 13 A bundle of myrrh is my well-beloved unto me; he

shall lie all night betwixt my breasts. ... 15 Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes.

16 Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green.

This version also depicts the woman as Black.

 

People also ask (web page)   What does your bed is green mean ?
 
Verse 16. Also our bed is green. — ערס eres, from its use in several places of the Hebrew Bible, generally signifies a mattress; and here probably a green bank is meant, on which they sat down, being now on a walk in the country. Or it may mean a bower in a garden, or the nuptial bed. *These files are public domain.

 

 

Hello Friends,

So, what do worms have to do with making love? More than you think.¹ They practically become one entity.

Earthworm mating occurs on the surface, most often at night. Earthworms are hermaphrodites; that is, they have both male and female sexual organs. The sexual organs are located in segments 9 to 15. Earthworms have one or two pairs of testes contained within sacs. The two or four pairs of seminal vesicles produce, store and release the sperm via the male pores. Ovaries and oviducts in segment 13 release eggs via female pores on segment 14, while sperm is expelled from segment 15. One or more pairs of spermathecae are present in segments 9 and 10 (depending on the species) which are internal sacs that receive and store sperm from the other worm during copulation. As a result, segment 15 of one worm exudes sperm into segments 9 and 10 with its storage vesicles of its mate. Some species use external spermatophores for sperm transfer. Excerpt

 

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Hello Friends,

Many of you know me as a 76-year-old newbie to BDSM who can act like a 16-year-old schoolboy at times. I inadvertently seemed to have stepped on some toes and mashed my toes, too. First, my Dominatrix (Teacher, Coach, and business partner but not my Misstress) is a fantastic person and has kept me out of trouble when I listen to her. I have come to the conclusion she is my BDSM guardian as well. Meeting friends isn't hard, but connecting to a submissive woman (in my case) is not so easy. On my own, things have not gone well. In private messaging, I can elaborate, but I am not writing today to create a stir of any kind. There are many online information sources to navigate, but "hook-up" sites are the most treacherous.

Even if I abandon a search for an intimate friend, there is deception, trickery, and fraud when seeking a platonic friendship. My teacher/coach warned me constantly, but finally, I got it. Even a young female neighbor I spoke to warned me when I asked about meeting people online. She may be overly dramatic but when I asked her, "How many people will I meet online searching for a friend who are to be trusted?" She replied, "None of them." So, since moving here a year and a half ago, I still exist like a stranger in a strange land: How can I make potential friends?

The old-fashioned ways seem best: Have someone you trust to introduce you. Someday, I may be able to engage in a club, an activity, or the senior center and socialize. I must continue my caregiving and be patient now with the advice I give to myself, too.

Hello Friends,

Once upon a time, my lover and I took a stroll in the late evening during a warm May. We looked at the flowers and slowly drew closer. She had a blanket tucked under her arm and spread it on the ground near the Periwinkle carpet. The night air was filled with a beautiful fragrance she selected and adorned herself with. She had a gown-like cotton dress that swept along as she walked with me. She slowly removed the dress, pulled me onto the blanket by my belt, and loosened it as I descended. A gentle breeze tenderly rustled the leaves as a night bird sang a beautiful song. We melted into each other and became one. One breath, one heartbeat. Time stood still, and it seemed as if hours had passed. We turned and looked up, and now the sky was dazzling with stars, and there was just a light, cool breeze that made us tremble a little and then embrace to ward off the chill. It was in the garden where the Preiwincle still grows today as it did many years ago.

Hello Friends,

What about these 7 degrees of separation theory?

I believe  I am 7²

^{49 degrees of separation from people I would like to meet.}

^{There may even be 64 degrees of separation with my luck (LOL)}