a place where everything is not okay

HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - That is not safe. Please take care of you. In my opinion it is abuse.

Literate Lycan​(dom male) - Concur with hisgoodbunny. This is not safe and will only lead to self destruction. Although she may not fully see it, this is toxic and abusive.

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - She will NOT change! She will get worse! You need to get out, and I personally know how hard that is, so please, seek counselling AND if you have one really good friend AND/OR family member, please confide in them. Right now you need all the support you can get, the encouragement from others in leaving and supporting you through this very tough time.

And here, keep reaching out here. We are a community and are supposed to help and support one another.

Sending you strength to leave, love to heal you, peace for your soul and hoping you get all the support you need ❤️❤️❤️

Litlegrl​(sub female){Dragon11} - Definitely agree with the above statements. She won't get better, she will get worse and she won't change. You need to leave. I also know how hard it is, but please do as Karbear suggested: find a family member or friend, confide in them and leave. Get counseling, talk to others and never look back. Yes it is going to hurt. Yes it will feel like your heart is breaking. But you need to care for yourself.
Also like Karbear said, we are a community here. Never be afraid to reach out to us here. We will help any way we can.

Angel Wings​(sub female) - My advice.is if you feel you are being abused then there's.your answer. It's difficult getting away and moving on,but don't wait another year for happiness. Best of luck.

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WEAPON X​(dom male) - The hardest thing to do is leave the ones we love but in all honesty you should leave to protect your self and if you discover later on your truly ment to be then put it out there because even a slave has the right to say no or thats to far

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TheLittlePrincess​(sub female){SSG} - I agree with everything above. Definitely find at least that one person you can lean on and rely on to help you get out of this. You may love her, but from what I've learned through my own situations, you have to ask yourself "is the love I feel for this person enough or does all of the pain and damage outweigh that?" It seems to me, if you're reaching out to the community about it and stating that there's abuse, that you already know this isn't right and you already know you want out. Do not let someone manipulate your feelings and guilt you to stay. She doesn't care about your limits and those are the most important feelings you have that should be respected.

switch101​(switch male) - Thank you all for the support, I decided I will try to end it soon, wish me luck

HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - We're here for you

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - Yes, what HGB says, we're here for you! ❤️

Bleiz​(sub female) - Good luck, you got this! We're all here for you

JustAGirlLiveLaugh​(sub female){Me} - trust yourself if your gut says you to get out you do. sending hugs and good thoughts.

SirsSunrise​(sub female) - Well I was not in a BDSM abusive relationship, I WAS in a vanilla marriage that was abusive. I kept telling myself that he had good qualities and that I loved him and that he would change because he loved me. He never did and it almost destroyed me. You deserve better, you deserve someone who will respect and care for you and love you and take care of you. Get out and don’t look back, the right person is out there. We are here for you 😘

switch101​(switch male) - I have an update
I did break up with her but she kept calling and apologising through a mutual friend and said she wanted to have coffee just to apologise and I agreed, she said that she is willing to do anything to get back together but I said there is nothing we can do
After that she proposed that she is willing to make our sexual relationship a dom/sub one - we were always switching - were I am always the dom
Could this work? I REALLY love her and miss her
I'm just lost rn
And I don't know if I would like to always be the dom
+ she came on to me that day and I stopped her and told her I need to think about it
It's been two days and I didn't call her yet

TheLittlePrincess​(sub female){SSG} - It could be just another way to bring you back in so that she could do the same thing again. She didn't respect your limits, so what's to stop her from switching to trying to dom you? I can't say whether or not you would be happy domming all the time, you have to decide that for yourself. Good job on stopping her and stepping back so you can think about what you want though. My advice would be to force yourself away from her, no contact, for a while longer until your head calms down some and you can think calmly about what you want. The worst you can do is let your emotions run off and then you just jump back into this without thinking it through. Try to think about why you left and whether or not that this is going to change anything. Is she the kind of person who can change? What has she proved to you so far? Keep questioning it and you'll come to an answer for yourself. I hope the best for you!