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K y i v - Meet online make it real in a week or two... Run if not... Rinse repeat.

K y i v - Discussion classes are great we have had a few at the Baltimore playhouse and Crucible

NoOneofConsequence​(dom male){Taken} - One of the things that has caught my attention is the divisiveness about whether online only relationships (or LDR of whatever flavor) are "real."

I think the answer may be found in temporoparietal junction function. This is where our ability to separate our self from other is found. Still early days yet in my poking around, but I have a hunch that for someone that temporoparietal junction is "messier" the connections made over distance will be real and those with "cleaner" function in that area will be less likely to find it so.

***shrug***

In other words, it's a continuation of kink-shaming for people to say whether it is real or not for someone else.

MasterBear​(other butch) - We do monthly classes and the May event. I'm thinking ahead to next year.

Also it's easy to disregard an online relationship. That's why I'm thinking a class would be helpful!

K y i v - Or a mental illness... As real is real and cyber is fantasy.

K y i v - Mb the classes have saved many a world of heartbreak... As some sharing of experiences wakes many up

K y i v - Mb I may have an outline so. Where if you want to see it

ropefish - I agree with NOoC.... Kiev stop kinkshaming lol.

This is a great idea MasterBear!! :D

K y i v - The sakana... The recent pain in the blogs concerns me... Would that both parties could keep it in the rehlm they choose. The risk of course is when one assumes or is told it is going to be real.. These classes here in DC have saved many newbies from pain. MB has a great idea to present the facts. An educated decision is a real decision. Not all have a grasp on the facts.. Nor can call bullshit on the manipulation thrown at them...

ropefish - One can argue that online relationships are more likely to fail or that it is more likely that an online partner might be deceitful and that's reasonable. But I for one have had a few very real online only relationships, and it is a little insulting to be told that those were a fantasy as you call it. Online roleplay is one thing, but that isn't what I do. Distance does not invalidate my submission.

MB, I think it would be fabulous to incorporate this age old debate into your class. :) and to bring up things like trust, communication, transparency, and other aspects that make online relationships real.

MasterBear​(other butch) - The same things have been said about interracial couples and same sex couples. I think a class would help expand understanding

Satindragon - I agree that a class would be helpful. The more educated a person is the better they can make choices. Good luck

MissBonnie​(dom female){oz} - A class is a brilliant idea MasterBear. Views on online are so very different. Another thing not mentioned here (in comments) is, I think if looking for online if the person could clarify their needs, it would help others looking for the same without having to break your heart along the way. Most new people struggle with how to identify what they want and often it makes for messy beginning ...In general they jump online and all they know for sure is "that made my bits tingle and I want it"
The way I see it:
You have the fantasy camp,
the little on the side camp, (either completely transparent or veiled)
the I just want to test this out camp,
he oh boy, lets get hot and heavy, I have five minutes of time right now (insta grats often forgetting the other side is real thinking and feeling human)
the I dont live where I can find a partner
and the LDR that plans to met.
All are great and wonderful **IF** that is what your looking for and like the others above said you are transparent and honest with your intentions, needs and wants.
I used to run an online training "entertainment" program for new male submssives (free no charge) the premise was they are "owned" by two Dommes for 2 weeks. It was called a "taste of cyber" it had a general introduction into cyber and everything (we could think off it might entail)..anyway where I'm going with this, is around 800 ish "subs" completed this. Many where surprised at the end and reclassified themselves as bottoms, some slaves. Many found out what rocked there world in fantasy, had no appeal in reality. Others changed minds on squicks.Many decided online wasn't for them, several changed whip ends. A few even changed genders. Most all agreed they had no idea what they wanted or what they where walking into. All agreed there isnt enough "clear" information on cyber out there.

If I can help in anyway MB, just yell.

MasterBear​(other butch) - Soooo...

Miss Bonnie---- how do you feel about coming out next year to teach?

MissBonnie​(dom female){oz} - LOL long flight but let me think about it. If not, your welcome to pick my thoughts. If I can help in any, I will do so gladly.