A Rough Start

Phoenix3011​(sub female) - You and me both girly. I dont know you, but im here if you want to talk :)

MegaGem​(sub female){Solidbobth} - Thanks girl, I appreciate it

Sensual City Girl{ForeverHIS} - Your title caught my attention!!! It’s how I’m feeling this exact moment and as unread your blog, I was if they were my own words. I am new and inexperienced and inadvertently connected with a Dom/Daddy this week. Nothing formal yet had been formed. He was My first. We connected like I wasn’t expecting it in every way via email, text, and phone. Then after a face time session of seeing him for the first time, I made a fatal error and asked a question I shouldn’t have. That ended things abruptly with no second chance. I sent him messages explaining why I asked. Oddly, when I asked the question I told him I wanted to ask it out of roles and as a friend. Is this normal? He said it was real for him and it was for me, but yet turns away so quickly. I know my question hurt him, but it was an innocent and curios question. He was offend.

I said goodbye and feel so lost without him. It was like he was soulmate. I feel so lost without him. In such a short time, how can someone affect you like that??? This is why I like to have control and have trust issues. I don’t open up emotionally for this fear of being hurt like this. Am I wrong?. I have no desire to look for anyone else. I desire the same as you. Have I made a mistake in evening exploring this side of myself??? I’m also so frustrated with him that he won’t even reconsider. He’s probably deleted, blocked, and removed from all his contacts. Lol

Is there a support group or something? Lol

I wish you the best of luck and hope you find your special Dom.

Sensual City Girl{ForeverHIS} - Your title caught my attention!!! It’s how I’m feeling this exact moment and as unread your blog, I was if they were my own words. I am new and inexperienced and inadvertently connected with a Dom/Daddy this week. Nothing formal yet had been formed. He was My first. We connected like I wasn’t expecting it in every way via email, text, and phone. Then after a face time session of seeing him for the first time, I made a fatal error and asked a question I shouldn’t have. That ended things abruptly with no second chance. I sent him messages explaining why I asked. Oddly, when I asked the question I told him I wanted to ask it out of roles and as a friend. Is this normal? He said it was real for him and it was for me, but yet turns away so quickly. I know my question hurt him, but it was an innocent and curios question. He was offend.

I said goodbye and feel so lost without him. It was like he was soulmate. I feel so lost without him. In such a short time, how can someone affect you like that??? This is why I like to have control and have trust issues. I don’t open up emotionally for this fear of being hurt like this. Am I wrong?. I have no desire to look for anyone else. I desire the same as you. Have I made a mistake in evening exploring this side of myself??? I’m also so frustrated with him that he won’t even reconsider. He’s probably deleted, blocked, and removed from all his contacts. Lol

Is there a support group or something? Lol

I wish you the best of luck and hope you find your special Dom.

Sensual City Girl{ForeverHIS} - And the question I asked was how old was he? 🤦🏻‍♀️

MegaGem​(sub female){Solidbobth} - Hun, I don't know what your Doms problem was, but the question you asked definitely shouldn't have offended him. He obviously had something to hide from you if he got offended and just disappeared liked that. You are honestly better off if he couldn't trust you enough to share simple honest information. You deserve better

Sensual City Girl{ForeverHIS} - Thanks. I’ve been replaying the situation in my head since Friday. I was very clear that I was still attracted to him, he just didn’t look like the pictures he had sent with the dates on it were just a couple of months ago. It’s been driving me crazy. It just felt unfair. Ugghhh!!! Here I thought we were adults. Lol

Sensual City Girl{ForeverHIS} - And the question I asked was how old was he? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Solidbobtheflamingo​(dom male){Megagem} - If any dom ends something like that over that then their are some red flags, because it means they did not feel that they could be honest with you or that they felt they could not trust you and you can't have a true relationship like that. Unless they set up a clear rule against bringing it up. In which case I understand but disagree with their decision. Because it sounds like you were in the beginning of your relationship and the key too these relationships is communication especially in the beginning when you are trying to find how you guys are going to specifically work and what your specific boundaries are with each other. If you did push that boundary they set up I think you should have been punished and taught what to do not thrown away. I am sorry for your heartbreak but look at the people around you who understand that hurt. This is a community for helping and shareing and I know you can make it through this.

Isla - I hear you so hard girl! I’m the same way. Always here for you.

CK45​(sub female) - Sorry this happened to you.
Hang in there and good luck ❤️

Solidbobtheflamingo​(dom male){Megagem} - It is good you want to ask these questions of your self. It is also good you know what you want in a dom and in your relationship. Wether this life is right for you is a question only you can answer. I know you are probably already really comited to the lifestyle, and know it can be one of the most rewarding things in life to have someone you can trust that much. Just look at all of the love, understanding and connection you got from the wonderful people on here. It was a good self-examination but I don't believe anyone can be too messed up and know that you will find some nice dom who can take care of you in the way you need someday.

MegaGem​(sub female){Solidbobth} - Funny how it worked out. You need up being what I needed all along 😘

Bunnie - I can absolutely relate to all of this. Thank you for sharing :)

alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY } - I understand hun . Emotions work sometime in over load , especially when we met someone we think at just that moment they are the right one. Yet , the right one for you will help you go slow. And that will be hard also for you. You will feel/ think to yourself " maybe he does not want me", " maybe I'm taking his being nice and friendly the wrong way" , ect ect ect...

But going slow with real talks learning each other,the kink and non kink, is really I feel the only way sweetie. And it makes everything thing sweeter when it works .

But trust me , I understand, patience is hard to have. But is necessary when It comes to a healthy relationship.

Findingrealme​(sub female) - I promise, if you take it slow and be patient, the right Dom for you will come.