It utterly amazes me of just how childish some people are, heads up ladies there are quite a few newbies who will never learn. Walls up let the true Dom's knight up and conquer your walls with intelligence.
We now return you to the cesspool swim at your own risk. Shit my dog is smarter.
Words from the insane asylum, thanks for taking note.
Good morning everyone or Kalamera, Kalaspera, Kalanychta, good morning, good evening, good night, depending on what time zone you're currently in.
First, let me tell you a quick little story. While working my last job my boss and I was with a new employee one day, and we were working in one of the many buildings we serviced. This young man, overheard my conversation with my boss, and made the comment "you guys are married you are guaranteed pussy every day". This made both of us to laugh out loud about how inexperienced this kid was to life and to women in general. Reminded me of the old saying, young dumb, and full of cum.
Wisdom: the soundness of action or decision with regard to the application of knowledge, experience and good judgment.
Wisdom is something learned over time, you just don't wake up one day with all the answers.
Now, experience can be achieved in a shorter amount of time with the proper training, think learning to flip burgers at McDonald's, a lot of people have done this job. This does not take years of knowledge, training, and experience like many other jobs require.
So what is my point? In this lifestyle what do you seek, wisdom, experience, or both? Do you seek a Dom that has crafted his skill over many years through knowledge, experience, and/or observation. Do you seek a Dom that has had many subs that claims experience? Do you want a sub knowledgeable and experienced or one you train from day one? This is all up to the individual on what they seek as far as preference. I know what I was looking for and found it.
Now let's talk seriously about observation. Ask yourself, do you have a good observation skill or do you just skim the cliff notes to this lifestyle?
In May of this year I will have been around for 2 years, time flies when you're having fun. In this short time I have used the wisdom, knowledge, and experience to find what I was looking for. Took me less than two months after countless messages, profile reading, and observations to find my beautiful lioness. We have had our share of hard times, her being sick for months, me not feeling well, bills, stress from life and from family, but in the end it's all good.
I have observed lately with reading blogs, seeing profiles, hearing about imploded relationships, to those I wish to extend a heartfelt hug. That said every good relationship starts with honesty, plain and simple, if you lie it dies. It takes a lot of communication, a lot of questions, and it take's a lot of patience, especially if its long distance. It's not all sugar and spice, it's about blood sweat and sometimes tears that make any relationship a great one.
Now let me offer some wisdom, knowledge, and experience, along with observation, for not just the new but the old also if you're making the same mistakes.
1) If no effort was put into writing a profile, how much effort will be put into the relationship? A profile should be the first step in getting to know someone, like meeting a stranger "Hi how are you" it starts a longer conversation.
2) Look at how long they have been here. Did they just joined? Are they saying, "I'm an expert, bow down to me" or "Let me move in, I make a great sub". Ok, let's see your resume with references.
3) If you're going to post pictures make sure they are tasteful. If you're showing everything, maybe shuffle over to FetLife, the craigslist of BDSM. If you're just looking for sex, there are many places to find it. I'm sure it exist here also, but a good portion of you want what is real, not wham bam thank you sir or sub. Explicit pictures should be shared with someone you are intimate with, unless you enjoy showing everything off, then who am I to judge?
4) I cannot stress this enough, ask questions, ask more questions, and ask more fucking questions, it's how we learn. Gather all the knowledge, and make informed decisions.
5) Actions speak louder than words, if they say they're going to do something and they don't, give them a little time, if it doesn't happen ask yourself "how valuable is my time"?
6) Look for the person who fills your life with happiness, and without all the work. If it takes too much work it's just a job, and will not be enjoyable.
Lastly, I will say this, love yourself inside and out, be the person who you want to be, never settle for what you could have had, but be satisfied with what you do have. Don't ever need someone to be happy with in your own life, this you need first and foremost before you welcome someone in you truly want.
Take your time to discover who you truly are before trying to figure what you want and need. Life is too short to waste time on what could have been.
Good day my cage family, I hope this helps. Big hugs and much love.
(Grammar corrected by Hazel, so if there is any mistakes blame me LOL)
I first started cooking when my mother was hospitalized for 2 months at the age of 13 right after my brother died. Didn't cook a lot of things, eggs were easy, grilled cheese,chocolate chip cookies, nothing to difficult. Oh and the kicker was I developed an allergy to eggs a few years later. Imagine having eggs for breakfast, being able to clear a room from the stench and within thirty minutes rushing for the bathroom. Needless to say I quit eating eggs for about 20 years.
After I left work almost 11 years ago, my cooking skills were ok but not what I would say proud enough to entertain a woman over for dinner or host a party. I'm quite sure spaghetti and jarred sauce with frozen meatballs wouldn't win you a second date or something else.
Throughout those years I have had plenty of time to perfect my skills in the kitchen, I started by watching damn near every chef on PBS that didn't make cooking look like a major fiasco, easy to learn but extremely delicious.
My spaghetti sauce is all homemade, along with the meatballs, have even made my own pasta. Make bread on occasion, cakes, pies, cookies, have expanded my foods to dinner party proud.
When her mother was her in August I fed her well enough that she gained about 10 pounds, so when she went back home if we mention what we had or are having for dinner it's met wth a resounding Fuck you.
Now this brings me to last week's menu, Tuesday shrimp risotto, Wednesday marinated flank steak with peas and carrots, Thursday she went shopping, steamed shrimp with old bay, homemade meatballs in her own bbq sauce, 18 full sized chicken wings think drumets and wings tossed with bbq sauce, hot sauce for me. Friday I fried the 2 pounds of bacon she bought, we have enough food to feed a small group of people. Needless to say it's going to be leftovers for the next few days.
Since meeting my beautiful lioness, I've even been doing a few Greek dishes so far her and her mother approve. She is a wonderful cook in her own right and dinner has been quite delicious. Now if I can just get her to let me use the gravy in the bedroom I could do dinner and dessert. ? much love to all. ?
Hello family, hope everyone is fine and survived this first in my lifetime fucked up holiday season. My beautiful lioness has worked every holiday since starting her new job so we celebrate on her day off which kinda is weird. Happy Thanksgiving on what would normally be black Friday and Merry Christmas two days before Christmas is weird.
She's off today so at least we can ring in the new year but works new year's day so it's just me and the fur kids. I will say I'm very grateful for this year, my thoughts are with everyone who hasn't had it that good with the virus or loosing a job, whatever the reason may be, my deepest sympathy for those affected.
It's just this year my beautiful lioness is healthy, no migraines, no hospital emergency room visits, no her sleeping away most of the year. We may not get to spend every minute together but the time we have is special, for that I'm grateful.
Our dynamic is wonderful but the BDSM lifestyle is lacking due to wait for it.......Life and the word is right there in front, how can you betray my style with your four letter word you bastard.
Just remember folks if you don't have the time for a full blown session, holding her arms above her head works well in a pinch also quicker than trying to find the rope in the dark as to not get the new puppy barking, hence ruining the moment. ?
I would like to wish everyone a Happy New Year, here's to 2021 being filled with a cure, plenty of toilet paper, some normal interactions with people that don't involve a tape measure and a mask.
From Lion and Hazel we wish you all the best of luck in the new year.
Merry Christmas to our Cage family, our wishes for everyone to have a safe and wonderful day. We did Christmas on Wednesday since Hazel worked yesterday, works today and the weekend, welcome to retail.
Our day started with me giving her a mini indoor green house so she can get a head start on her vegetables come spring time, a new laptop cover she's been wanting. She got me several packs of new underwear one pack being what can only be described as stripper undies, folks think bags for balls, my reaction which she videoed was met with no, hell no, and not until hell freezes over. Her laughter was the most enjoyable part of the video, also got new socks, yes I like practical stuff, some parts for my bike and sound bar for the tv.
We then dropped off my parents gifts, visited for a few minutes, dropped off gifts for my oldest son and grandchildren, then headed home.
Once home, I cooked a 11lb ham, made green rice casserole, green beans, mashed potatoes and gravy, didn't eat until 10 pm then it was off to bed for Hazel 6AM comes early.
We had my daughter over last night after Hazel got home to give her the gift we got and have dinner.
So Christmas this year has been a little different but I will say its the best Christmas having my beautiful lioness with me. She makes everyday seem like Christmas, I don't need fancy clothes or gifts to make me happy, just her beautiful soul and amazing sense of humor when thinking about me.
Seriously who in there right mind buys a 54 year old as she calls them man panties. Lol
From our family to all Merry Christmas and much love Lion and Hazel.
So last night was interesting, our neighbor got a new puppy just after we got our new puppy slash horse. Our new little bundle of joy absolutely loves her puppy, she will sit by the back door just waiting for her to come out, when she spots her it's time to tear down the back door trying to get out. So last night we were watching dog videos on YouTube and hope spots her new puppy friend, excitement engages Hazel gets up let's the dogs out and goes out with them. I hear her talking with the neighbor and then she's coming back in the house kinda in a hurry, what's going on I asked, she replies she's got one fired up.
Ok, so you all get the picture right in your head this is a woman who I bought a bottle of rum for a year ago and she's had one cocktail from it's still full. I explained to her she needed to take one puff and wait until it kicked in before doing more, ok she said as she went back out.
About 15 minutes later she returns, how much did you have, about 3 or 4 puffs, oh shit I said as I can see the effects kicking in. Back when I was a teenager, you could smoke a whole joint by yourself and get a good buzz going, stand around with friends and go through a couple of joints so everyone got baked.
Back then they didn't have scientists developing new ways to isolate the thc levels making it more powerful in smaller doses, you had to smoke a lot to get high. Fast forward to now, multiple people and companies with better understanding of different strains of marijuana making this stuff quite potent in small doses.
My first time trying some after about 20 some years was a whole joint by myself, holly shit, I literally thought I was going to die. Curled up on the bathroom floor all night, feeling worse than getting shit faced druck minus the vomiting.
I get some from time to time when the pain from my injuries can't be fixed with tylenol or other over the counter medications, it helps but I can't do much for I'm not fond of that queasy feeling it gives me. One puff and wait for it to kick in, then another if need be, along with a cocktail of bourbon and I can usually sleep well without the pain. To much and this stuff makes me tired but also kinda sick feeling so it's hard to sleep.
I'm all for legalization of it, no worse than the alchohol we've had around all these years, like alcohol you either like it or you don't. But like alchohol it needs a warning for those newbies one puff and wait or you may find yourself embarrassed by the pictures in the morning. Lol
I can honestly say I don't think Hazel will be doing much of it, guess I'll see after she sleeps the high off. Getting high with the neighbor, free, trip to McDonald's 14 dollars, seeing her baked priceless. Have a wonderful day my beautiful family, stay safe and happy. ??
Good morning our family, it's been awhile since I last posted an update on life with the Lion and his lioness. So here it is December, wow time does fly when you're having fun or at least thinks it's fun due to a major world wide pandemic. So let's see, we filed our taxes in May and are still waiting for our refund, I refinanced the house, started that in August and just signed the papers last week, I put her on the deed so when she decides to bump me off the house is her's, I never want her to feel like she has no where to call home. Her mother just left after another 3 week visit for Thanksgiving and Hazels birthday, her brother decided to send her out for her birthday but I truly think he wanted his mother gone so he could have some peace and quiet in the house.
The new puppy aka Great Dane is starting to resemble a horse in every way, like they say if it eats like a horse, shit's like a horse it must be a horse. Hazel had a GYOB appointment in October and ask about kids, we have a tele conference in February to see if we can have a child, So the future may include 2 cats 2 dogs and a child, we will need a bigger house. Oh and her mother is talking about moving here so that's another twist in the plot, love her mother but this house isn't big enough for all of us.
Hazel is still hard at work with her job and school, she is a very strong, intelligent women and I couldn't be happier, Christmas shopping for the family is done thanks to her, I still have to get her's after payday comes this week I will never be able to show her how much she means to me but I hope she knows.
Lastly BDSM is great but I will say it's hard when life gets in the way, her work schedule, school home work, me not feeling well some days, our Schedule's passing each other. But when it does seem to align it's pretty damn good, so remember all good thing in life take effort and work but in the end the reward is wonderful.
So to all our family here I say Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, stay safe, play safe, enjoy life with all it's quirks. Love for all Lion and Hazel.
So if hookers do tricks is money classified as the treat?
So do people in BDSM dress normal for halloween?
If religion is so great why does halloween have all the great candy?
Is a pagan ritual like a collaring ceremony? Candles, music and someone on their knees?
Why are people afraid of monsters? have you seen a politician or turned on the news lately?
Is carving a pumpkin some kind of food abuse?
If I trick who comes to my door does this make me the asshole since I was given a choice?
People scared of haunted houses have never truly lived with a pissed off women!
Fear not what's in the dark, Because the assholes are asleep. Daytime is scary as fuck!
It's not what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country, this scares me I have hemorrhoids and am too old to bend over.
P.S. I'm not submissive!!!!
Horror and whore two different things and what you don't want in a mate!
If every time I fill out an online form and it says submit doe's that make me a submissive?
Age old question what came first the egg or the chicken, hell I'm still stuck on over or under with the toilet paper.
Does saying it's five o clock somewhere justify my drinking early in the morning?
If women say size doesn't matter why do they get upset if their wedding ring is not as big as their friends?
Do you think we would learn something if we switched genders for one day?
If Vampires are the undead are Zombies the born again dead?
On a final note are Great Danes dog's or small horses that think they're dogs? It eat's like a horse, drinks like a horse and shit's like a horse so it must be a horse?
To all with love from Lion and Hazel, may you get want you want and not what you deserve unless you have been naughty.
The old saying time flies when you're having fun I do believe is true. Today marks our one year wedding anniversary, hard to believe that just a little over a year ago we were driving through five states to be together and now we are celebrating an anniversary. A lot has happened since then, bought a motorcycle, my beautiful lioness got sick for three months, got a new roof on the house, sold my truck, Corona virus set in, her mother stayed for a month, we got a new puppy. Seems like only yesterday we were talking on the phone and getting to know each other, I personally have a lot of new wonderful memories of our time together. With each passing day I love my lioness so much more, so as each year passes I am grateful that fate or life just happened to put us in the right place at the right time. Big hug to all and love your way from lion and Hazel. ❤??
If you smack a right ass cheek are you obligated to smack the left so it doesn't feel left out? I have to I like symmetry.
Do you have to always properly tie a knot or can you just fudge it if it holds?
Is it ok for a Dom to claim he's tired if he's just not in the mood?
Why don't sex shops have home delivery like grub hub?
Why still is the ratio of hot dogs and buns not the same?
If the world was flat would it be easy to dig a hole to china?
Are clothes pins the very first nipple clamp?
Why is bacon so damn good but so much of a pain to make? (I want bacon in a bag delivered).
If every man's cum tasted like the worlds best chocolate and a women's pussy was like his favorite alcohol would there be nothing but oral sex?
Why isn't there a support group for Horney men, do they think we don't have it hard?
Ok I'll give it a rest. Hope all is well and good for everyone, Now 2 weeks with our new puppy, she is sweet but like having a child with four legs. Weather is getting to look more like fall everyday and the furnace just kicked on so I will say it's here. Hazel is doing well with her new job, the hours are retail so we see each other at strange time's but we make it work. Can't believe our one year anniversary is coming up, seems like yesterday, been through quite a bit in the last year. Big Hug to all and love from Lion and Hazel.