taxi's ladies

     This is the time of year when I send all the ladies away for there mental health. you see I am very demanding of them both behind and outside and they sometimes get overburdened but they, being women will not recognize this so I send them on vacation sometime together sometimes alone. you see when you are constantly together it can get on your nerves. this year they chose to go together so the are in Creat with sir john my apprentice. I am home on the ranch with the kids and my two oldest surviving subs this is a slow time for work so I can handle it alone. but damn I miss their smiles in the morning.

     Over the next few days, I will do a series of blogs telling what I have learned from my sub's, yes you learn as well as teach as a dom sometimes depending on how you look at it the dom learns more.        

why are contact so important to the old school I will attempt to explain any question after this ask I will try to go further in-depth. when you take a sub under consideration you use a training contract for both parties protection you for legal protection. and them for mental, emotional and physical protection. it will have the compensation clearly defined as well as the term of training and whether this is for you or for someone else. example: some have come to me to get a taste to see if it is something they wish to really learn about. others are normally couples who wish to see if it is a way for them to grow closer. (that is a good one for me because by training them both I do not have to touch the sub I can leave that to there partner and make sure they both understand the risks and advantages at the same time). most couples are surprised that a great deal of time is spent in talking between each other with me only inputting when they come up with something the is too advanced for them at the time and suggesting a road to reach that point when both are ready. 

now let me explain bullet points in my current contract. Remember this is only my contract non-negotiable points that I am listing.

1) both parties must agree the punishment is valid and needed.

2) any children are to stay in the custody of the father.

3) if you decide that you wish to leave you will receive a one-time settlement based the number of years of service

4) if after leaving if you wish to come back you will be welcomed. 

these are the 4 basic non-negotiable rules there are other rules that are negotiated between each of my subs and I but you get the idea the contract once signed is the lifeblood of domestic harmony.  any questions feel free to ask (those that are taken by someone get his or her permission before asking. if you see a capital 😱 they are answered by me all others are answered by one of my subs.                  

I am being serious it takes a few years before you are ready there are no shortcuts in learning. First and foremost do you want the responsibility of taking a submissive under you? Second, can you handle the responsibility? because make no mistake the real name of the game when all is said a done is RESPONSIBILITY. You and no one else is responsible. She may earn money and be good at it but it is you who is responsible for paying the bills. You see here is where too many messes up they are not really ready to pay for there subs as well as themselves. They think it is all whips and chains and no responsibility. Well, I am here to tell you D/s is even more work then a vanilla relationship. now I will give you a list of things that you will need. 1) you will need a mentor to tell you all the things you miss I suggest strongly someone who has 20 years' experience. 2) you will spend a good deal of money learning classes are not cheap 3) practice practice practice for the rest of your life. 3) take advanced first aid and keep it up to date and relevant. I will suggest classes in rope under a master of rope, I will also learn for a normal restraint master ( remember even leather cuffs can cause damage.) now let us discuss instruments of punishment there are so many I will not attempt to list them all so let us go with impact play pretty standard right, wrong each instrument is different and you should know each one before you use it on a sub remember she is trusting you to know how to inflict pain without damage. and don't take it that a crop will handle the same as a flail or a whip they are all different and handle differently so here it comes PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE. you will also have a need for a lawyer they will draw up the contract you use for both one in training to be your sub and if you are lucky to find the one or ones the bonding contract. Maby I will do a blog on contract importance for our lifestyle. we will see. you should have a good doctor who understands the lifestyle and will not be calling the police all the time. Don't laugh it been known to happen more than once If you have done all this and you think you are ready I would recommend going and spending time at a commercial dungeon and talking to the owner she will have someone who will let you practice and will help you with fine-tuning your technic now you may go looking for the right one. remember this is the best advice I can give you if you are a couple thinking of getting into this together seek advice and training with another experienced couple there are several right here. who have offered their advice take them up sub to sub and dom to dom!       

NOTE; if you have reached this point let me tell you one of your primary jobs is to listen to her never, never ignore her.                           

 It is the hardest thing to do and therefore takes the most time to adjust too. At least I have found this to be true with the ladies in my life. Try to understand I am not talking about the sexual end of my lifestyle I am talking about the day too, day. 

It starts when she first realizes that her life would be much easier if she had someone else making the decisions especially the big ones. Now every woman I ever met who was not a domme has this little girl dream of the knight coming to her aid just in the nick of time. And this makes them vulnerable to the sharks but it also makes them open to the true Dom. As the true dom, you must recognize this and make sure that your potential sub understands your true intentions from the beginning, many doms just have a need to help they can't help themselves it comes with the RESPONSIBILITY gean as I call it. But she may not be a suitable sub for you no matter how hard they try, as such there are certain rules that a dom must follow 1) Never let her beauty and brains interfere with your mind 2) Never promise unless you can deliver and that includes those words that promise as I love you. 3) Never take her unless you intend on keeping her.

If you follow these rules for the first 6-8 months when you do decide to take her as your own there should be enough trust between you that you can tell her what you require from her this is what I call the long talk because remember this is not vanilla love. You are asking her to surrender control of her life to you. DOM's: you had better of thought long and hard about this before you have gotten to this point. I will cover the old school dom. in a future blog. once she consents to submit to you then your life will change forever from that point forward she has laid down her burden and expects you to pick it up and carry it, choose your words carefully because she will expect you to keep your word this is easy to say or write as the case may be but it can be much more difficult to do so be ready for the bumps in the road. I have found that women can be the most unforgiving of you. So I have found there must be a safe place or time to talk openly as time and trust increase this will be used less and less IF you listen and come to workable solutions to the problems that any relationship encounters and believe me being the dom will not cover all problems remember you have hopefully freely chosen to submit to this person but there are some things that he just can't solve they are your problems for you to deal with and solve.                          

                                                                                killing my demons 

As I lay on sirs lap, he tells me that I am going to be very sore for the next couple of weeks. we are going to go riding and you will be coming with me. 

Did you know there is an entire world most know nothing about? the day we left Jane said to use Bella she needs the exercise plus she and warhorse (that is sirs horse) have a bond and she accepts the wolf as a friend. sir helped me into the saddle and adjusted the tack to fit my legs. We rode for two days and yes I was sore as hell on the third-day sir stopped and welled Sargent ____ you have a supply run waiting. outwalks this beast of a man with Wolf at his side and he says sorry sir but Wolf would not let me up or stop licking me. he laughed and said good, she thinks you need a bath too. 

After being introduced to this man we went to his cave where he has been living for the last 25 years. Talking to him I discovered he has what is called p.t.s.d. but it is so severe that he can't live around most people for there safety, not even his family could help now I see why sir brought me along. I thought I had it bad mine was nothing compared to his I at least did not try to kill people that rubbed me wrong. Any way sir filled him in on his investments and he was surprised how much sir had made for him. he said what good is it that was when sir suggested getting some things to make the cave nicer and warmer in the winter. he also told him one of his kids just had another kid going to college would he like to help with tuition or living expenses. this is what sir does he finds those who we owe and makes sure they have what they need. he told him that the V.A. wants to verify he is still alive so he will have to come in to get a check-up and have his prescriptions renewed just call when he decided to come into town and he will make the arrangments.

when we left the next day we went to the nearest town and sir talked to the chief of police to make sure he was left alone when he made his appearance. when the chief said he wasn't too happy sir said well you will be a lot more unhappy if you get fired the Mayer of the town served with this man and I'm sure he would be very unhappy if things went wrong for him. proving again its all on who you know.                         

                                                                             the monster hunter 

This is a little thing I wrote on another site long ago about a sub that I learned a lot from and taught me an important part of being a dom.

I was still young in both age and lifestyle I think around 25 and still under the tutelage of a master when this young girl fell into my lap she was mentally and emotionally messed up. and I went to my master and told him about her and the fact that I was not sure I could help her. Do you know what he said to me "it's too late now she trusts you and has asked for help you are obligated to help you are the dom we don't get to choose the easy ones that's not what a man does he takes what is given and works  through it probably will not last but when she chooses to move on she will be better then when she came"

This was my ah s*** moment,  he was right, there is no such thing as being too much, relationships take work even in the vanilla world over the next 2 years I worked on finding all the monsters of her past helping her to either tame them or removing them from her life. Was there much s/m in the teaching and learning yes more then I liked but sometimes to remove pain, to the soul pain must be used. Her problems ranged from the full gambit emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. I said she was a mess. she had lost any control over herself and her life she was dead inside and felt that sex was all she was good for so she used that in exchange for room and board. It took about 6 months to get her up to where she could accept the fact the yes the brain she had was capable of learning and becoming a value to herself and the rest of the world. The next 18 months were spent on her learning to control her monsters at the end of her time with me she had worked hard and I guided her picked her up when she fell down cuddled or beat her when it was needed. today she is a leader in the profession and getting ready to retire herself and asked if she could come around. She does not need me she has been with the same woman for twenty years now. and her mate wants to meet me and thank me for giving her the best thing in her life.                     THAT, MY FRIENDS, IS REALLY THE BEST REWARD ANY DOM CAN EXPECT IN LIFE THE HAPPINESS OF A SUB YOU TRAINED.                 

                                                                               facing my demons 

This happened about a month after the last installment in that time I have watched sir with my daughter he teaches as well as play with her, she has fallen in love with her new daddy. This, in turn, has had an effect on me. Mabey for the first time in my life I am looking at a man in a different way as a companion, not as a source of good sex or a good time.

I walked into sir office and asked if he had the time he looked up and said, Stacy, I will always make the time whether I have it or not my job is to be there when you need me. good then can you tell me why you haven't taken me to bed? He stood up and walked over to the couch sat down and told me to come put my head on his lap while we talked. I did what he asked I looked up at him and he asked how do you feel looking up at me like this. I told him I'm comfortable but I feel something is wrong with it, good he said now I am going to tell you some things when I had Mari and Sue they were with my subs I was making love to my subs they were just along for the ride. Now let's talk about you he put his hand on my stomach and I put my hand on his. he talked very softly while looking in my eyes and said you are the mother of my child but you are not my sub that is first and second when you really enjoy looking up at me it becomes something you look forward to you will have become something else you do know what you are right. I closed my eyes and said yes and he said open your eyes look at me and say it it's time you stopped hiding it from yourself I started to cry because I was ashamed I am a slut. yes you are but understand something that day when you can say it with a smile and know that when you say it to me I feel proud of you because you know deep inside you feel the love from me and not what you think other uneducated fools think. Stacy, you are beautiful, vibrant, smart the mother of my child and most important of all worth more than all the gold in Ft. Knox to us. Then you will be taken by me and be held out in public as another of my greatest success stories being better than all who aspire to be what you are. you will be one of Sir James ladies the absolute perfection of feminine perfection.           

                                                learning about life, love, and commitment from my daughter 

I had another idea for this blog but something just told me to start here.

My daughter woke me at 5 am come on mom or we will be late. Late for what I asked, the exercise of course. So dressed in sweat pants and shirt off we went. When we got to the main house sir was just serving bagels and coffee to the girls of the ranch. Know we are not all his subs but we all seem to enjoy morning work out. After coffee and half a bagel, out we go first to start, weight training next was yoga Jane led us in basic stretches before going on to more advanced she has been doing it for years and for 68 is very limber (all right she is amazing to watch) after that we went on a run nothing major just enough to feel winded (that is easy to get when you are running at 8 thousand ft) then back to the ranch for breakfast. This morning was eggs benedict with sliced ham, home fries, and asparagus eather raw or roasted. plenty of milk, coffee. and biscuits. (s*** smart strong and he can cook I'm lost lol). This being a Saturday we did not have much to do so we went out to the pool in the morning Ann and Jen where nude and getting sun little one paid no attention and hopped in the pool I laid under the shade, (I have that kind of skin I freckle and burn) we ladies just started to talk when Jane came out dressed for riding and sir came out of the barn leading the biggest horse I have ever seen my daughter ran up to it scares me to death and hold her hands out wide this beast lowers his head and lets her hug it. the other horse is pure white. Then this wolf also white comes charging over and my little girl just hugs it too and scratches her behind the ears while the wolf laid down to role on its back. 

Let me paint you a picture if I can here is my little girl rubbing a wolfs belly and at the same time rubbing the face of a horse that must out weight her by 2000 lbs and kissing the nose of a wolf whose K9s are long enough to go right through her arm. out walks the lady of the manor all 5'5" 110 lbs wearing leather pants and vest with an old-style revolver on her hip and the barrel come down to her knee sir puts her in the saddle and adjusts the stirrups. then climbs on this monster of pure black two rifles on the horse two pistols on his hips and they ride off with her in the lead and him behind like this shadow of death following behind. It was like something out of an old western where the gunslinger who was hired to escort some rich man's wife to him. wolf pacing next to jane like she was the most valuable thing in the world. we all just looked at each other like we want that fairytale. Then it dawns, we are here to possibly have that fairytale.                     

                                                                         If you answered that question

Then you know, if he told me to strip and walk down the main street offering sex to everyone you know you would do it.

When I walked into that room and was introduced and then heard my daughters voice for the first time in a year yelling "MOMMY" you know how I felt my heart was in my mouth my lungs stopped working my eyes opened wide and I started to cry. When I could stop hugging her and I could look up at this mans eyes and saw compassion you are damn right I swore him my submission. And do you know what he did he smiled and helped me up put his arms around me and said "don't even go there for the next several weeks I want you to take her hand and love her and do everything you can to reassure her that she will never have to go away again" he then turned to see to his guests when little one tugged his pants he turned and she said I'm sorry I did not really believe you when you said that I would see mommy soon. can I ask how long do we have together, he turned got down on one knee and said for the next 20 25 years or until you find your mate? that's how long. She thought about this for a minute then smiled gave him a hug and said thank you, daddy, when I looked around the room Jane waved me over to a little love seat to sit with her. when I sat she just smiled and said welcome home dear. We sat and talked just small talk all of a sudden little one got up and walked over to sir put her hand in his and waited for him to stop talking to who he was talking to and he looked at her got down on one knee and listened to what she asked he shook his head yes then she asked something else he thought a minute and said no. When she came back I asked what she said and she told me I asked if I could stay with you tonight and he said yes but when I asked if he would stay with us he said no not tonight. I looked at Jane she just smiled and said he will not sleep with you until he knows you love him and he is sure it's not gratitude he did not adopt her for that he did it to fix a problem as he saw it. We left a little while later she hugged Jane walked over to sir again took his hand and kissed him goodnight. yes I admit I was already half sold on this man, but it was what I saw and how he treated me over the next few weeks that captured my heart. He treated me with respect and honor that I felt I did not deserve after losing custody of my daughter. He simply said about it P.T.S.D is hard enough to handle as a man it can be much harder to handle as a woman who is raised on the more genteel side of town. What was done, was done and this is a new world for you and the past while not forgotten because we can not forget we can learn to live and enjoy what life has brought us.            

                                                                                   MY STORY

Like most who come to this lifestyle, my story is both complicated and easy to understand. I know that Mari gave you a small glimpse into me but I hope to give you a better understanding of who I am and who this remarkable man who I call sir is. 

As you can tell by his introduction here on the blogs he is more comfortable talking about us then he is about himself fine if that is what sir wants that is what sir gets, but he has given us the freedom to tell our stories the way we want, so here goes.

 It started about 4 years ago when I was approached by Sue she told me of a man who wanted to buy the company we worked for and asked me if I could find out what I could about him you see that my job I can find anything ever written about an individual I want to as long as it is part of the public domain. What I found was the story of a man who built a company and later companies that made money and grew out of the public interest but always gave as good as they got. But he would sell them as soon as they become known, as far as the one time he ran afoul of the law the circumstances leading to it were, in my opinion, understandable (what would you really do if you faced the man who killed both the woman you loved and your unborn child) yes he lost it, yes he did some damage to the man but he was judged temporarily insane ( it took five much larger men to stop and restrain him) and several weeks in the hospital under both restraint and heavy drugs). This told me just how deeply this man loved. So yes if this man said he wanted to buy the company and change and stop the things that were happening I went along with both Sue and Debs assessment of the man. 

Now let's move on to the day I actually this man, he walked into the company as if he owned it, well he did. He had a big smile on his face. Before he went into the conference room he turned to us and said yes, there will be changes but none of them involve loss of pay or jobs so relax I'll get back to you later after the meeting. When he entered the conference room and closed the door this petite redhead with an awsome compact body who I thought I recognized came in with about 10 very big security guards she turned to Sue and Debs and kissed them and they signaled me to freeze the computer system and follow them into the C.E.O.'s office. That was when I met Jane she introduced herself as Mr. M's sub, not wife, not girlfriend his Sub. I think Mari went over the sequence of the takeover and the trip to the ranch. so I am going to leave this part of the story with a question ( what would you give to the man who gave you back your child?)