There it is, the eternal image of the thing we all seek, the Holy Grail. Yet for us it is not some omnipotent chalice hidden deep in some dark cavern, protected by Angels through the millenniums, to be approached only by the most worthy and true.
For us it is the unified power of two into one, the heart and soul tested forging and melding of the "True Bdsm Dynamic". When two people, Dominant and Submissive, form bonds so deep, love so true, a mutual need so great, that their differences transform into their power. Where age and time no longer have the power to control them, where weakness is turned to strength, loneliness and fear into belonging and safety. And just as in the image above, their power surrounds them, protects them, sustains them throughout time and life, and when they leave this planet, the creator himself will look upon what he has made with great joy and welcome them home.
So where is it? How is it found? how is it formed? The answers to these questions are different for each of us, for each dynamic is an original creation, as unique as a snowflake gently falling to the Earth. We refer to our roles in the quest as "Dominant" and "Submissive", yet I suggest to you that to find the Holy Grail, we must each be both. I will use "he" as dominant and "she" as submissive from this point, because that is my reality. They can be interchanged in your mind dear reader if it so suits you.
Yes, the main role of the Dominant is to guide, to protect, to nurture, to teach, to love, and to respect. But in the filling of that role come acts of submission as well. He must be willing to surrender his past, accept his future, submit if you will his deepest fears and weaknesses into the care of another, the only things he knows he cannot rule, control, or protect once truly exposed. His Achilles heel if you will... his love, heart, soul, and unending need for her in his life, and he must trust her with all his heart not to abuse or misuse it. He must be willing to expose these weaknesses to another, reveal all there is to reveal, and trust that the dynamic will embrace and protect. The Grail cannot be found without this act of submission in my humble opinion. But what of her?
Yes her role is one of submission, and they both know and have agreed upon what level that will exist upon. So you ask, how must she be dominant? Yes, she has given her submission to him, to hold and protect but she also has been given a charge equally or perhaps even greater than his. She holds in her hands the very heart of the warrior, every weakness in his armor exposed to the core, the very blueprints of how he may be destroyed in the cruelest manner possible. And she must care for it, protect it, nurture it, reinforce it when needed through her own act of submission. In the dark silent hours of the night, when his own fears creep in upon him, she must be there to reassure him of his role, and that he has done his part well, and that his own acts of submission are well placed and safe. Again, I submit to you the Grail cannot be found without it.
And it is through these acts of submission and dominance that the "True Dynamic" forms it's power. It embraces them both, the power flowing freely between them, bonding them equally, surrounding them with an impenetrable shield that no power could possibly penetrate, and no Creator would want to. I do not mean this to be a comprehensive guide to your journey, merely points of consideration for your quest.
We, unaccustomed to courage
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.
Love arrives
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls.
We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love's light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free.
Maya Angelou
