Indigo Blue

Hello Indigo fans

  Today I just want to share a story. So my Dom and I have formed such a special bond that our relationship has extended into the vanilla world. We recently went on a trip to a beautiful botanical gardens. We took along 2 of my 3 girls so they can get to know mom's new boyfriend. After doing a snack run to the drug store(I also needed my diabetic supplies) we went back to the hotel to rest. My girls took all the bags to their room across the hall. My Dom is very involved in my health. He is even linked to my Libre, a diabetic blood sugar monitoring system. For some reason my sensor was malfunctioning so I needed to check my sugar manually. Thumper he says in a calm voice you need to check your sugar. I said ok but didn't move. NOW he said. I looked at him and said I will in a minute I have to go across the hall and get the bag with my strips from the girls. A few minutes pass  and he said have you checked it yet. I replied no, I haven't gone to get the bag with the strips. He counted from 5 to 1, walked over to me bent me over pulled down my pants and spanked my ass. I gathered myself and went to get the strips to check my sugar as instructed. I sat quietly for a while..then he said come sit on daddy's lap. I did as I was told. He said Baby your health is very important to me. I care for you deeply, but when you are a brat like that I can't let you get away with it. I nodded my head yes in agreement. He kissed my forehead and said "I love you babygirl" So what did I learn... Do what Daddy says and I won't get a sore ass lol.💁🏽‍♀️

Smootches 

Indigo

Hello everyone,

Let's talk about the two "F"s...Friendship vs Fucking. Some people enter into a relationship with one of these two Fs in mind. Either you want to take the time and get to know people first. To create a Friendship or you fake like you give a shit just to have a quick fuck. In our search for a playmate we have discovered there are more of the latter than the first. Our intention is to form a bond and trust. That is important in any D/s relationship. If you don't then that's how things get out of hand and either people get hurt, physically and mentally. Possibly they are so willing to please the Dom that they do things that they really don't want to do and have such a bad experience that it scares them for life. It's important to have compatibility over chemistry. Some people enter a relationship with the mindset they just want to try it out get a quick fuck or suck and move on. Anyone that reads my profile knows the first sentence says honesty is the best policy. Don't waste my time or other people's time if you read their ad or profile and know what they are looking for but you feel you can push your own agenda to get what you want and bounce or ghost someone. In a vanilla relationship I am no cheap trick. Definitely not one in my D/s lifestyle either. Let's be kind and respectful to one another's feeling and desires. There are plenty of people out looking for the quick first time experience. Sex without personalization. We are just not the ones.

Hello all,

  So I have been talking to a lot of newbies lately. Men and women subs that are not sure of where they fit in this lifestyle. I know what it's like to have these feelings inside and don't know what to do with them. To not be able to talk to someone about them for fear of being judged. Race and or religion makes you feel like you are a freak of nature. Well I am here to tell you...YOU ARE NOT.....well you might be a freak but not of nature lol. The feelings you have inside are fine. Explore and enjoy life. Take your time and do your research. Talk to other Dom and Subs, but remember your experience will be yours. They can give you an out line, but you must fill in the space. The right Dom or Sub is out there for you. DON'T SETTLE FOR THE FIRST ONE. My Master says ultimately the sub is in control. They set the tone and limits. He is so smart, that's why he is mine lol.

Smootches

Indigo

Sorry Indigo Fam I had to take a quick break from blogging due to health issues.....but I am back! 

Today's topic is the Little in me......

Like I have stated before I have always known I was a submissive, but I never knew I was a little. My Dom said to me one day "You have the characteristics of a little" I asked was that a bad thing. He replied "No, because you are already my brat" 🤔🤔🤔🤔 it got me thinking. What does it mean to be a little.....how does this factor into our play time without being creepy. For us it's as simple as a "Gif" when we text and the way he addresses me when we are together. When he or I are playing the Daddy/little role he addresses me as baby girl or I will send him the girl kitten from the Aristocats movie. When we are in normal Dominant/submissive sex play i will send him the girl bunny from Bambi or he will addres me as Thumper. This works for us very well. I would like to hear from you all. Do you switch up like this and how do you go about differentiate between the roles. Your input may help someone out there that is on the fence or confused with the feeling they are having. Let's change lives together ❤ 

Peace 

Indigo

First I would like to thank everyone that is following and commenting on my blogs. I have been a writer on hiatus for years. This forum has inspired me to get back into doing what I love. 

So today's topic is an interesting one. I recently did a blog about trusting your partner/Dominant and understanding that you let what happened in the past keep you from enjoying that same things you feared. Your new person may have a better understanding of your needs and feeling. They can execute the activity in a way that will bring you pleasure not pain....no matter what the activity is. 

Well my friends i am here to tell you I am being sort of a hypocrite. My Dom wants to introduce using a cane. I have never had anyone use a cane with me before, but I can't seem to get past the fact that in other countries they use canes as extreme punishment. I don't see why he wants to use one so bad. I need your help. Please chime in Dom or Subs and share your experience so i may understand better. Yes this topic is approved by my Dom. 

Peace 

Indigo

So i have been going through some complications after my Thyroid removal in the beginning of July. Currently back in the hospital after a second surgical procedure last night. Needless to say i have had time on my hands. I am a weirdo, even in the hospital I think about sex lol. With that being said, today I would like to discuss anal sex. 

I never liked anal sex because the first time I encountered it, my partner shoved it in my ass. No lube no notice just did it. I felt pain like I had never felt before. I prayed for him to finish and what seemed like forever finally ended .....i cried  i felt raped. The sad part was it was my husband. I felt helpless. After my marriage ended I had a couple of guys want to try anal, but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. The flash back kept me from going forward. When I meet my Dom I told him what happened and my fears. He asked me to give him the chance to show me that it can be a pleasurable experience, but only when the time is right. Well the time came. He made sure I was very relaxed and comfortable 😌. It was amazing 👏 😉. I even asked him to do it again. I share this to say you should always keep an open mind about things. Carrying baggage from another situation can keep you from having a good experience with your new partner. I wanted to especially post this to help Submissives that have had bad experiences, I have meet a couple recently. The right person can make a positive impact on your life. Just give them a chance. As my Dom says "It should be pleasure for us both, not just me because I am you Master" I adore My Dom, My Master, and My King.

Peace 

Indigo

My Dom and I are both 49, I guess you would call that "Middle age". I call it in our prime. We recently decided that his Thumper needs a playmate....a "Bambi". So the search began. The ad went up here and a couple of other sites. Although it has only been about a week we noticed some very realistic facts. 1 most of your single ladies are younger and underexposed to the lifestyle. According to their profiles most have seen 50 Shades and think 🤔 hey i want to do that...This is aggravating. I like to think that this lifestyle is a natural thing. I feel I was born this way. For as far back as I can remember I knew I was different. I think i may have been 10 when I found my uncles playboy magazine and 14 when I saw my first porno. I have been writing erotica since I was 15. Not able to find the right person to help me explore how I felt. I was a young black catholic raised girl. That was a recipe for taboo all the way around. I ramble to say i believe it's a calling not just oh I want to do it cause it looked cool. The 2nd thing we have learned is most of the 30 and up crowd have found their Dom/Sub and are looking for a 3rd or they want a poly relationship. What happen to good old fun. Hanging out learning each other possible play time. Is this an outdated concept or are the single gals too shy. Just the rantings of a frustrated sub

Life has taught me many things. One very important thing I have learned and implemented over the last couple of years is never judge a book by its cover. I would like to share my thoughts and personal experiences with you to help expand your thought process, perhaps the person you seek Dom/Sub/Slave/Switch/Playmate/Little/ Rope bunny

Has been out there and you missed the opportunity to get to know them better because of a preconceived notion or looking for that"type". Attraction comes in many forms. I am sure you have heard the saying "it's what's on the inside that counts"....this is true! I will share a Conversation I had with my Dom to give you an example:

First let me share I am a 49 yr old black sub/little

My Dom is a 49 yr old Mexican 

I never had anyone from another race show interest in me. When I joined The Cage I had 57 responses in 2 days. All different races and countries, It was amazing. My Latinobrusier stood out amongst them all. I clicked on his profile. I studied his picture for a moment. I thought...hummmm kinda cute not sure though because of all the hair( yes he is super hairy) the first thing that came to my mind was what motorcycle gang was he in. Rotflmao, I can laugh about it now because it was far from the truth. I still continued to chat with him though because our conversation were great. I saw him for the wonderful man that he is ......and i am going to say it. That picture did not do him justice my Master is a hunk! The amazing thing is I didn't have a picture of me up at the time. He showed interest without seeing me. We got to know each other on blind faith. I must say when I finally did send him a picture he was not disappointed. 

So i share this to say when you are roaming through the ads looking for that special someone. Don't be so quick to dismiss a possible match based on a profile picture or lack there of. Give everyone a chance.

Smootches

Indigo