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The Lost Art of True Femininity in The West.

Dude… just… no… don’t… get a therapist.

Fri Mar 20, 2026 8:04 am • 24 Replies • 6124 Views

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SubStanChill

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Generally Speaking

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The Lost Art of True Femininity in The West.

The Parts We Don’t Show Anyone

I think sometimes is less about being willing to tell the person you trust most and more not being able to articulate it accurately.

Often I’ll tell things to my therapist that I want to tell my w ...

Thu Mar 05, 2026 2:46 pm • 10 Replies • 2506 Views

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SubStanChill

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Lifestyle BDSM

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The Parts We Don’t Show Anyone

Cloud nine

Satisfaction in not being satiated. The shrodinger’s cat of being a sub. I love that feeling. You’re a lucky gal.

Sun Mar 01, 2026 8:49 am • 2 Replies • 784 Views

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SubStanChill

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Generally Speaking

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Cloud nine

Just 4 fun: Sexy word game. Rules: Must be a sexy word.

Yearning

Sun Mar 01, 2026 8:45 am • 6722 Replies • 1900126 Views

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SubStanChill

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Just for Fun

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Just 4 fun: Sexy word game. Rules: Must be a sexy word.

Is this a kink or just D/s in general?

I don’t think it’s just a normal side of being dominant. I love when my dominant shares what they enjoy about the dynamic as well. The trust being built goes both ways.

Sat Feb 28, 2026 12:50 am • 16 Replies • 2773 Views

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SubStanChill

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Generally Speaking

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Is this a kink or just D/s in general?

Correction/Punishment ideas for sub not showing enough appreciation for my selfies.

When I technically meet the criteria but not the standard, it’s more of a carrot than stick approach for my wife. In a situation like this… she would tell me what treat I would’ve received had I resp ...

Thu Feb 26, 2026 11:54 am • 14 Replies • 4491 Views

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SubStanChill

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Femdom

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Correction/Punishment ideas for sub not showing enough appreciation for my selfies.

Wanting to Switch

I think there are some that believe the roles are innate. While I do think there is some roles that we feel more natural in, that doesn’t mean the roles are static. People grow, change and explore. ...

Thu Feb 26, 2026 12:48 am • 1 Replies • 529 Views

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SubStanChill

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Lifestyle BDSM

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Wanting to Switch

How do I do this?

Breath. Take your time. Build trust first with people then reveal what you wish to explore. If you are inviting someone you trust on a journey that you don’t know the ending over, you’d be surprised h ...

Wed Feb 25, 2026 8:59 am • 8 Replies • 1527 Views

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SubStanChill

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Absolute Beginners

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How do I do this?

Edging vs Ruined Orgasm

Think of it like going out for ice cream. Edging is constantly tasting free samples but never actually getting to eat a full satisfying bite.

A ruined orgasm is like getting a full cup and eating ...

Tue Jan 06, 2026 1:19 pm • 9 Replies • 1764 Views

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SubStanChill

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Generally Speaking

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Edging vs Ruined Orgasm

I'm completely new to all this, just asking a question.

Try to worry less about whether your interest and actions are normal, and focus on your morals and principles. And yes consent is paramount. That said, with your partner, go a bit further and focus on ...

Tue Jan 06, 2026 2:26 am • 15 Replies • 2919 Views

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SubStanChill

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Absolute Beginners

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I'm completely new to all this, just asking a question.