Books

The Society of Janus maintains a list of essential reading.

https://soj.org/resources/suggested-reading/

Thu Jan 07, 2021 6:42 pm • 7 Replies • 1892 Views

Why are dominant women the smallest demographic in BDSM?

From my observation it’s a two fold situation.
1. Sub men tend to harass the crap out of dominant women. It seems they tend not to take no for an answer. So dominant women tend to stay off or lock d ...

Wed Jan 06, 2021 5:01 am • 47 Replies • 17984 Views

Do you think...

Once, out of curiosity, I looked up kink events in the small, conservative city that I grew up near--and found three different regularly scheduled BDSM munches happening there!

Needless to say ther ...

Thu Dec 31, 2020 2:39 am • 4 Replies • 2022 Views

Responding

I'll tell you a magical trick for getting responses to your messages.

I started getting responses about five times more often as soon as I really, truly, completely stopped thinking I was entitled ...

Mon Dec 28, 2020 8:32 pm • 18 Replies • 5605 Views

Is adultery a kink for many people ?

Cuckolding and cuckqueaning are essentially consensual adultery, and they're well-established fetishes with online forums with tens of thousands of members, plenty of points dedicated to them, writeup ...

Sun Dec 06, 2020 10:08 pm • 29 Replies • 8243 Views

What are your favorite BDSM erotic fiction novels?

The Marketplace series, by Laura Antoniou. Antoniou has a lot of genuine wisdom about kink, and it comes through in her stories.

Wed Dec 02, 2020 9:32 am • 33 Replies • 9553 Views

Hypnotic Suggestion

You're in luck! Hypnosis is a very popular fetish with an active and organized community of participants. There are whole conferences devoted to it, like the New England Erotic Hypnosis Conference (ht ...

Tue Dec 01, 2020 7:10 pm • 3 Replies • 2436 Views

Inner pain with penetration

A fist.

It gives the top direct tactile feedback on how hard they're pushing, you can tune how much pressure you're creating by changing the shape of your hand, and you can give as much force as sh ...

Mon Nov 23, 2020 11:27 pm • 2 Replies • 1546 Views

Re: Stay at home Dom

Is he still Dominant in other ways besides working?

If a dentist doesn't play volleyball, are they still a dentist in ways besides playing volleyball?

Sun Nov 22, 2020 9:34 pm • 16 Replies • 5581 Views

Sexual health

In order to be able to discuss STDs without the stigma, we need to get away from using the word "clean".

This!

Having an STI doesn't make someone "dirty." But having unexamined prejudices around ...

Tue Nov 17, 2020 8:43 pm • 20 Replies • 7471 Views