What's a Sadist

i think descriptors like "Sadist" or "masochist," like pretty much every other kink moniker, are general terms that need to be individually fleshed out.

i'm not into pain or a lot of what is pract ...

Mon Jan 02, 2023 11:17 pm • 5 Replies • 1406 Views

Re: What do you enjoy more?

So my questions to the sadists and masochists of The Cage:

Sadists:
What do you enjoy more:
Inflicting pain on your sub and watching the suffering?
Or
Knowing that your sub is enduring the ...

Wed Dec 28, 2022 8:03 pm • 22 Replies • 4181 Views

Re: Mental stability

I also have family I dont want to disown me for my feelings(they are heavily religious). Any advice on how to cope would be most welcome.

i do not think there is an easy or simple answer to your ...

Tue Dec 27, 2022 8:22 pm • 6 Replies • 4125 Views

Re: Highly experienced sub struggling on how to introduce, e

I'm a alpha female sub, highly experienced and educated in the life. I was mentored by a bdsm old guard certified Master. I have found the man of my dreams but he has little to no knowledge of bdsm. ...

Tue Dec 27, 2022 4:17 am • 24 Replies • 5203 Views

Water sports yes or no?

Even though I class my self as a sub I am not a Degradee......
Which to me this has elements of and
As i have never experienced this for myself....this is out of my comfort zone and i have trama ...

Mon Dec 26, 2022 9:55 pm • 55 Replies • 12206 Views

C-Section and Hysterectomy question

In healthcare, we use a lot of generalities, but everyone responds individually surgically and to pain. i'm a critical care nurse and work with patients after major surgeries like open heart, etc.. So ...

Sun Dec 25, 2022 4:04 am • 16 Replies • 2354 Views

responsive intrinsic vs independent intrinsic

I totally get where you are coming from, and can oddly enough relate via my panty drawer. Lol.

I am intrinsically motivated to wear cotton under garments because they feel best on my skin, which i ...

Mon Dec 19, 2022 9:58 pm • 2 Replies • 775 Views

responsive intrinsic vs independent intrinsic

Just thinking outloud on this one, formulating and considering as i go.

One of the things i love about being 'different', and being part of a community of 'different' people, is the adventure of di ...

Sun Dec 18, 2022 10:19 pm • 2 Replies • 775 Views

Juggling time between spouse and submissive partner

It's important to note that this started over 3 years ago and was working flawlessly for 2 years. Then as some suggested, emotions got heavier.

I'm sure I could have done better to avoid that f ...

Sun Dec 18, 2022 9:32 pm • 20 Replies • 3887 Views

Juggling time between spouse and submissive partner

Relationship is always complicated: "okay, i'll take two."

A few thoughts to throw into the blender here. i didn't catch if the "other' person is a "she" in your original post... i may have missed ...

Sun Dec 18, 2022 7:55 pm • 20 Replies • 3887 Views