Happiness in a relationship

i think this is a great topic of discussion, i have some thoughts to toss into the mix.

i grew up in an era and culture that was unaccepting of gay people. i grew up when the standard idea was that ...

Tue Nov 01, 2022 5:48 pm • 29 Replies • 4132 Views

Where do our desires stem from?

Idk, just speculating here.

i do think we are a part of nature and that nature demonstrates that opposites attract. Two oppositely charged ions attract, and if there is chemistry, a bond forms (the ...

Wed Oct 26, 2022 3:21 am • 9 Replies • 1769 Views

Red flags or just not cut out for it?

🚩 And watch because he’ll try and get you back if you go away. When a narcissistic piece of shit looses his toy he’ll step it up and be “nice” to get it back.

He sounds highly manipulative and a s ...

Tue Oct 25, 2022 8:04 pm • 34 Replies • 6547 Views

Red flags or just not cut out for it?

Thank you for your reply, it’s really helpful to get an outside perspective. I am very self aware of my own issues and short comings, so I tend to rationalise things as being a ‘me’ problems. I ha ...

Tue Oct 25, 2022 6:47 pm • 34 Replies • 6547 Views

Red flags or just not cut out for it?

From what you have written, to me this relationship goes beyond 'red flag' into abuse. I.e., he abused you. i believe "abuse" can be intentional or unintentional, the latter usually because of ignor ...

Tue Oct 25, 2022 6:07 pm • 34 Replies • 6547 Views

Is it Ghosting when ....

The vague answers always suggested a lack of experience rather than scamming which I am sure happens more to men


i suspect you are right. i'm an older gay guy and i think that puts a target on my ...

Sat Oct 15, 2022 7:14 pm • 34 Replies • 7067 Views

Is it Ghosting when ....

An often annoying (and off-putting) reality of online social communities is scammers. In my experience, scammers are often vague or will leave questions unanswered and that automatically sends up red ...

Sat Oct 15, 2022 4:51 pm • 34 Replies • 7067 Views

Body parts

This thread went an interesting direction with discussion of pics of body parts.

It is interesting to read of the different judgements people make about pictures of body parts. When it comes to s ...

Mon Oct 10, 2022 6:02 pm • 23 Replies • 3939 Views

Helpful hints (hopefully) for profiles and post

I don't see it as an issue with it. I shouldn't have to tell everyone about my identity or sexuality. That's just too weird to me.
"Hey I'm J a straight cis man who is only interested in cis women" ...

Tue Sep 27, 2022 2:40 am • 23 Replies • 3939 Views

Re: Participating in website features out of loneliness/bord

I am not judging anyone when I ask this question. I have researched human communication. In this field, there is something called 'phatic communication,' which refers to a function of language which i ...

Tue Sep 27, 2022 12:07 am • 15 Replies • 4629 Views