Lingerie

As a total bottom gay guy, it depends... on my Top. i am not 'fem' or even, apparently, stereotypically gay. It seems i am always having to "come out" to people, particularly women who ask me out on d ...

Sun Nov 14, 2021 9:17 pm • 53 Replies • 26289 Views

Caregivers/Caretakers label, what does it mean?

As with other (all?) kink labels, i think The label is a starting place and the true ingredients are discovered through opening the package.

i'm a critical care nurse. It's a comparatively new ca ...

Sun Nov 14, 2021 7:25 pm • 7 Replies • 5006 Views

Re: Dom vetting - why or why not?

It seems that meeting a quality person online is uncertain at best and ghosting is a daily occurrence. Given the online failure rate, I am curious about the practice of an experienced Dom vetting pote ...

Sun Nov 14, 2021 6:10 pm • 46 Replies • 15835 Views

What makes you ignore messages on here?

As others have noted, having no profile (or one without substance), or conversely, they obviously have not read my profile first before contacting me. i put some of myself out there, if the person con ...

Tue Nov 09, 2021 6:21 pm • 119 Replies • 39487 Views

The Worst Mistake a Dominant or Submissive Can Make

Both sides: not being self aware and open.

i think every human has to deal with this in relationship, but i think it's easier to hide or get lost behind labels in kink culture, and the real person ...

Tue Nov 09, 2021 5:49 pm • 42 Replies • 17261 Views

We're all human beings with different preferences

i think there are some great, insightful replies to this.

Kink communities are 'edgey' to start off with, it's a place where non normative people come to meet and try and connect. i think kink com ...

Mon Nov 08, 2021 5:37 pm • 13 Replies • 5460 Views

Being sexy?

i think 'sexy' is often in the eye of the beholder. Though there are general things that many people respond to as "sexy," i think being intricately sexy, non generic, requires knowledge and understan ...

Sat Sep 25, 2021 3:50 pm • 15 Replies • 6943 Views

What made you switch?

my story is detailed in different pieces in The Cage, but a quick summary is: grew up i a religious culture that did not accept that there is such a thing as 'gay' (they equated it to a disease at bes ...

Mon Sep 20, 2021 7:25 pm • 15 Replies • 12462 Views

Advice

i stop shy of giving "advice" to anyone, but i will share my views.

i think it's tricky. In some ways you have been in relationship . and have fallen in love with, an illusion, a lie. There are obv ...

Thu Sep 16, 2021 6:55 pm • 13 Replies • 4454 Views

Military BDSM

Individual experience does not equate to universal truth. None of us can equate our experience to anothers, we are all individuals. We can share the pieces and parts that may be similar or overlap. ...

Thu Sep 16, 2021 6:41 pm • 6 Replies • 5811 Views