What is it really...

For me, i look at D/s from a natural physics standpoint. That at our most basic level, we are like positively and negatively charged ions that naturally attract and have the potential to bond (bondag ...

Wed Oct 28, 2020 3:57 pm • 40 Replies • 10750 Views

Sub looking for mature guidance /support

HI,
i'm sorry you are hurting... hurt. i think it's great you reached out. i too won't go into details, but i know what it means to lose everything, the end of relationship deemed intimate and sig ...

Wed Oct 28, 2020 5:26 am • 9 Replies • 3389 Views

Halloween Horror Challenge

costumes; i think this one might fit in here:

Stanley Kubrick's: "Eyes Wide Shut." pretty good for a kink site too.

Tue Oct 27, 2020 10:26 pm • 177 Replies • 24074 Views

Who pays for what?

i don't think this question has a one size fits all answer.

Personally , have been in ltr relationship (marriage) where i paid for everything. As time went by, it became an entitlement, i felt u ...

Mon Oct 26, 2020 2:48 am • 16 Replies • 3827 Views

Re: Consensual Psychological Play?

Last night, over a nice glass of Vodka and juice, a psychologist/friend made some interesting points about emotional trauma, healing and the BDSM lifestyle. I’d like to share a key question that spark ...

Sun Oct 25, 2020 7:12 pm • 32 Replies • 10222 Views

Re: When subs get burnt out

I get it... a lot of subs treat this site like a dating app. They bounce around this site form person to person with little to no real expectation they’ll meet a true Dom. That mentality affects us al ...

Sun Oct 25, 2020 6:21 pm • 16 Replies • 5772 Views

Lonely lifestyle.

i do not think the 'search' is really a choice? To stop searching doesn't take the need away for me, it just sublimates it, or suppresses it?

i think there is a part of us that is hungry, often st ...

Sat Oct 24, 2020 7:59 pm • 3 Replies • 2049 Views

Am I cut out for this?

Just one persons point of view here, not purporting to be the bearer of 'truth.' With that preface....

i think you will find most of us here belief stuff like "dom" or "sub" is part of our nature, ...

Sat Oct 24, 2020 6:35 pm • 20 Replies • 7390 Views

Platonic(ish) D/s

To me what you describe feels like traditional dating in a bygone era, and is still exercised in some religious cultures. Two people get to know each other without sex. After a period of time, they ei ...

Sat Oct 24, 2020 5:18 am • 10 Replies • 6855 Views

A little bit lost and worried

A couple of thoughts to add to the discussion.

This is not a controlled environment, sort of like a city street? Sure, there are 'laws' as in any city, but there are still muggers, democrats, rep ...

Wed Oct 21, 2020 4:55 am • 59 Replies • 18817 Views