The Struggles of a male submissive

1) be prepared to meet up at a munch or coffee shop. I dont trust people who dont want to engage with me first in a vanilla setting.

Lots of women (myself included) use this as to minimize the inh ...

Sun May 03, 2020 3:55 pm • 19 Replies • 9409 Views

Be an adult

I get the anxiety that Sinity notes, though i maybe have a ‘more sub response’ to dynamics that are not working in that i always seem to question if I’ve exhausted every angle before shutting down an ...

Sun May 03, 2020 12:53 am • 8 Replies • 3319 Views

The Struggles of a male submissive

Thank you for your post. Though i’m a gay guy with some sub in me, I think your points about having a profile and dileniating limits is universal. I will not approach or respond to a Dom who does not ...

Sat May 02, 2020 8:59 pm • 19 Replies • 9409 Views

Can your identity change?

Wow, love this question.

i ascribe to the spectrum theory on sexuality and believe it is multidimensional and fluid. Having said that, i think there are parts of us that are more static than othe ...

Fri May 01, 2020 5:57 am • 5 Replies • 3178 Views

What is a submissive really?

"You bring a very interested point to light ! So what is the prototypical submissives? I don't believe such a thing exists. The same can be said of Dom's too of course!
My Special Middle is very Int ...

Thu Apr 30, 2020 10:45 pm • 30 Replies • 9244 Views

Slave/Master Contract

my random thoughts and feelings (only one guys of course):

i'm not keen on static contracts as i see people and relationship as fluid, and contracts tend to be static. But i get having a foundation ...

Thu Apr 30, 2020 8:53 pm • 9 Replies • 6295 Views

Re: What is a submissive really?

It was brought to my attention recently that I am opinionated (Look out everyone...we got an observant one here). Anyone who knows me isn't going to be surprised by this. The statement was made by som ...

Thu Apr 30, 2020 6:11 pm • 30 Replies • 9244 Views

Healthy level of independence?

"So one thing I’m wondering about is if you lose too much independence when submitting (which, I know, is the point) and how much that is affecting your identity as a person. "

Thank you for your t ...

Thu Apr 30, 2020 5:30 pm • 1 Replies • 1797 Views

What is a submissive really?

Thank you for asking the question, will be fun to read the answers.

i don't think there is a right or wrong answer to many of the things that are often attributed to either Dom or sub. Though the ...

Thu Apr 30, 2020 7:34 am • 30 Replies • 9244 Views

taking pain

i appreciate HisLovely's advice, i never had directed it that way. i have sub in me, but do not consider myself masochistic, so that usually gets dileneated in the 'vetting' process.

"Pain" is a c ...

Thu Apr 30, 2020 3:41 am • 8 Replies • 4280 Views