heavy scenes

As a Dom who regularly engaged in heavy scenes, I have learned a couple of things about The community and people in general. The very concept of ‘normal’ is truly poisonous to the spirit of the kink c ...

Tue Jan 26, 2021 10:45 pm • 6 Replies • 2446 Views

Kink Virgin

Make sure that you understand the difference between Dominant and domineering; that you can recognize the signs of abuse and (the bad kind of) exploitation. Even if what you want is intense or extreme ...

Tue Jan 26, 2021 7:36 pm • 7 Replies • 1955 Views

Opening Up

I, personally, did not find either of your posts offensive or standoffish. I thought the first one was well organized and presents an opportunity for comparison and a means of providing a specific exa ...

Fri Jan 22, 2021 7:35 am • 11 Replies • 3765 Views

Opening Up

It does get overwhelming on occasion that poly is one of the few areas where it is still perceived as acceptable to be adamant and even judgmental in your disagreement with it, without really having a ...

Thu Jan 21, 2021 6:21 pm • 11 Replies • 3765 Views

The Word "Mold"

Molding a sub or slave to the preference of a Dom is simply one element of the training or objectification fetishes. It is a means of finding a particular kind of worth through the ministrations of th ...

Thu Jan 21, 2021 5:17 am • 10 Replies • 3916 Views

Does anyone else share this fetish? "Object penetration"

I have found that, along with the taboo of insertion by foreign object, my subs tend to appreciate a certain level of unplanned play. When not deliberately engaging in play (more of a technicality whe ...

Thu Jan 21, 2021 3:41 am • 27 Replies • 9478 Views

Opening Up

Actually, consent in poly requires agreement from all parties, so negating consent only requires one party to negate it. Then, negotiation and compromise begins.
The most important requirement for a ...

Thu Jan 21, 2021 2:31 am • 11 Replies • 3765 Views

Unconditional

The idea of unconditional love is a philosophical fallacy. We love for reasons, and with reasons come conditions, even if those conditions are nearly impossible to fail to meet. We learn to prioritize ...

Wed Jan 20, 2021 6:04 pm • 9 Replies • 2291 Views

Responsibilities of a Submissive

One of the few common responsibilities of the s-type in any dynamic would be to communicate their needs to the D-type. Regardless of the type of dynamic or how it is manifest, the needs of both sides ...

Wed Jan 20, 2021 7:00 am • 3 Replies • 2067 Views

Your “Radioactive Spider Bite” Into Kink

I would recommend Hellraiser, if only for the aesthetic. The Hellbound Heart (the book on which it is based) is also a good read.

Wed Jan 20, 2021 4:20 am • 7 Replies • 2435 Views