Religion and BDSM

Religion and BDSM

urlittleone • Feb 17, 2023

As I explored this website a little bit (and other Bdsm dating apps), I came across quite a few people who are “religious” but also into BDSM. Don’t u guys think a new community should be made for religious people into BDSM (it will make the search a little bit easier and more realistic). Anyways tell me ur opinions on this and how does one start a new community??

Steellover​(sub male) • Feb 17, 2023

There was a thread about this a few months back, I remember.

I consider myself spiritual and Christian- a believer and follower of Jesus Christ and what He stood for. But I hesitate to call myself "Religious" because that would lead to a lot of assumptions people would make about me which are not true. The fact is, sometimes being called "Christian" and "Religious" carries a lot of baggage; sadly. A lot of people would assume that your spiritual/religious beliefs come with a lot of right-wing and intolerant views, especially towards GLBT people, and a generally negative attitude toward sex, particularly BDSM. I don't hold such views, in fact find many of them contradictory to Jesus's message, but yet that intolerant, control-freak, anti-sex, anti-EVERYTHING attitude does have a lot of following among religious people. I remember one religious/Christian guy on this site lecturing people on how the Bible condemns female domination, for example. If that is their belief then that is fine, to each their own- but it certainly isn't mine- hence it's why I tend to avoid talking too deeply about religious topics here.

I'm not sure how to start a community on here.

MisterAshmodai​(dom male) • Feb 17, 2023

I would imagine starting forums would be a good place to start. Post some topics. Learn how others operate. Find out develop some common modalities. Maybe meet each other once the time is right.

MissBonnie​(dom female){oz} • Feb 17, 2023

There are already a few about. ..if your meaning "dating sites that cater to BDSM interests shared with Religion" To be honest there is a site for every fetish, kink or requirement. They come and go very regularly.

To be honest as someone who runs several adult sites (free and freemium) and has done so for over 2 decades, this comes down to revenue and numbers. Running a website isn't cheap (not to mention a legal midfield and very time consuming in the early stages) and be honest most people don't want to pay for what could be a smaller membership base that crosses over into other areas that can find free or a freemium. Let alone a premium membership **(in short most are looking for the Nirvana website where partners are in abundance. Even on mixed BDSM sites such as this site the common complaint is not enough potential choices and here has VERY, VERY good numbers. Cage is as close to Nirvana as you'll get)**
in reality while numbers of those looking for kink/fetish seem high, once you break numbers apart into in separating niches (such as religion, Femdom or lezdom, maledom etc etc) the ability to pay running costs decreases MASSIVELY (even if you had paid advertising /or membership/ sold content etc). Unless you want to bear these cost alone and offer up a free site, I personally wouldn't try. Even to go freemium your going to have bare cost in the beginnings to establish FREE membership to then build paid clientele.

If you are looking for this, have you considered asking the owners here to maybe add a section to "contacts"

gillesderais​(sub male) • Feb 18, 2023

I'm really interested in the connection between religion and BDSM and the number of male subs who are religious. Apparently it's quite high. Ezada Sinn has an interesting interview with another pro domme discussing how and why religious men are drawn to femdom. It's on pornhub but not in the least pornographic! I'd love to discuss with anyone here. I don't think it needs an extra website and I reckon a site for Christians who are into kink would be regularly trolled by hardliners of the fundamentalist persuasion. You CAN read the Bible as condemning FLRs if you want to. God is love and Femdom is love too, of a different flavour!

Re: Religion and BDSM

becx​(switch female) • Feb 18, 2023

I've been wondering about this also

autisticbarbie • Feb 19, 2023

I'm a religious (ish) Jew, but prefer secular people or people of my own faith.

Steellover​(sub male) • Feb 19, 2023

Most of the anti-feminist and anti-women quotes in the Bible are attributed to the apostle Paul, specifically certain passages in the Letters to the Corinthians, to Timothy of Episus, and to Titus. This attitude stems from one early church leader trying to gain authority over the factions of the then- relatively new faith, as opposed to being a divine directive handed down from Jesus Christ himself. In other words, it is taken out of context, the personal opinions of one man who is a mere follower of Jesus, rather than Jesus himself. In fact, in the Bible, several powerful women such as Mary Magdalene and Susanna were considered Jesus's female disciples and key to spreading the faith. Women did have many strong roles, even as head priestesses, in several of the early Christian cults (before there were established Churches.)

Sasa​(dom female) • Feb 19, 2023

Why do all people want separation from all others? If we want to grow, BDSM or not, we have to stay open, don't you think so?
In your profile, you say you are 19 years old and you come from a Muslim country. Would you narrow down your interests further and maybe say Christians are out of the question for you, or even Jews? What about a religious gay?
BDSM is a niche, can't that be enough? What reason would a site have to spend money to give a niche to certain other niches I don't want to belittle your interest but what about vegans?
I guess writing what you want into your profile is enough.