Every sub analyzes every detail. From the moment they wake till they go to sleep.
The issue I see is we don't analyze our prospetives. We get so excited that someone fits what we think we want we just run into it. This goes both ways. Doms are happy to find a sub they think checks all the boxes. The issue with this is most subs say what they think you want to hear because they have been put through a lot of bs online.
Subs because we try to adapt and fit we forget what we need and want. Always be true to you and someone will click so you can learn and grow together.
I think both sides need to review their core wants and know that a D/s relationship grows and changes as the couple do. Also who are we to judge others relationships. Were suppose to be a community of tolerance so STOP trying to put me in one of your boxes. I DONT FIT I am my own sub and have my own things I like from all dynamics
