So I have a lot to say today been brewing for a few days actually. I know I may upset some people but hey it's my blog.
So let's start with the insta Doms and subs. You started to come here for what instant satisfaction? That's not going to happen. Doms or whatever you really are, demanding things from a sub before shes even yours is funny. I have a personality where I am respectful and kind but that doesnt mean I submit to you. I dont appreciate the games of guilt telling me I am not a good sub or I need to rethink it. I am not your sub therefore I am not going to be good because I dont know you. You say things that are just words to you but can be hurtful to the person you say them to. First thing you need to have manners as well.
Subs if your an insta sub your not only making a bad name for yourself but making it so much more difficult for those of us that are really searching. You play with a Dom who really wants something and then ghost that messes with them just as it would you. First thing you have to realize is this isnt an instant thing you have to build trust and a foundation where you feel safe. God forbid you end up all over the net because you burned the wrong person.
On to the next thing if I just started talking to you and its progressing I want and need the support. I dont want to have to pick up more pieces and reassure over and over that I am in this for real. I already have children to take care of I dont need another. I understand there will need to be that but dang some Doms here need more emotional support and reassurance than I do and that in turn makes me feel like I'm trying to be in control I dont want that. I'm here to have someone take that away from me.
Heres a hint if your talking to more than one sub be upfront about it dont play games. Dont say your not on here when clearly you are. Subs talk we notice things and in all actuality if you treated a previous sub good you should want them to talk you should have no fear if they do. I am not stupid I see things and pay attention. And a lot of times it hurts like hell.
I know many here hate 50 shades but let me say something have you read them? There are pieces in those books that rekindled the fire in me so I have to say they helped my journey. I shouldn't be ashamed that I read them. It was more the Doms side of the story that got me. Yes there are 3 books from his view point. I also have read some of the gor books and things in there resignated with me so dont knock them unless you have read them. The movies dont count. I know I wont find a Christian grey here because hell im no Anastasia! I will say it again I did read things I want and I started my journey into things I wasnt allowed to Express before
Last but definently not least what I blog isnt a personal thing towards anyone its just me rambling for the most part. If the shoe fits wear it. I dont blog about anyone at all if I did I would include their name if the sweet blog was about them. I stopped writing because some think that it's about them. This my friends is my outlet the one place I feel free to Express thoughts so I do.
With that said I'm actually looking for real, I'm going to finally find my courage and see what munches are around me and try to go. I need to finally see the real side of this so wish me luck..lol maybe the quiet wall flower will finally be heard.
Thank I'm done now.
Stay happy my friends
