I wrote a blog recently on Cinderella syndrome and after talking with a friend this idea sparked in me.
Peter Pan syndrome. Hear me out before you get all defensive. So here it goes.
When you meet someone here it's all dreamy and wonderful. You guys take that journey flying high above everyone else. Nothing matters. You get to Neverland and Captain Hook rears his ugly head.
Let's touch on Captain Hook, he can be male or female in this crazy mental comparison. Anyway Captain Hook is the one who comes into the relationship as the outsider and tries to take the Dom or sub from the other person. Hook reeks havoc on the couple, that's his focus to destroy what he cant have. Misery does love company.
Battles with the "Hooks" dont ever stop but you try to move on and grow. You travel further down the road and thats when the mermaids come in. I dont know if many people know mermaids are dark evil creatures. So I will associate them with the demons our past create. The mermaids try to pull you under they grab and hold on for all they can.
So now you have Hook and the mermaids on your relationship and in strolls Tink. That damn sexy fairy who will through a fit. She will play and toy to get her way, tempt and stomp till its hers. Tink is sweet but determined and sneaky.
Finally Wendy has had enough and wants to return home. Peter doesnt want to. Here is where my syndrome comes in
We meet on cage and battle a lot, when its time to move off cage the temptations are to much and some go back and continue to chat with others. They are tempted away. This my friend is Peter Pan syndrome, he didnt want to grow up and you didnt want to grow in a relationship with your Wendy. You've searched for Wendy found them and still Hook the mermaids and Tink tempt you away.
One day Peter has to grow up, learn not everyone gets to be a child forever. This lifestyle is hard enough to navigate and the internet makes it worse. If you get into a dynamic make sure the other knows why you come on here. Let them see you. We all talk in one way or another and paths cross. It all comes out.
Time to grow up Peter, time to stop being a little kid and be accountable for your actions. You cant always fly out of arms reach.
So to all the Hooks, Tinks, and mermaids let people grow in their dynamic. To Wendy dont give up on your dreams and to the Peter Pan's to reference my other blog if the shoe fits wear it. Own it! Put that hat on and fly in your child like world but let Wendy find her happily ever after while you play with the lost boys.
*** Side note names do not imply its only one gender acting like Peter Pan, Wendy, Hook, or Tink it goes all ways. Also I am in no way implying Tinkerbell is a brat she is one of my favorites
