I have had a lot of conversations with subs lately. There seems to be a common concern with all of us. What are we doing wrong?
So heres the short (probably longer than I think it will be) senerio. Let's just say for this the Doms name is Y.
Y comes in all sweet and nice wants to get to know you. Tells you how well your clicking blah blah blah.
So after hundreds of e mails on cage you move to a different platform. Your talking things are going good still and then this happens....
Y needs to go do something, cook, eat, shower, run a marathon who knows. So you say cool talk to you soon. Well you go back on cage to write a cute little story about this wonderful Y and how things are going so great. You stop dead in your tracks becasue apparently Y's kitchen, bathroom or track are in your contact list.
Y lied....... hes not doing what he said he was going to do hes back here. Then you get a message, no not an e mail or bond but an actual text from a friend saying "Omg I met this amazing Dom his name is Y....." that's all you can read or comprehend.
So Y is meeting others and doesnt realize how much subs chat with eachother. I'm not saying any of this is wrong but at least be honest. Dont make someone feel like they arent enough. Dont give them hope and then let them crash. Just because we are subs doesnt by any means mean were stupid.
Doms tend to say dont let your past relationships dictate your future. Well dont act like my past and it wont dictate my future.
So many times I have wanted to give up the search because I have felt I wasnt good enough. I wasnt worth getting to know because there are so many other temptations on here.
Online is brutal, it makes me weaker in who I am. It makes me doubt my ability as a sub and who i am. Another hard thing is the ghosting, and the blocking. If your gonna block someone at least give them a reason make sure they know how they messed up. This messes with my head more than anything.
Anyway off my soap box and into work I go.
Happy Monday and good luck cagers it's a brutal world try to smile and have a great day!
💜phe💜
