I officially give up on trying to understand this lifestyle. It's too confusing and fully unfair. It's overly dramatic which is making me bored.
I stayed off of Cage so I could keep peace with my Dom. This was my choice not his but things just didn't work out for us. I hate being second to others.
Now, I have so many questions.
Why is there a separate set of rules for the Dom and the Sub? If a Dom isn't feeling dominant, then it's ok. Even though he isn't doing his job, it's ok. WTF? & If u try to make him feel dominant or push him/her, then u r wrong... And this can end up going in a million different ways from a punishment for irritating him all the way up to the most severe action of being dismissed.
(Again! WTF?)
On the opposite side, if a submissive isn't feeling submissive, it's wrong. Wrong? If she/he is being hurt by personal things that are affecting her/his mindset, then she/he should suck it up, do whatever task, handle her/his own pain and figure out a way to be submissive! (Really? Again! WTF? )
But why can't that be for both sides? Each of you suck it up and do your job then? Why is it the sub's fault if she/he isn't in a submissive mindset but not the Dom's fault if they aren't feeling dominant?
This is a double standard. In my opinion, it's wrong. Sorry if this is offensive, but it's a jackass way to do things. Both should try to help the other get into the proper mindset or back off until the time is right.
The thing is, I've grown in this lifestyle. I just don't understand it and tbh there's no one to talk to or ask questions. So now I'm frustrated. Don't know where to go from here but what I do know is that I absolutely can't do double standards. That's a hard limit for me now. I would punch a Dom over this. Hell, I would punch any dude over this.
Just Thinking Out Aloud
😑 ---needing to punch somebody--- 😑
~In Search of Truth~