The Culture that has been here all the time

Hello Friends,

My wife unexpectedly reacted to a number of things that have revealed that despite her aphasia, she still is a complete person. If one pays close attention, one will learn that she understands more than I thought and even words—even managed to utter words and affirmation. In other words, she is still capable of understanding and giving consent. 

I had to learn how to understand and communicate with her, which has made a big difference. Is she like she used to be before dementia? No, but she is much more than I thought she was. She interacts better with people, laughs, and uses my name for the first time in a while.

The key has been the break in the isolation we were in. Grandson and actual friends have made all the difference.

Hello Friends,

Things have changed here for the good. My grandson is a blessing, and some blog followers added their help, so things are looking up for me with Jeanne's care, and my isolation is over.

A load shared is a load lightened.

Hello Friends,

A new friend is heading my way on buses, and things go wrong. Should we get upset? Will that change anything? No, and no. My education in the Army and Civilian schools emphasized adaptability and flexibility. How do we think and even think outside the box? Blind adherence to a plan that isn't working as expected will not get the job done. I learned an anecdote while in the Army about a mobile missile site that moved and was set up twice and did not function as expected. Another crew member was brought in and discovered that the original staff had made the same cable mistake twice. The new crew did not rely on anything but their judgment and experience and loved the problem. So when I discover a challenge, what is the first thing I do? I wiped away all preconceived ideas, started a new evaluation, and selected an option that may not have been the usual approach, but I discovered it worked.

Many may think mathematics is cut and dry with only one solution to a problem. Not so. Enter an algorithm:

What is the probability of an algorithm?
In algorithmic information theory, algorithmic probability, also known as Solomonoff probability, is a mathematical method of assigning a prior probability to a given observation. It was invented by Ray Solomonoff in the 1960s. It is used in inductive inference theory and analyses of algorithms.¹

^{" . . . Formally, the probability �  is not a probability and it is not computable. It is only "lower semi-computable" and a "semi-measure". By "semi-measure", it means that 0<∑��(�)<1 . That is, the "probability" does not actually sum up to one, unlike actual probabilities. This is because some inputs to the . . . "}

 Simply put theory isn't perfect and we must find a solution using observation, trial and error and even creative though. A negative connotation for some is "fudge factor."²

^{2 Dictionary Definitions from Oxford Languages · Learn more
fudge fac·tor
/fəj ˈfaktər,ˈfaktôr/
nounINFORMAL  a figure included in a calculation to account for error or unanticipated circumstances, or to ensure a desired result.
"the market soon recognized the fudge factor, half a point tacked on for the drought effect.}

^{Use your mind and make it work.}

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Hello Friends,

All over the world, there are variations in how people define themselves concerning existence. Some are criticized as believers in myths and fairy tales: Who is to judge this? I have been studying the spiritualism of the original immigrants from Siberia to the Americas, and I find it pure and refreshing. So many of the varied cultures have wonderful aspects not only the negative ones portrayed by "civilized people" (like the people who created the great wars, I suppose LOL)

This prayer is an example of their beauty and feelings about life: (its simplicity moves me)

Native American Cherokee Prayer Blessing: "May the warm winds of Heaven blow softly upon your house. May the Great Spirit bless all who enter there. May your moccasins make happy tracks in many snows, and may the rainbow always touch your shoulder."

Hello Friends,

A word about milestone moments: When we reflect on our lives, we can see the milestones, but when we look ahead, we usually don't know what they may be. Exceptions like graduation, the birth of a child, and even buying a car or house. Others either turn out that way unexpectedly or are the result of hope for improvement. I chose not to reveal all the pending issues before me, but this is a week of "great expectations" for me. I have an excellent chance that I may be saying next week, why did I doubt I would make it "through the storms and emerge on a safe and calm shore?"

We all share the challenges and successes in life, and when we were born, no one gave us a brochure with our whole life laid out before us in a narrative or poem. We must write the book ourselves.

Dear Friends,

There is much going on here so far, but it's mostly good. It is like the old saying, "If you don't like the weather, wait; it will change."

I love lyrics and cliches; their meaning is often profound. A sapling tree survives because it bends in the wind and gets stronger. Forest fires destroy a forest (seemingly) only to have it return stronger. "What doesn't kill me makes me stronger."

This too shall pass  Wikipediahttps://en.wikipedia.org › wiki › This_too_shall_pass
This too shall pass is an adage about impermanence of Persian origin. It reflects the temporary nature, or ephemerality, of the human condition — that ...

The Bible is much more than a religious book. I use it because of its practical ancient wisdom, its revelation of human nature, and some of its beautiful, artful writings. So are the Koran and  . . . .

indian Vidas historical writing

from the web
They are derived from the ancient Indo-Aryan culture of the Indian Subcontinent and began as an oral tradition that was passed down through generations before finally being written in Vedic Sanskrit between 1500 and 500 BCE (Before Common Era).

China, Japan even ancient wisdom found in The Americas is here to help us

 A number of Native Americans or Original peoples believe in the gifts from the ancient Grandfathers they gave us: Love, Respect, Humility, Truth, Honesty Courage and Wisdom.

Each new birth gives a new entity, perhaps a sentient being, a chance to enjoy life. Each must find its own way to survive and leave a legacy to help the following generations.

Hello Friends,

This is an allegory. The Best plants I have ever had were the plants that started all by themselves.  Some seeds were from the previous year's garden, some were from the wind, and some the birds brought. They knew precisely when to germinate; they were adapted to my garden's soil and microclimate. And so it is with friendship.

Friends that grow spontaneously and even serendipitously have the finest roots in a relationship that can be found. They weather the storm better and are genuinely there for each other. Not like some people who often say or text, "I am here for you," but are they genuinely there for you?  True friends are there for each other through good and bad.

Politicians so easily say, "Our hearts and prayers go out to you," but what the people in need require is genuine empathy and help. Yes, we all must strive to be authentic.

 I reminded my grandson, who had a habit of being late when he promised to help us: "Let your yes be yes and your no be no." ¹

1 Matthew 5:37 King James Version (KJV)
But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.

Hello Friends,

I have been taught not to play a game if you can't afford to lose. This applies to gambling and Love. Still, with Love, I find taking a chance is always worth the risk. Life without Love is no life at all for me. 

When in Love, scents smell better, food tastes better, and even entertainment shared is better. Love helps when you need help. You help when your lover needs help. You are needed and wanted and have a purpose in your life.

Lives shared in Love are lives saved.

Hello Friends,

Straight loving sets the stage to explore together and experiment with what both lovers want.

Lover, my skin is rough and darker than yours. You are so fair. I worry the sun will harm you when you lie on the beach. When we are in our lover's chamber, I gently run my hands from your feet to your thighs front and back, and you feel like silky satin to me. It is magic how this makes me feel and how you relax and become warm. Then we kiss, and I whisper in your ear that you are a wonder to behold, and what you stir in me is no ordinary feeling. I remove your sheer black Camisole, and your lovely breasts are so sweet, the nipples erect and rosy pink, inviting me to kiss softly and then act like a suckling child: you move close to me and speak soft words that are more like the sounds of a purring kitten. Circumventing around your body, lingering at your soft sensuous stomach, I let your panties fall as I view your vagina in all its complex beauty and the fantastic way it affects me. We explore each other in sexual bliss until we become so charged as magnets that we join into one being of love and lover's bliss.

Explore and experiment and grow together: A faithful Dom will learn from his sub, not just impose his will blindly

My Dear Friends,

I appreciate you who read and responded to my blog. You replaced so many who played games with me and only saw me as a guy from whom to get money. Now, some of you have been responsive and helpful in finding my way in this evolving blog.  Sometimes, you have surprised me because your comments indicate people who have empathy and seem to like encouraging a person (like me) who needs positives.

Sometimes, the distance between us vanishes, and it is like you spoke to me here right in front of me. I enjoy seeing beauty, reading beautiful things, and enjoying your beautiful encouragement and encouragement. Thank You every one of you.
JH