Random writings

Eunoia​(sub female) - No, it doesn’t turn me on at all. It does the exact opposite... lol

pammykaye​(sub female) - Awww, c'mon , Maddie! LOL. Kidding ;)

Rollplay401​(dom male) - Will said no one has to put up with being sent messages like that you are better off with out them

pammykaye​(sub female) - I'm fine with messages like that. Easier to weed them out this way :)

rosethorn​(sub female) - Hi, for me its a no I find it offensive and idiotic, even if you are someone who enjoy this (no judgement) they have made the assumption that you like it without even checking first I find that very egotistical and that they are right and you are wrong about your own likes to be a really shitty place to start from and doubt they will consider 'negotiations of any kind' x Unfortunately I think its just a case of some people thinking they are Doms and not understanding the dynamic fully. x feel free to correct me if im wrong :)

pammykaye​(sub female) - I don't believe you're wrong at all, dear :)

TreasureMe​(sub female){Taken} - Amorcita...yes! You hit the nail on the head here!! For me anyway. The way I've said it is this... Just because I identify as submissive, DOES NOT mean that I am submissive to you. My submission is a great gift which must be earned. And even when I get respectful messages, that person has not earned my submission just because he was respectful and identifies himself as a Dominant. Until my choosing, we are two people saying hello. We are equals. So don't treat me as less. Treat me the same as any woman on the street. Period.

pammykaye​(sub female) - Preach it, sister! :)

rosethorn​(sub female) - the concerning bit to me is its likely that is how they would treat a woman on the street … :(

TreasureMe​(sub female){Taken} - Rosethorn...I really feel guys like that are too weak and insecure to do that to a woman to their face most likely. The lame-o's that approach online the way Amorcita mentioned, is just a weak guy that doesn't really understand the meaning of D/s....and thinks the meaning of submissive means slut or whoor. Or he's a coward, hiding behind a keyboard, trying to get laid or get his jollies off because no real woman wants him. So either way...if he wouldn't look in the mirror and call himself a slut, since we are equals, he shouldn't say it to me either just because I have "sub female" next to my name. But yes Amorcita, it does help you weed out the bad apples. 🍎

pammykaye​(sub female) - The garden is getting thin, my friend;)

TreasureMe​(sub female){Taken} - Whore**

rosethorn​(sub female) - That's a very good way of putting it, its a sad thing that other feel the only way to 'big' up themselves and feel better is to belittle others xx

pammykaye​(sub female) - Sad as far as the human condition goes, yes. Happy because it really helps make my decision SO much easier :)

rosethorn​(sub female) - very good point x

TreasureMe​(sub female){Taken} - I believe there is an amazing Dom out there that's meant for each of us. Amorcita is right...although the garden looks bare from here... when the shiny, yummy apple grows out of the dirt, the search and eliminations will all be worth it. I'm glad we have each other and this amazing community to help us through. *hugs lovelies!!* 💋

pammykaye​(sub female) - Yes, girl! He IS out there! Itll so be worth it when he comes along :) (((Hugs)))

FunCouple{.-Couple-.} - Oh crickey and bugger, bugger, bugger.
I've been using the word SLUT in the wrong way.

I've been using the Swedish definition of Slut.
Slut = gone, no more, 'the last is taken'

As in "Kakorna är slut." ........ "There are no more cookies."

Bugger, I have so many e-mails to send now to explain..
Better start with Nanna Smith.

rosethorn​(sub female) - context would give an idea that something else was meant or a mis communication or some sort have people not asked for clarification ?

Macchinetta Dom - you are awesome. he is asshole

pammykaye​(sub female) - Thanks :)

Duece​(dom male) - Well said...and love the logic...still have nightmares about venn diagrams....lol

pammykaye​(sub female) - And you always will... ;)

Solidbobtheflamingo​(dom male){Megagem} - Ok so this seemes to be a recuring problem in this site(I do not know others because I have not tried them). No one should have to deal with somone like that. They are clearly not a dominant and it is starting to get on my nerves and it is not even happening too me. Being in this kind of relationship is about understanding and trusting each other. In my last relationship I did call my partner a bitch but it took months of geting too know them and talking to them and finding each others limits before I did give them the title of My bitch. I mean no insult if you start it faster than I did. But what kind of insenitve jerk takes a title like that and throws it in the mud. For the love of god if by some miricule this person reads this than please stop take a second and really think about what you are doing. We are not hear to just give ourselves to each other. Not just so that your balls can be emptied if you want that go jerk off it is clearly what you are beat at and what tou are ment to do. We are hear to connect talk and understand one another. If you are truly a dom then please respect people especially when it is a potential partner it is not all about you. The whole point of being a dom in my opinion is to take care of your partner. This means geting too know them and conecting with them and not just trusting but knowing that you will be their for them and they will do all of the same for you. I am sorry too rant but I am a dom. That means I know what I want and I do what it takes to get it. Mot that I am a insensitive jerk and everything is about me.

pammykaye​(sub female) - I feel like ya should've written your own blog there, Bob. ;) Kidding, you're fine. For the most part, I believe this community is full of many good people. The bad ones will always exist, no matter where you go. I smiled the entire time I was writing this blog because it was mostly amusing to me. It's not the first time I've been approached that way and probably wont be the last, and that's fine. I'm not offended. I just saw a blog opportunity :) The true Doms out there? They wouldnt do that, and I KNOW that, so it's all gravy baby.
Thank you for your reply :)

Solidbobtheflamingo​(dom male){Megagem} - I understand that it does happen but that still doesn't mean that it should. Maybe I should start one just in case it would get through to anybody, no you covered it better :)

rosethorn​(sub female) - This is the reason I left fet life too, the amount of message :(

Starlight82​(other female) - Thank you for writing this. I was going to do one similar but based off of a different conversation. I am proud of the fact i do not sleep around. Submissive does not equal slut. If you are not ready for something, or if it challenges your morals then dont do it. Being a submissive does not mean we change who we are at our centre. Im a good girl who likes to be bad for my special person NOT just for anybody. I almost beleive that sleeping with anyone in itself is a kink. Always needing something new to satisfy their desires. I might still write mine but thank you im glad im not the only one out there.

pammykaye​(sub female) - Definitely write it out, girl! Two different perspectives :)

Sensual City Girl{ForeverHIS} - Definitely a turn OFF!!!! I would have probably called him a few choice words back. Lol

pammykaye​(sub female) - I'm sure you'll get your chance if you stick around here ;)

Sensual City Girl{ForeverHIS} - That’s why I love the “delete” button. 😂

Sensual City Girl{ForeverHIS} - That’s why I love the “delete” button. 😂