OraclePollon(sub female){NotYours}

A Demi in Isolation

Whimsical thoughts. Never wrong and never right. Not an artist or a writer by any stretch of the imagination. I am just, me. I have stopped questioning it.

Alpha Sub chews on that ... hmm

4 years ago. August 12, 2020 at 10:35 PM

I am loving all the perspectives I am seeing in the blog world! It has me inspired! Keep em coming!! So I couldn't wait to post again.

Alpha Sub

I have seen this come up a few times in the last week-ish. Some people telling me I am one, seeing others who's blogs I follow, having pictures or talking about this type of Submissive. It resonates with me.

I will likely start using this category in my descriptions of who I am. It fits. However, I am always leery of falling into a category. I want to be my own person, have my own entity. Most importantly, I want to grow. Like a plant, up an out of any pot, or type, I have been placed in. If there is a bucket in which I am already defined, I not only want to explore it, learn from it, but instead, I want to change from it. Change the categorical definitions, challenge what is wrong about it, never be a perfect rendition of the cookie cutter. Even if that flavor of cookie is unique in its own right, it will never be all of me.

Just like I identify, strongly, with being an INTP type. It is not that I want to feel comfortable in that box. Safe in the four walls that I can lean on when someone asks. Instead, I find that categories, titles, can make it easier to explain to OTHERS. I have always enjoyed being who I am. Borderless. But when talking to other people, I find these identities help immensely in pinpointing characteristics, attributes, quirks and mind set. Like shopping and having my pick of all these flavors.

If you stand at the register, I can bring you these things to help you understand me. This is my store, and these are my cookies.

This is just another title that I will make use of to describe me. Not define me.

LadySusweca(dom trans woman) - It is always best to be you and not go along with the labels. I would rather know who you are instead of following a label. With a label I can just ask anyone who you are and get an answer. That would make for a very boring existence. People want to give me labels but to find out who I truly am requires asking me, not anyone else.

4 years ago

Bunnie - I have also found that we ourselves can also fall into a trap of what we believe that word means, and rather than aiming to be our authentic selves, can try to morph ourselves into whatever the belief is we carry around that word. “Little” is a perfect example... I didn’t resonate at all with the common characteristics of what is considered a Little, so for so long, I believed I wasn’t. Often I see people when first discovering and exploring this aspect of themselves, race out and buy a sippy cup, colouring pencils and Disney movies. I can’t help but want to say... just find your own way of being you... not how others tell you to. I mean if it resonates, have at it... but life is bigger than wearing someone else’s costume :)

4 years ago

OraclePollon(sub female){NotYours} - Even words like "Autistic, ADHD" and likes. It ends up giving us a crutch that we don't need.

4 years ago

LadySusweca(dom trans woman) - It depends on a label. I have Meniere's disease which I realized I need to tell any submissive I am with. I don't use it as a crutch but it does have an effect on my life. I could live life in fear of wondering when the vertigo is going to happen next or just live life as normal and if it happens again just deal with it then.

4 years ago

OraclePollon(sub female){NotYours} - You're right. 'Crutch' is a very bad word to describe it, and someone should know if you have a condition like bipolar or the likes. Medical history also pretty important imo.

4 years ago

shesosweet(sub female) - I adore this, the whole thing, and your cookies so much!

Alpha sub, had not heard this term before.
*may I has a cookie friend?*
*nibbles cookie*

I love it because it makes my head hurt a little, for one.

4 years ago

OraclePollon(sub female){NotYours} - I had never heard the term either!

4 years ago

Satindragon{Not Lookin} - Try not to put labels on yourself. We are all unique individuals with every person and dynamic different.

4 years ago

My Dear{Trust} - Self exploration is the most fun and difficult necessary task there is. Keep at it! But, as SD said above, avoid the labels if you can.

Nothing is EVER going to be 1 size fits all abd every dogma will have bits in it you despise; but, you are in luck! You can carve out your own niche and include all the bits and pieces that you feel FIT.

Try this, look at some great definitions of the labels you ferl speak to you and pick out the parts of those definitions that feel right for you, and in time, create an Opulet Submissive label just for you. (I would start it here in your blog as a draft, it makes it easy to build a bigger piece/writing that way.)

4 years ago

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OraclePollon​(sub female){NotYours}

A Demi in Isolation

Alpha Sub *chews on that* ... hmm

OraclePollon(sub female){NotYours}

Alpha Sub chews on that ... hmm