If you're curious about Premium membership and wondering what it's all about, were have a brand new explainer video just for you. Learn about our enhanced and exclusively Premium features and why you should consider supporting our community.
We all have boundaries and our D/s relationships are no exception. Kink and human relationships can get messy, particularly when an interest in a kinky activity may not match up to how the real thing actually feels. In the heat of the moment we can push past what we feel comfortable doing, finding ourselves in unchartered territory. Boundaries can be crossed intentionally, but for many kinksters, crossing a boundary can happen without harmful intent. It can be difficult, but there is a way to move forward.
Our latest CAGE Magazine article looks at how to manage a crossed boundary including how to process what happened, how to discuss it productively with your partner, and how to prevent it from happening in the future. Check out When a Boundary is Crossed in Your D/s Dynamic inside THE CAGE Magazine.
Learn more in our latest episode of BDSM Bites.
Have some thoughts on the topic? Make sure to share them in the comments section below the article.
Until next time!
Happy New Year, CAGE! We hope you're having a wonderful festive season, no matter how you celebrate. We're celebrating too as THE CAGE turns 6 on January 1st 2023! To mark the occasion we've been working on an exciting new CAGE Premium feature that is now live: CAGE in-site video and voice calling!
Premium members can now enjoy unlimited video and voice calls, easily engaging with friends new and old without ever leaving THE CAGE. By video and voice chatting on THE CAGE, you'll never have to worry about sharing your outside contact details until it's right for you. Not a Premium member? No problem! It's easy and affordable to upgrade and get video or voice calling right away.
Make sure to try out this fantastic new Premium feature and help us celebrate another year with our fun and kink friendly BDSM community!
AND if you're ready to make your first call you'll find some simple instructions below to help you get started.
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Ready to make your first video or voice call? Great! Let's walk you through how it works.
Before calling another Premium user you must grant and request permission for calls.
GRANT PERMISSION TO CALL
To grant others permission to call you simply visit a profile, click on the "settings" icon under a user's name and toggle "Allow to call" to on. You can revoke this permission at any time.
REQUEST PERMISSION TO CALL
To request permission to call another user contact them via BOND instant messenger or CAGE Mail and ask them to grant you permission.
MAKE A VIDEO OR VOICE CALL
Once permission is granted click the video camera icon under a user's name on their profile. You can also call another Premium user by clicking on the camera icon in BOND.
Don't worry if you aren't quite ready to engage in a video call. The video camera is off by default until you decide to turn it on. One or both users can have the camera activated during a call.
MANAGING YOUR ALLOW TO CALL LIST
You can see your allowed callers in your Preferences under the Privacy tab. Select a name and click on the "x" to remove someone from your callers list. You can also revoke call permissions by toggling "Allow to call" to off in a user's profile settings.
HAVING ISSUES?
If your device is not allowing you to make a call please make sure you have granted permission to your microphone and your camera. Camera permission is required even if you only intend to make a voice call.
We can't wait for you to get to know each other better with our new CAGE Video and Voice Call feature! Now let's get calling...
Most of us didn't grow up surrounded by positive representations of kink or alternative sexuality. And it hasn't helped that pop culture has often depicted BDSM as the realm of so called weirdos or even predators.
So it's no surprise that many of us have feelings of guilt and shame when we think about our kinks! It can be hard to overcome these feelings, especially if we've experienced decades of negative feedback. But we do have some suggestions that can help.
Our latest CAGE Magazine article, Guilt, Shame, & BDSM, looks at ways to overcome these feelings in order to better enjoy and explore our kinks and fetishes.
Learn more in our latest episode of BDSM Bites.
As always, we love to hear what you think. Share your thoughts in the comments section below.
Until next time!
Safety and BDSM is a gigantic, broad-reaching concept. Your idea of safety may not match the idea of "safety" of the person next to you - especially in the world of kink where some people are willing to allow a little risk in order to enjoy new sensations.
Our latest CAGE Magazine article explores the topic of BDSM Safety Frameworks in depth including a look at popular safety acronyms, what they mean, and the pros and cons to each.
Learn more in our latest episode of BDSM Bites.
Please let us know your thoughts on this important topic in the comments section.
Until next time!
If you spend any time in kink communities, online or off, you'll often hear this question: "how do I find a mistress?". Finding a femdom can be difficult, but don't be disheartened! We have some tips that will help make your mistress search as productive as possible. Learn more in our our most recent episode of BDSM Bites:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PMYMzUc4ZMM
In our latest CAGE Magazine article, "How To Find a Mistress", we discuss how to approach a dominant both online and off, how to prepare yourself for ownership, and we share some important warnings about scams and other potential pitfalls.
Don't forget to share your thoughts in the comments section.
And - to everyone seeking - good luck in your search!
When we first explore the world of kink our primary focus is often on the physical. And why not? There's a whole lot of fun to be had with physical play. But it's even more intoxicating when we get our heads in the game. In our latest CAGE Magazine article we take a look at the mental aspect of BDSM. We tell you more in our most recent episode of BDSM Bites:
Don't miss "Inside Your Head: Exploring Mental Kinks in BDSM". We discuss BDSM and mental play, including some very important safety concerns for Hypnosis, Emotional Sadism, and others.
As always please do share your thoughts in the comments section.
Until next time!
A few days ago we introduced THE CAGE Locktober Challenge. Since then we've made a couple of changes to the new Lock widget added to profiles. You'll now see an info button and a button to dismiss the feature if it is not of interest to you. Note that while the lock is inactive, the widget won't be visible to others. When activated, anyone viewing your profile can see it.
Learn more about Locktober in this short video from THE CAGE Team:
And don't forget our CAGE Magazine article, 6 Weeks From Chastity Device Beginner to 24/7 Chastity Slave.
Until next time!
Have you noticed the new "Lock" option on your profile? This fun little lock widget with timer is designed to encourage chastity play during the month of "Locktober". What is Locktober you may ask? In the kink community it's a whole month dedicated to chastity play with maybe a little tease and denial on the side. Lock yourself up, put your subs on lockdown, or challenge your friends! Everyone is encouraged to have a bit of kinky fun with THE CAGE Locktober Challenge. Just visit your profile and click the "Lock" button to get started. Note this is a publicly viewable lock and countdown - bragging, taunting, and cheering encouraged!
If you're new to chastity play and wondering what the fuss is all about, we have a whole article dedicated to the topic in our CAGE Magazine. Check out "6 Weeks From Chastity Device Beginner To 24/7 Chastity". Learn more about the chastity fetish, how to get started, and why so many people think it's so much fun.
Happy Locktober, CAGE!
Consent for dominants and submissives is a pillar of BDSM and integral to any kinky interaction. In our latest CAGE Magazine article we tackle this important topic including how consent works, how to negotiate, and the meaning of informed consent. Don't miss BDSM 101: Consent, out now in THE CAGE Magazine.
Learn more in our latest episode of BDSM Bites:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jPs4z0tjNKA
As always, make sure to share your thoughts in the Magazine comments section.
Until next time....