Recently a group of us were answering a newbie's questions and she asked for advice. We told her what we needed to hear when we first joined.
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I'm assuming that you have TikTok so I would suggest you look up some really good kink educators on the app, I've personally learned a lot from them. I would also suggest you take the BDSM Test on BDSMTest.org it doesn't take too long, just be sure to be very honest with yourself on it, its a fairly accurate test that I recommend taking it around every 6 months to 1 year. There are people known as "Insta (or fake) Dom)<subs too btw> that try and force you quickly into a dynamic and don't respect limits or selfishly only think of themselves when talking to a person and will probably try and rush into using honorifics. people like that are who you need to watch out for and avoid. Since you are new, watch out for a trait you might accidentally pick up which is called 'sub frenzy' (Doms can get this too). This is where you have so much access to so many people right now and people are talking to you that you might be getting do excited that you just want s Dom right away without correctly Vetting him/her beforehand. those creators I listed, they talk a good bit about these things so definitely check them out.
-xxxalexxx
My biggest advice would be to take as much time as you need to learn about yourself. There is literally zero rush to get into anything. You want to make sure everything you do is safe, sane, and consensual. Also known as SSC
-Princess95
I would say to be careful with people on here and other sites. A lot of them are predators, abusers, scammers, and just straight-up liars. Just focus on yourself, making friends, learning about yourself as Princess said. Don't let anyone tell you what a sub is supposed to be or what a Dom is supposed to be. If you have any questions ask people who you trust and that are reputable here.
-I'llBeAGoodGirl
Know your power. Just because you're a submissive doesn't mean you are nothing. You hold power in terms of your limits and decisions. Your submission is a precious thing. Give it wisely.
-From me
We certainly don't know everything, hell, we learn new things about the lifestyle every day. But we hope this helps someone out there.
With Love
From us Subbies
*Tiktok creators were removed (just to be safe) for privacy purposes. Message me for the list*
