Reflections in the dark mirror

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - So do I! Good lord! He is barely out from under mommy's thumb and he is calling himself a DD?

Aquarius Dom​(dom male) - God help any BG that responds

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - The brat would chew him to bits....but I don't think he was *A* brat...just a BG who acts out.

HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - Surprised he doesn't have 15 years experience too.

Aquarius Dom​(dom male) - At least

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - And been a DD "all his life".

Aquarius Dom​(dom male) - Tied teddy to the bed and smashed her back doors in 😂😂😂

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Mama Bear JJ​(dom female){koa} - I see those still in there teens and early 20’s seeking all the time on the DDlg site I’m on. Whenever they message me, I just send ... That’s cute, but both my big and middle side would break you 🤣🤣🤣

Aquarius Dom​(dom male) - Makes you wonder who wears the diapers in their relationship 😂😂😂

Mama Bear JJ​(dom female){koa} - Lol ... I’m more concerned about what kind of issues they have or what of BS incest porn they’ve been jerking off too ... cause there is little chance of them grasping what it is to be a Dom fully, let alone a Daddy Dom 🙄

kajirasubm{On Hiatus } - I was just thinking about this today.
Grateful for the fact that I am not a 20 something year old who is being subjected to the mishandling of bdsm.
It seems that we went from no one speaking about it, last century...to everyone suddenly thinking they are Christian Grey.
That book made her quite a bit of money and has unfortunately led a generation in the wrong approach to bdsm.

The most important aspect of this lifestyle is emotional strength and sense of self.
One needs to be secure with whom they are, and understand the reason " why " prior to engaging sexually..

Very sadly many aren't mentally strong for the dynamic. This of course opens all doors to abuse. On both sides.

A submissive who is insecure and unstable is damaging to a Dominant...
As a Dominant who is not in control over his emotions is damaging to a submissive.

All of 19 years old...but has been a DOM since wearing nappies.

Cherry2000​(sub female) - We all have to start somewhere. We all didn't magically become middle-aged BDSM know it alls. We were young and naive once, trying to find what it is that drives this need in us. I try to respond politely when messaged politely. I explain that I am more than willing to answer questions for those that are willing to learn.

Aquarius Dom​(dom male) - I couldn’t agree more and you are correct we do have to start somewhere, my remarks are aimed at the fragile balance of Ddlg and the possibility of serious harm to a little

Cherry2000​(sub female) - Hopefully he will learn how to take care of a submissive. Hopefully there will be people in the community who will not scoff at his age and take him under their wing and teach him. It seems that there is always such criticism when a young person wishes to be part of this community. How better to make sure that he properly cares for a sub then to welcome and offer to help?

Mama Bear JJ​(dom female){koa} - There is a VAST difference between a Dom and a Daddy Dom, as well as a VAST difference between a submissive and a litttle/middle. The roles are very different, the dynamic isn't about control, a typical power exchange, or sexual interaction ... it is about being a caregiver in every sense of the word to someone who might not only be a vulnerable adult , but someone who has a vulnerable child, pre-teen, or teen within them that they regress to in order to handle stress, things they are going through, or things that they have been through. Depending on the reason for choosing to be a little/middle there might not be a learning curve and the chance for abuse, taking advantage, and harm is far greater than in a D/s situation. Without an older and/or more experienced, Dom or Daddy Dom ... that little/middle could be not only abused, but unintentionally harmed physically, mentally, and emotionally as well, both as a woman and as the age her little/middle takes.

No one here was discussing, commenting, or laughing about a Dom or D/s situation, suggesting someone of any age couldn't be a Dom, or suggesting that a young Dom couldn't be effective or doesn't need to learn and grow into the role with support. This was about a 19year old who posted about wanting to be a Daddy Dom for a reason, "to punish," that clearly showed he had no understanding of the dynamic. The post and comments were in reference to those who, like that 19 year old and most in the D/s community, have no understanding of what the role of Daddy Dom is, what a little/middle is, or what the DDlg dynamic is about beyond pre-conceived, and often judgmental, notions and assumptions made because of those who use the roles/dynamic inappropriately and porn which wrongly portrays the dynamic as incest and/or predatory type play. Young men who choose to become a Daddy Dom because of those notions, assumptions, and porn are very dangerous to little/middles ... far more dangerous than a young Dom just entering the lifestyle or one who thinks they are a Dom just because they watched 50 Shades.

As for laughing at the issue ... I can't speak for everyone else who commented ... but I am 39 years old woman and my two oldest children are 18 and 21. I was in no way laughing at the idea of a young Dom entering into the lifestyle, I agree that they all have to start somewhere. I was laughing at the idea that myself personally would ever submit to someone, or allow someone to be my Dom or Daddy Dom, who is the same age as my children ... I'd just end up being their mom lol. The idea of it is both hilarious and somewhat disgusting for me ... and there's nothing wrong with me having that opinion, my opinion doesn't mean that situation wouldn't work for someone else, it just doesn't work for me 🤷

Cherry2000​(sub female) - Everyone is allowed to have their opinion. This was simply mine.