Emotional Availability

I adopted a policy a while back to be open in communicating about most things, personally. That I can talk casually about things that others might find stressful, I feel helps to 'lighten the mood, ...

Sun Aug 25, 2024 4:11 pm • 13 Replies • 1371 Views

Re: Nonsexual D/s

Is it possible to have a nonsexual D/s dynamic, or be in a D/s dynamic and be able to display nonsexual dominance or nonsexual submission?

Yes.

Due to a previous experience (I won't go into deta ...

Sun Aug 18, 2024 2:46 pm • 12 Replies • 1130 Views

Vanilla dating

Simply that I have interests that coincide in bdsm that are not as likely to have those outlets in a vanilla relationship

And the rest of my life is a long time to go without being able to pursue ...

Wed Jul 03, 2024 7:41 am • 26 Replies • 2810 Views

Musing turned Inquiry: Demanding Relocation

Something else I notice in this thread is that a lot of people take issue with the word choice 'to demand' but admit that eventually moving in is a stipulation to having a dynamic. That's still a dema ...

Sat May 11, 2024 7:11 am • 20 Replies • 2837 Views

Thoughts on the new Seeking feature?

I think it's an improvement on Personals. I felt Personals, especially Dominant male seeking submissive female, dealt with so much over saturation: the moment you published or bumped your post it was ...

Fri May 10, 2024 10:36 am • 18 Replies • 2080 Views

Musing turned Inquiry: Demanding Relocation

It's part of the overall structure honestly. If a submissive relies on their Dom/me for structure and wants to relinquish control and worry to them, as many do, does it make sense for the submissive t ...

Fri May 10, 2024 6:48 am • 20 Replies • 2837 Views

Do you block or have you been blocked?

Amusing story, I stumbled on a profile of somebody relatively local. I never had any interaction with this person before, but it turned out I was already blocked. I read the profile and there was a l ...

Wed Apr 03, 2024 11:19 am • 62 Replies • 6079 Views

Submissive verses Slave

I have questions on this topic 👀
I know answers will vary, but im interested in the general consensus. I hope this is okay Twinkle!

Would being 'owned' equate to being a slave? Or is a submissive ...

Sat Mar 09, 2024 8:32 am • 52 Replies • 6576 Views

Submissive verses Slave

I've had a number of experiences to mention and how it's shaped my view on the matter.

I think of it like a spectrum where on one end is a functionally vanilla relationship with kinky sex and on t ...

Thu Mar 07, 2024 12:34 pm • 52 Replies • 6576 Views

Hypnosis

The thing is, you can't 'break' someone in that way. But it can be used as a tool of manipulation by those who are seeking shortcuts. I liken it to people who are desperate for weight loss solutions a ...

Tue Mar 05, 2024 1:08 am • 59 Replies • 6327 Views