The best way to be a leader is to not be a leader

For those of you who lead groups (of any size), what do you love about it? What do you regret about it?
And ... would you do it again?

Fri Nov 26, 2021 5:32 pm • 2 Replies • 1567 Views

The best way to be a leader is to not be a leader

We have run or co-run a number of groups, events, and a BDSM community center, since joining the community. Here is a perspective.

Run things you want to be a part of
I am amazed at the time and e ...

Fri Nov 26, 2021 4:01 pm • 2 Replies • 1567 Views

Play party etiquette ?

Well, best is to ask the host, but in general - don't interrupt scenes, don't touch anything without asking, you are under no obligation to do anything (and no one is under any obligation to play with ...

Wed Nov 24, 2021 2:46 am • 10 Replies • 3529 Views

having a willing body isn't enough

Pre-covid (and by the looks of things, post as well) I traveled a lot and went to many play parties and events. Then spent 5 years (part of the team) running a bdsm club in town. Add to that I am a na ...

Fri Nov 19, 2021 11:00 pm • 9 Replies • 2892 Views

ready for real time?

As someone who follows your podcast (I’ve missed a few). You two going to be ok not taking the bikes?
DW

As it happens, we sold the motorcycles (and everything else) and now live full time in an R ...

Mon Nov 08, 2021 6:48 pm • 15 Replies • 4081 Views

ready for real time?

We have been invited to present at an event in January and March of next year and will likely be going.

It has been 2 years since we've been to a public event! We are excited and a bit terrified : ...

Sun Nov 07, 2021 5:07 pm • 15 Replies • 4081 Views

Favorite 'up close and personal' toys

I normally like playing where I am close, in someones personal space. Feels like a more intimate and intense scene for me.
Metal claws (even banjo pics work) and punching bag training gloves are two ...

Thu Nov 04, 2021 6:30 pm • 4 Replies • 1881 Views

The Worst Mistake a Dominant or Submissive Can Make

"I purposely didn’t put ignoring safe words or not having safe words. I think those are obvious."

Though not obvious to all. You'd be surprised how many that are new don't know about safewords. And ...

Wed Nov 03, 2021 7:23 pm • 42 Replies • 10597 Views

How Important is Connection to you?

For me, if I'm wanting a good scene, the connection has to be there. Whether with a long-time partner or someone that's new to me, I need to have a connection with the other person. Luckily, I know ti ...

Wed Nov 03, 2021 7:16 pm • 12 Replies • 2748 Views

a really great spanking...

What is something you think of when you describe a really great spanking scene?

Wed Nov 03, 2021 12:21 am • 4 Replies • 2253 Views