We have run or co-run a number of groups, events, and a BDSM community center, since joining the community. Here is a perspective.

Pre-covid (and by the looks of things, post as well) I traveled a lot and went to many play parties and events. Then spent 5 years (part of the team) running a bdsm club in town. Add to that I am a natural flirt and outgoing and I found a lot of people who want to play with me.

We have been invited to present at an event in January and March of next year and will likely be going.

I normally like playing where I am close, in someones personal space. Feels like a more intimate and intense scene for me. Metal claws (even banjo pics work) and punching bag training gloves are two of my favorites.

"I purposely didn’t put ignoring safe words or not having safe words. I think those are obvious."

Though not obvious to all. You'd be surprised how many that are new don't know about safewords. And ...

For me, if I'm wanting a good scene, the connection has to be there. Whether with a long-time partner or someone that's new to me, I need to have a connection with the other person. Luckily, I know tips and tricks on creating that connection if it's not instant.

What is something you think of when you describe a really great spanking scene?