Doms on Tinder?

Speaking from experience (said non too proudly) when I began I learned quickly, that a lot of those guys call themselves a Dom but assume that means they get to abuse you without repercussion or conse ...

Sun Dec 12, 2021 8:31 am • 12 Replies • 6595 Views

Did I misread my Dom?

I think all the advise above is very good, thought provoking and also shows you may need to do some honest soul searching with yourself. My question to you is once done, What exactly will change? Wh ...

Sun Dec 12, 2021 7:09 am • 32 Replies • 11151 Views

What is BDSM/kink to you?

What attracted me to BDSM...

A Harness

Pretty simple.. I was not unaware of this lifestyle. I grew up in NYC. I hung in the village as a kid and went to the clubs, had friends who lived it. I d ...

Fri Dec 03, 2021 10:30 pm • 11 Replies • 3218 Views

Re: A little nervous

I have a new partner and we are both switch and even though we have spent hours talking I still don’t know where to begin. I have a safe word but he says he will let me know. I know he wants more fro ...

Thu Dec 02, 2021 11:30 pm • 8 Replies • 3499 Views

The difference between a Domme/sub connection and a romantic connection

I understand your dilemma as I have been on the other end of this situation. I think the distance and the lack of actual physical contact between you two will help enforce the platonic dynamic but the ...

Thu Dec 02, 2021 7:21 pm • 8 Replies • 2829 Views

WAX Candles

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Fri Nov 26, 2021 8:24 pm • 14 Replies • 4470 Views

Terms being used much too loosely lately…

Kink, or is that role shaming much, someone is coming across a little hurt.

Those people get to define who and what they are, not you, or anyone else.

Oh now dont get salty dollmaker, I dont ca ...

Wed Nov 24, 2021 12:13 am • 27 Replies • 6937 Views

Terms being used much too loosely lately…

The thing is books ,podcast and websites were all there before those people went looking for sites like this.
If said people are serious about BDSM they should of done their research not join site ...

Wed Nov 24, 2021 12:06 am • 27 Replies • 6937 Views

Terms being used much too loosely lately…

I have commented on this very subject in the past. The constant variation of new labels derived from it's original root. Yes it is maddening at times, but for me, maddening in the harm to those who f ...

Tue Nov 23, 2021 10:30 pm • 27 Replies • 6937 Views

Are slaves also subs?

A sub has the ability (and duty) to personally engage in the path their dynamic takes, disagreeing where needed and negotiating where required.

A slave is submission taken to the X degree - they ...

Sun Nov 21, 2021 8:14 pm • 53 Replies • 12071 Views