So in putting together my unnamed whatzit (I'm thinking of calling it my Pillory Lead, but not sold on that name yet), I am going to need a new set of cuffs. This is so I don't have to keep moving the cuffs from my chair to the whatzit.

So a question to those inside the collar and outside: What is your philosophy on advancing relationships within the lifestyle? That is to say, do you pursue those you find interesting or do you wait for them to come to you?

To be honest, there are very few people who do it 24/7.

Even when I was full throttle, years ago, there were times when I would lapse into vanillahood. Doing 24/7 is very hard and takes a grea ...