BDSM Myths

That BDSM is all black leather and whips. That seems to be what all my vanilla friends think.

That most people who are into BDSM have been sexually or physically abused.

That all people who part ...

Mon Feb 18, 2019 2:19 am • 6 Replies • 2513 Views

Getting a Collar (Necklace?)

There is no simple answer to this. A BDSM lifestyle entails whatever you want it to entail. Every person on this site would describe their BDSM lifestyle differently than the next person. Whichever li ...

Fri Feb 15, 2019 6:31 am • 14 Replies • 8674 Views

What kind of Dom or sub are you?

I don’t think I could put myself into any one category. I’m a masochist, pain and pleasure go hand in hand for me if doled out properly. I have “little” tendencies; a flare for the dramatic and always ...

Fri Feb 15, 2019 6:12 am • 68 Replies • 32540 Views

Petplay

Juzt me cj , in the simplest answer: petplay is a form of bdsm play when the submissive takes on the role of a pet (an animal of some sort) and is treated as such by his/her dominant.

Petplay for ...

Fri Feb 15, 2019 4:22 am • 11 Replies • 10344 Views

Is BDSM spiritual for you?

I agree wholly with LittleLex. Aside from the definition "relating to religion or religious belief" the first definition of spiritual is "relating to or affecting the human spirit or soul as opposed t ...

Thu Feb 14, 2019 2:28 am • 15 Replies • 9225 Views

A soft release

I think all you can do is shoot for honesty. There isn't an easy let down if the person you are letting go is completely invested in you or the relationship. It isn't fun and it can be both painful an ...

Sat Feb 09, 2019 3:28 am • 20 Replies • 7961 Views

Advice for training Submissive/Slave

One thing to consider is if he would even want you to present him with the gift. My Sir and I both agree that having gifts given to you while the giver watches you open it is a bit uncomfortable. It m ...

Sat Feb 09, 2019 3:20 am • 12 Replies • 5285 Views

Punishments for me.

Hi there, Liza! This is interesting; being asked to find ideas for your own punishments. Punishments are so specific to the submissive and the circumstance that it's hard for an outsider to offer much ...

Wed Feb 06, 2019 6:55 am • 10 Replies • 8573 Views

Being a feminist and a submissive female

I agree with your initial post 100%.

I hold a high level management position in which I have several male subordinates at work and I have no problem taking the lead when necessary. I worked twice ...

Tue Feb 05, 2019 12:08 am • 81 Replies • 18685 Views

Q(?) for the Doms/Masters/Daddys

Thank you for your answers! The question plagued me because my idea of a dominant is one who exhibits extreme self control and typically has very specific ideas of what behavior is acceptable from a s ...

Wed Jan 23, 2019 10:09 pm • 9 Replies • 4006 Views