Books and teachings

As a kink-ed author myself, I appreciate MissBonnie's call not to stiff the authors you want to learn from.

Different Loving is a great book and you could buy a copy here:
https://www.penguinrando ...

Wed May 12, 2021 8:42 am • 9 Replies • 3551 Views

Munches

Wear normal street clothes. Use the manners your momma taught 'ya. Don't be in too much of a hurry to talk about hot and heavy kinky shit--just get to know people and chit chat a bit and get comfortab ...

Wed May 12, 2021 4:56 am • 3 Replies • 1998 Views

Podcast/Training

Sandra is a great resource.

I train one partner with a training collar that has both a shock for punishment and a click for positive reinforcement.

Like all kinds of D/s training, it works well ...

Wed May 12, 2021 4:44 am • 2 Replies • 2135 Views

Sub Training Advice

I'm in agreement with SirsBabyDoll. It sounds like you're starting with a whole lot of structure, and perhaps a lot of expectations, right off the bat, and you may find that it overloads either or bot ...

Thu Apr 29, 2021 4:42 pm • 12 Replies • 5824 Views

How to recognise a Dom and show I’m a sub

It would be so great if doms could be identified by looking at them!

But really there are no such things as dominants. There are just people, some of whom enjoy dominating, and they look and act pr ...

Fri Apr 23, 2021 9:38 pm • 21 Replies • 8416 Views

Old School Protocols

Pretty much everyone has listened to oldsters going on about how everything was respectful and structured and well-mannered back in their day. I don't just mean kink oldsters; I mean all oldsters. The ...

Tue Apr 20, 2021 7:35 pm • 31 Replies • 8554 Views

Encouraging my Dom

It sounds to me like you're being very thoughtful about this, and probably doing a fine job already. Taking things slow and keeping your expectations light will be super helpful.

Some other things ...

Mon Apr 19, 2021 1:47 am • 11 Replies • 5173 Views

Things you wish you had known....

That is a great question.

I wish I'd understood earlier that consent is not a replacement for ethics.

I played with people in ways that they did agree to, but that if I had been paying attent ...

Sat Apr 17, 2021 9:48 pm • 40 Replies • 11841 Views

Meet, Munch, Hang Out in person

There can be lots of ways to connect with kinksters and build community in person. Some things I've enjoyed, other than standard munches, that aren't play events:

Group hikes
Movie nights
Book cl ...

Fri Apr 16, 2021 4:08 pm • 13 Replies • 3489 Views

What if there's no fulfillment possible?

That sounds like a hard situation to be in, with a tough set of priorities to balance.

Ideally you and your partner would work together to craft a relationship that fulfilled you both, with each of ...

Sun Apr 11, 2021 7:23 pm • 19 Replies • 6009 Views