Turn offs in new conversations

Contacts that show no desire or clue about how to engage another human being.
i write a detailed profile, so any serious person who is capable of conversation, is equipped to engage me with lots of i ...

Mon Nov 21, 2022 4:58 pm • 113 Replies • 20511 Views

Drawing the line for Taboos

"Drawing the line" and "recommend[ing] help" are two different things.

There are socially drawn lines and individually drawn lines, many, if not most? kinks land on the outside of the socially dra ...

Fri Nov 18, 2022 4:59 pm • 20 Replies • 4925 Views

Adoration, etc.?

i read, and responded to, a profile (on a gay site). The guy mentioned he is "dominant" and among his list of likes and wishes said: "I want to be pleased and adored." Fair enough, i appreciate openn ...

Fri Nov 18, 2022 1:55 am • 4 Replies • 1036 Views

Edging/holding back an orgasm

I think if a Dom hurts his or her submissive for cumming without permission they run the risk of the submissive associating being hurt with cumming (even unconsciously). Then you wind up with a sub th ...

Tue Nov 15, 2022 8:08 pm • 18 Replies • 3611 Views

Re: Edging/holding back an orgasm

Because im naturally curious:
How does one manage to hold back an orgasm? I've read books about the Dom bringing their subs to the brink of an orgasm and then telling them that if they cum there will ...

Mon Nov 14, 2022 6:23 pm • 18 Replies • 3611 Views

Re: Well...maybe not "for fun..." But, question...

...how you reconcile the lifestyle if you've been raised very conservatively religious, hardcore Christian....
Experiences, thoughts and quotes are welcome. ...For that matter, so is everything else. ...

Mon Nov 14, 2022 9:17 am • 6 Replies • 1081 Views

Re: What characteristics do you look for in a potential dom/

I've seen a lot of relationship advice recently from people with very different viewpoints, and I'm curious about what other people actually care about and value in a woman/man they want to date.

A ...

Sun Nov 06, 2022 5:28 pm • 16 Replies • 3288 Views

Water sports yes or no?

This is a very interesting topic and I'm glad you posted.
When I first entered the world of BDSM, I was not interested in any way in watersports, as I saw it strictly as a way of degrading someone, w ...

Sat Nov 05, 2022 3:18 pm • 55 Replies • 13386 Views

What it's like for Dommes

Thank you Oceanic for starting this conversation!!

i have a few thoughts to add to the conversation.

i've long thought about the differences between men and women. my own journey has taught ...

Wed Nov 02, 2022 7:19 pm • 54 Replies • 13661 Views

Re: Water sports yes or no?

I was hoping for some insight as this is not something I have done myself.
However recently its something that has come up in conversation.

Personally I have never thought it would be something th ...

Wed Nov 02, 2022 5:37 pm • 55 Replies • 13386 Views