Subspace - here's mine, can you tell me yours?

i've written about this on other threads, but this is one of my most profound experiences of 'sub space.'

i was in Palm Springs at a gay resort. (for those who don't know, that is a clothing option ...

Sat Sep 11, 2021 4:09 pm • 19 Replies • 5833 Views

Less Experienced Dom and More Experienced Sub

IMO anything thing can work if you BOTH want it to and BOTH are willing to put int he efforts needed
but saying the above, if you already know and understand what you need and want, why even try? If ...

Sat Sep 11, 2021 3:15 pm • 13 Replies • 8108 Views

Re: The insta-dom approach?

So I have heard from a couple sub women here that some guys try to immediately become their dom. Like in the first message... It seems completely foreign to me. And all I can think of is someone's fir ...

Wed Feb 10, 2021 4:50 pm • 28 Replies • 10743 Views

Opening Up

i don't know of any core tenants of poly that i'd deem unacceptable.

Apparently you've encountered someone/s who have, i have never experienced animosity like you describe.
When i first divorced ...

Thu Jan 21, 2021 9:28 pm • 11 Replies • 5985 Views

The Word "Mold"

Ooooh, i like this question, thanks for asking it.

Michelangelo is quoted as saying: " Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it. I saw the angel ...

Thu Jan 21, 2021 5:46 am • 10 Replies • 5836 Views

Unconditional

"Unconditional"

i see this word, or its implication, a lot in the BDSM community. It makes me literally cringe in pretty much any context. Unless one is a blank slate, there are always conditions. ...

Thu Jan 21, 2021 4:40 am • 9 Replies • 3408 Views

Dear Kit...BDSM vs Love

@MasterKit​(sadist female){Hmmm}

"Do you think that love in our realm should be monogamous? What I mean is, should that love be for only one? To me, this lifestyle...is one of trust in body. "

i ...

Mon Jan 18, 2021 8:36 am • 12 Replies • 5281 Views

Dear Kit...BDSM vs Love

Define "love."

i do not know if it is possible? i have examined and worked at it for most of my life, and have a working definition, but it is incomplete. And that, for me, points to another o ...

Sun Jan 17, 2021 9:11 pm • 12 Replies • 5281 Views

Typo or My Subconscious?

Extrapolating.

Waiters are in a chosen servant profession, most 'slaves' are also bottoms, so topping would prolly be a welcomed tip (butt prolly not just the tip)

Thu Jan 07, 2021 12:36 am • 5 Replies • 3010 Views

Why are dominant women the smallest demographic in BDSM?

Wow, i think there are some great and thoughtful replies to this.

Ditto those who point out that a lot of guys do not make a distinction between bottom and sub. i'm gay, but i was married to a wo ...

Thu Jan 07, 2021 12:22 am • 47 Replies • 22786 Views