Do you consider yourself Property

Do you consider yourself Property

TopekaDom​(dom male) • Oct 21, 2024

This mainly a discussion for viewpoints from the s types: male, female, non binary, or other genders:

Those that are owned:

Do you view yourself as property to those you are collared to?

I get not all s types identify as slave, but no matter what label you subscribe to (if any), so you feel as if you are their property to own and safeguard? If not, why not?

Those that are unowned:

Would you view yourself as property should someone afix a collar around your neck (or wherever)? Would you accept a collar if that was one of the conditions that came with said collar?

Discuss:

lambsone • Oct 21, 2024

I depends on who I am committed to and the type of dynamic we create between ourselves. But yes I have been someone's property in the past.

DidiRN​(sub female) • Oct 21, 2024

My, admittedly limited, understanding is the term "owned" is generally a M/s thing. However, as BDSM is constantly evolving and is interpreted differently by everyone I imagine it is very much up to the s-type that is going to be "owned".


A word only has as much meaning as you give it. Therefore, to me at least, whether being owned is positive or negative is based on the people in that particular dynamic. If they decide that that is how they want to view things, and it works for them, then good for them.

While I don't identify as a slave the thought of belonging to someone, to be wholly theirs, brings up such longing that it hurts sometimes.

Sincorrigible​(sub female) • Oct 22, 2024

Well this is a very interesting topic.

I'm pondering how I perceive the difference between the concepts of 'Mine', ownership, and property.

I get the feeling I shouldn't see a difference, but I do.

Perhaps that's to do with my perception as a woman in her fifties that property these days isn't something you necessarily care for properly, cherish, maintain. We live in a consumer society of waste, disposal, replacement. People tend to fix things less.. You just get a new one.

I am much more comfortable, aspire to, being owned. Being someone's "Mine". And being told such, is immensely erotic. As is the concept of being owned. I wouldn't in fact want a ds dynamic where I didn't feel those two things.

bdsamworld​(sub female){collared} • Oct 22, 2024

The concept of ownership within the BDSM community is multifaceted, with individuals adopting diverse interpretations that can range from informal verbal agreements to more tangible symbols of affiliation, such as collars or even physical marks. For some practitioners, ownership signifies a profound psychological bond that transcends conventional relationship dynamics, wherein the submissive willingly offers themselves as property to their Dominant/Master. This arrangement fosters an environment of trust and mutual respect, enabling both parties to explore their desires within the bounds of established parameters. The myriad ways in which ownership is expressed reflect the personal philosophies and agreements formed between individuals, highlighting the intricate dynamics that are often at play in such relationships.

In my own experience, I resonate deeply with the notion of being the property of my Master, recognizing that this status carries a responsibility for both of us. While I may be regarded as property in a metaphorical sense, it is essential to remember that I am a human being, endowed with emotions and agency. This dynamic fosters a certain reciprocal relationship; where care and attentiveness are not only expected but are foundational to the effective functioning of our bond. The relationship becomes a delicate interplay of power exchange that embodies a "give and take," illustrating a conscientious acknowledgment of both the Dominant/Master's authority and the s-type's humanity. In this way, the ownership dynamic within BDSM evolves into a profound connection that demands both care and respect, transcending mere possession and blooming into a relationship characterized by shared understanding and commitment.

It means a great deal to me when I'm "owned" due to the expectations on both parties. That's just my theatrical two cents. Hahaha.

bdsamworld​(sub female){collared} • Oct 22, 2024

An additional disclaimer. I'm not saying that if you are unowned that there is less care that goes into the dynamic. It's whatever you and your consenting partner want it to be. No dynamic or power exchange is any less than other because someone else does it differently.

LoveandDevotion​(sub female){Looking} • Oct 24, 2024

Yes. I address this in my profile where I say:

Kinky wise, I am a sub with slave tendencies. I consider myself a “pleasing” sub. My kinks aIl come back to two things, I’ve analyzed myself and realized: a desire to please Him, and a desire to feel owned (and treasured). Nothing is sexier than a man saying “MINE” and claiming me; I want to be property, but cherished, valued, respected property he feels absolutely blessed to have and never would want to give up.

Steellover​(sub male) • Oct 25, 2024

I consider myself belonging to the one I love, and who loves and cares for me. I don't know if I'd go so far as to say "Property" in the literal sense however. It's all in our approach to the dynamic; I prefer to be in a "female led BDSM relationship" versus "Master/stress-Slave Relationship." (There is another whole thread about this that I don't wanna recap.)