Im not so great at hip harnesses BUT i absolutely love them. I have kept this one a little loose for safety. As mentioned before there are main arteries that run in your groin/hip creases.
You should never ever experience "pins and needles" or tingling. This is a massive red flag that something is wrong, remove ropes immediately
Really enjoyed creating today. Love my weaves.
For anyone following along always be aware of the back of the knees
Really loving that I have set myself this task
Have you ever been on the edge of change and you could sense that something big was coming?
That's how I feel right now.
I feel the shifts around me.
I felt so strongly to share this today.
It's not just in one area of my life at the moment it feels like the shift is coming from every direction moving me forward. It is exciting and scary at the same time. I was told by a very close friend of mine that he possibly has feelings for someone in his past. I am deeply, genuinely, 100% happy for him and simultaneously realised that although our friendship is not over, it will definitely shift and change. He is somebody who I have consistently talked with, who has consistently listened to me, and even though he is not someone that most people would consider intelligent he has the biggest heart but has had unfortunate life circumstances. So for me right now I feel happy that he has settled a little bit and also that I should in myself move forward. As much as I love his friendship and cherish it, I don't need that constant support from him anymore so our dynamic has moved from deeply needing each other to communicate or work things out, to genuine love and friendship but with space to be ourselves.
Trying to start a business and possibly having my rental home sold, all indicates to me that it's time for me to move forward. It would be easy to let yourself think these are all negative situations but for me they feel very healthy and they feel like a sign of greater things to come. That I have outgrown the space that I'm in physically, emotionally, mentally and even in my friendships. All of them moving to a deeper consciousness, a deeper type of connection, especially my friendships where they have moved from a need to a genuine love. So that constant contact is not required it is always there if I need it but all of these elements leave me in a very open, positive excited state.
I don't know where I will be at the end of the year, I don't even know where I will be in a month's time. I'm hopeful that I am on my way to finding a new home where I can settle and create a base (because although I am grateful to live here for the past month I have been a bit fed up with living in an old run down home. Wanting to be closer to the beach). I'm hoping that my business has taking charge (because it has to and I will work hard to get it there) and I have a steady flow of income and by the end of the year I know but I will be proud of how far I have come.
I knew that 2020 was going to be the most challenging year all the way back in January but also the most progressive and fulfilling year for myself. All of these challenges that have come my way, I have learnt to accept with gratitude, to not see them as negatives, but to try and grow beyond that to see where they are trying to shift me to be. Growth never comes from staying still and I feel that this year my feet have hardly touch the ground and I'm only halfway through lol.
This year for me is significant and I can feel it in every part of myself, empowering and challenging me on every turn.
Ive learnt not to believe in coincidences or in wrong timing. Everything happens for a reason and sometimes it just takes time for us to understand what the lesson is, or why we were put in that situation. If our relationship doesn't work out it's not due to bad timing, it's because it wasn't going to work in the first place and there is something greater intended for us. If I come across something that I have been considering in my life for sometime (like wanting a house a bit nicer), I don't see that as a consequence I see that as a sign.
So I'm raising my glass to challenges and the change that is coming my way. Sitting patiently with an open 💜 to receive it.
It has been one of those days. I actually had a very positive morning and was very driven and focused but that changed with sudden changes in my day that created a distraction. Single parent, studying full time (prepping for end semester exams) and trying to start up a new business to be told today I might need to move. So I didn't get much done after that. Lots of procrastinating and considering my options.
So I finally got to my rope today as I relaxed and watched Frasier lol. It made me slow down and recentre (just like it was intended💜) I have always wanted to try 2 different coloured ropes so that was on my mind today with this very simple yet oddly satisfying tie. Both ropes are cotton and this is probably one of my favorite ropes for floor work. It is soft and comfortable.
When tieing the legs if you travel up to the hips/top inner thigh there is a main artery that sits in your hip area (it's actually one of the strongest points to take a pulse). So if you are tieing up to the groin area please be careful.
Today's tie - im having technical difficulties with up load 😣😫 nullsorry it was late
I was trying to work out how to loop back down on the same side but I couldn't make it work.... next time.
nullI can sit in this tie quite comfortably for a while. This is not one that tends to make the limbs go blue (for me anyway), just ensure to wiggle your toes occasionally to ensure there is nothing strange going on.
Legs are so fun 😜
Today is the first day of the tasks I have set for myself to do a self tie each day for 30 days. Todays subject is feet.
Im one of those people who doesnt mind having my feet played with. Actually I lie I quite like it. I find it quite sensual and erotic. Extremely intimate.
Its a funny thing having your feet bound but your legs free. You still have very little movement and mobility but with the disguise of not being too pinned down 😈
Today I had a helper. Im sure she will feature in many pics here. My bestie. My fur baby. My spaz lol.
One thing I love incorporating with my ties is weaving. It makes it looks so pretty. Granted todays tie is a bit messy but thats the idea of this challenge. To explore and refine. Im using a nylon rope. I dont recommend this type of rope as it is "slippery" meaning knots can move and it also coils and twists as you pull it through. BUT I bought this rope ages ago and it is only about 3mm I beleive. I find thicker ropes for my feet are "too big to fit in here" (bonus points for movie reference if you know it). Its also cheap and easy to find at any hardware store. Additional though one thing I love is exploring different textures of different materials on my skin. This one can (and has in the past) caused rope burn but right before that point its enjoyable.
Now for the tie
Not all bunny's self tie and thats completely fine. You dont have to love the act of creating to enjoy the feeling of enclosure and securedness (new word). But being a good Bunny or Bottom means knowing your body, speaking up and advising when something feels not quite right. Your Top/Rigger/Dom is not a mind reader. Know how your body reacts. For me every single time I do rope it creates a warmth through my entire body and I soon end up feeling quite hot. Like an internal furnace. Additionally just because one bunny might be used to blue limbs doesnt mean it is right for you. There are no extra brownie points for staying in rope the longest. It depends on your experience, flexibility and even skin colour. I tend to feel the lack of blood flow way before it is noticable. Know your limits, speak up if with a partner. Because it can take time to get you out. If you wait till your last moment to say you need out, then it will need cutting the rope. This tie for me, I took the pics then got it off, my toes where just starting to blue. This was not one to sit in. Some I can wear for a while but knowing how it felt I needed to be conscious of the time.
You have ligaments around the back of the heal/leg to be aware of. Make sure to massage and wriggle the are you have just tied. Allow the blood to flow back and for me the coolness returns. If with a partner this is a nice time for gentle touching and aftercare
Enjoy your after marks (sorry should have repainted my toes lol)
I have decided to start my own self tie rope challenge. I have self tied for about 2 years, have had a rigger and a few friends give me different experiences aswell. I ABSOLUTELY ADORE ROPE. But majority of the time I find it difficult to find time or Riggers in my area so I resort to self tieing (which I still love the creativity in doing this).
I want to do this for myself as I have found myself doing lots of spiritual and mental growth but I also wish to challenge my skills and build upon them. To add a physical element and keep in touch with my submissive side. Hence why I thought going back to my first orginal love of rope was a good place to ground myself.
And hey it might be fun to post the challenges here for anyone who might wish to join me 😁
🚨🚨🚨 SAFETY WARNING contrary to what some people beleive rope has the potential for harm. If you place ropes on pressure points/nerves you can cause serious perminant damage. For this reason if you decide to join along please either make sure that someone is present with you and/or have scissors to cut rope in case of emergency. Start off just practicing the ties without too much tightness or tension on the rope until you feel more secure in your abilities.
Now that is out of the way what is the plan you might ask.... WELL lol easiest way to start I feel is to move up the body. I will set 10 areas or fun activities and cycle through them 3 times to make 30 ties. The idea is to do a solid (no breaks) 30 days of being in rope. To make time for it and enjoy it. Turn off the tv, grab some rope and join me. Would love to see other peoples images and what you come up with. Each day I will post my picture and it is up to you to either try replicate what I have done or find something else that you want to try. Building our abilities with each cycle.
The list is
1. Feet
2. Single leg
3. Double leg
4. Hip harness
5. Corset
6. Chest harness
7. Arm
8. Torso/ full body
9. Add a prop (skewers, chop sticks, flowers, wands, ect)
10. Become an object (either by shape alone or tying to an object to become one).
Cycle back through 2 more times finding different ties each time. And having fun.
YouTube has many follow along tutorials, you will also find step by step guides on Pinterest and Fetlife if you are on there
Oh and I'm self tieing out of necessity if you want to play along with a partner thats completely fine.
Ready Set Tie!!!!!
It occurs to me that I have a warped idea of what relationships are. We all have that desire to love and be loved but my previous experiences (although lovely) have led me to a place at the moment which gives me a negative perspective. And I didnt realise it until this morning.
One of the main reasons why I am not in a relationship or dynamic is because I still have dreams and things I want to do. As in, that I feel relationships are restrictive. Even in my recent last encounter with someone as soon as we made that commitment I instantly thought of the things I couldnt do, or that would have to change and be modified. Im not talking about anything sinister. Im talking of going on a holiday or plans I had made for myself. Goals, ambitions, new things I wanted to learn and activities I want to do. It is ridiculous of me to think that i can not complete or do these things that I intended (by myself) once I enter a relationship. They go on hold and I think oh well I better postpone or change that idea.
Why do i do that?
Maybe its to please others?
I make allowances for them but not for myself. And it is nothing that they do, its a conversation that happens in my head.
I know it comes from the lack of support of my ideas and expressions in the past. Carried over baggage.
Dont get me wrong I actually think it is healthy to have different interests and even seperate activities to your partner. Everyone has their thing and needs their space. But to postpone or cancel plans all together because i enter a relationship instantly sets a mindset that my ambitions and dreams are of no importance to myself. Self sabotage. Not in a relationship but sabotage of loving myself. Instantly placing myself lower and disempowering me. And it happens in a millisecond in my mind.
I beleive that it requires an internal balance. Of course with reason there are things that take adjusting and allowances for another person in my life, but not a take over. Not to put all my things on the backburner because that is not being honest with myself or them. That is keeping a part of myself locked away from them. Understanding that I dont have to be affraid of acceptance. True, honest loving acceptance is more scary to me than anything else. Its what I desire but also what makes me hide.
Subsequently it leads me to be restrictive and less open. Once the relationship ends I have my moment and then think..... time to get back to my life. All of that is so negative I never even realised my actions before. Being open in every form except with myself. Not bringing my genuine self to the process, instantly believing things will not work. Obviously something that I need to change.
For those following I have been on a self discovery for some time now.
It can be easy to step away from ones true hearts desire. Or more truthfully to have that version of it unclear. As I unclutter my mind it can be easy to forget my heart. As I try to make sense of past restrictions, emotions can become almost like a negative memories pulling me back to places I dont want to be.
So tonight I sit in silence to listen to my heart.
To my submissive heart.
To her yearnings and desires. Because only with a clear intention of both joined heart and mind can I graciously and abundantly move towards my future. Learning that time is linear and irrelevant.
My practice for tonight is to meditate naked with the loving rapture of rope. Grounding me. Keeping my heart open and acceptance of self. Loving myself for how far I have come, for the hard choices I have had to make and for the beautiful adventures ahead of me.
Its easy to point out areas where I suck, it's much harder to genuinely love not only my positive points but the bad ones too. Be observant of my thoughts and the words that I speak. Only give my attention to where I want my energy to be.
Its easy to feel lost
Its natural to feel shifts
It takes patience and silence to hear your souls direction.
We so easily fill our minds with tasks, emails, social media, personal issues, work...... breath.
Stay quiet and listen.
♾💜🙏
Nothing in nature as straight lines. Not absolutely 100% straight. Trees have notches and branches, blades of grass have slight curves, even the horizon is curved ever so slightly. Our bodies have beautiful curves and valleys.
Yet we expect our journeys or processes to evolve along a straight and forward direction with no deviation. We get angry, discouraged or give up all together if things dont go to plan.
Work.
Family.
Relationships
Submission
The dips curves and valleys is what gives us grace, gives us experience and if we stood back and took a look at where we are, who we have become, you would see your beauty and courage. Learn to love those deviations. Those curves. Going deadly straight is unnatural. And to be honest a little boring. If things went the way we had planned 100% of the time there would be no adventure, no passion, no growth.
I thought about this as I walked my dog on the beach. Wondering why she can't walk a straight line. Constantly moving from one side to the next in her happy exploration..... happy...... so happy to be looking around at everything that passes her.
Lessons do not always have to be big moments. We can learn from every little thing around us. Take the time to observe.
Observe not just others but yourself.
Observe nature.
Observe emotions.
Growth is all around us in its beauty sometimes its so slow it seems insignificant. Like watching a tree grow, reaching for the sky, building its strength. It takes time. It seems insignificant. But the end result is masterful.
Sending infinite love and gratitude to you all.
Without purpose we can feel lost, out of place, confused and waves of anxiety. Its how I can feel anyway. I tend to redirect my energy for accomplishment into temporary things of enjoyment. People, social situations and work. But they are shallow voids and I find myself back where I started. Feeling void and misunderstood.
Now that I have found my purpose and I'm working to try and get there. These things take time, as much as we would like the rewards immediately thats not how life works. We have to earn them, through learned experiences good and bad. To appreciate them and grow.
I think lack of purpose in my past has been the reasons for my unsettledness. For feeling like I dont "fit in" 99% of social situations. Always feeling like im different, destined for something other than the ordinary. So for now I sit in my position of growth and have faith (plus hard work) that I will be where I need to be. Accepting opportunities when they arrive and greeting the world with gratitude.