The Culture that has been here all the time

Hello Friends, It is a cold but beautiful winter's day here.

Once upon a time when my wife was not afflicted by a brain disease, on a beautiful sunny winter's day cold enough so the snow did not melt, we would take a ride. Through the farmlands and the hills look at the beautiful winter landscape. If a snow shower came upon us it would add to the magic. Seeing children riding their sleds down the hills, seeing wooly bully cows or horses with a blanket on. Sometimes we would stop at a place to eat lunch where they had a blazing fire in an old fireplace. The touch of smoke in the air stirred old memories when my family relied on wood-burning stoves. Then as we headed toward home the crystal blue sky began to take on the wonder of a sunset, where the horizon had gone gold and amber but the sky above was indigo; Then the stars twinkled like specs of silver in lapis lazuli.

Yes I miss those days a great deal

Hello Friends,

I am not sure if this is a bad omen but I had a bad start with our breakfast eggs: I opened the carton and one was leaky and stuck; I tried to get it out I cracked another; another attempt to dislodge it resulted in one falling to the floor. So, I cooked what I could salvage and discarded the rest. 

So this was like making lemonade from the lemons you received as a gift.

Mmmmm.  I am still adaptable and creative.

Hello, my friends,

When does foreplay begin? First, this is all in my opinion based on experience. Foreplay is more than half of the excitement and pleasure a man and woman can experience in expressing their love for each other (yes I am a heterosexual) and when young, both men and women  (from my experience ) rush through it. It is like it is as if it was just a way to get to an orgasm as quickly as possible. If you and your partner are ever going to arrive at orgasms simultaneously there needs to be several things to come into play. At least for many people who do not experience this organically. 

One communication: what is on what is off. Not necessarily kinky things it could be moods created by the milieu or special attention to erogenous zones. Music or soft light or soft murmurs. 

If It is Dom and Sub then the desires of each shall evolve and preferences shall evolve. Each will be rewarded by the evolution of their sexual relationship.  The enemy of a healthy sexual relationship is ignorance, and reluctance to respect a partner and her or his needs.

I hope I will once again be in a relationship as was what my wife, who is ill, and I once had. This time I will be a better lover for her whomever she shall be. Yes after 40 years I feel I could have been a better lover for her, I didn't realize she was a perfect sub until my recent introduction to M/S Dom/Sub subcultures.

Think it over, are you open are you using communication to improve or keep your sex life fresh and exciting?

Thinking about this my friends,

How deep do emotions go when you only meet someone online and connect with words or words with photos?

In my opinion, this is very deep: "Words are all I have to Take your Heart Away" "Words" is a song by the Bee Gees, written by Barry, Robin, and Maurice Gibb. It happened to me a couple of times. These Cyber Loves were good to a point until my heart was broken. The pain was more real than physical injury. How can this happen?

With one woman it all began with her looks and profile. Then as time went on it was apparent it was only a trick perpetrated by a website.

The deepest emotional attachment came from an encounter online, never meeting barely a quality photo so why did I fall for her? Her words were so compelling, affectionate, and warm; It seemed to indicate a wonderful woman with a mind I loved. It turned out bad and I realized I invented an image of her within me that only was a fantasy. She took advantage of me repeatedly but only online.

I finally dug deep into my courage sack and ended the torment on my terms.

Did this leave me with long-term damage? No. Now I must live by the old Russian proverb: "Trust but Verify".

Each day I manage a fresh start, and so that is where I am today. Still caring for my wife and still lonely after she is sleeping and I have about three alone hours. Now I write blogs and songs instead of dreaming of a companion who may never come to me.

Hello Friends,

Good Morning. I woke to a small snowfall just enough to make things look nice. Soon the spring flowers will poke through heralding the new season's approach. When I walk my dogs birds will be singing buds will emerge and the world will take on a new look. I hope that I will experience improvements too.

I wish the same for you who are in the Northern Hemisphere. In the Southern Hemisphere, autumn will be approaching I have never experienced Autumn there but here it is my favorite season.

Where ever you are I wish you well.

Hello Friends,

Some years ago I was spinning my wheels (so to say) single again after my second wife left me to be a single parent. We shared custody so once I felt comfortable about going out again I began to jump around from night club to night club. I had a couple of romantic dates but no regular girlfriend. This went on for several months but those months felt more like years.  Everywhere I went to: restaurants, bars, lounges, and parties, I scanned all the girls for a possible date. Collected a few numbers it was much harder than when I was active in the entertainment business. Now, a technician I wasn't as special as the singer I once was; One woman at work (not the one I would eventually marry) was a wild and crazy woman who would jump into a moshing pile I discovered on a date with her to an after-hours club in an old factory. The day we first talked ended as most work days we said our good nights to our friends and co-workers.

Went home. I had my supper. It was a Friday, the kids were with the other parents so I watched some television and then went to bed.

I awoke about 3 am and there was someone in bed with me. I raised my head and recognized it was my crazy co-worker; She then said, "I always wanted a man like you." OK with me. She turned out to be the best lover of my life up until then.

Hello Friends,

I was raised in a religious family, rejected that life until my mid-thirties and again when followers of organized religion abandoned friendship for my wife: all but one. The one barely keeps in touch but she tries; One from a membership of three hundred. My wife served well before early onset dementia. This post is not about that it is an illustration of how I have arrived at my current thinking.

Atheist? Agnostic? Do I believe that there is a realm that spirits inhabit? Maybe. I have leaned toward connecting with nature more pay much greater attention to living things around me. My scientific background leads me to doubt a great deal of what organized religion teaches. The idea of good and evil survives in my beliefs. Codes for doing profitable things and rejecting doing things counterproductive are a practical philosophy. Love. The most positive of human emotions are shared by other creatures toward good beings, the offspring, and connected social entities (family for one). "And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make. "The End" is a song by the Beatles composed by Paul McCartney (credited to Lennon-McCartney) for the album Abbey Road." So? What is this about?

I started to wonder if I would be aware of it if I died in the night. 

Would I continue in the dreams or enter a spiritual realm? Or, like the time before we are born, there is nothing to be aware of?

Hello friend,

Sweet Ginger in her blog quotes Bob Marley's comment about what he thought a perfect woman would be like his answer was impeccable. May I add this it is their imperfections that make a woman special. It adds to her uniqueness and builds endearment within me.

What a miserable world it would be if you looked at a crowd where a woman you knew was supposed to be and all the women nearly looked the same.

Every woman I loved would not stand up to the stereotypical image media would have you believe what perfection was. Each had something different to love about them. What do I know I am just a fool who falls in love with only a woman's mind revealed to me in texts only to find out she was just playing with me. Love doesn't die that easy, does it?

Hello friends,

You noticed I referred to Hippies when they seemed to emerge back in the 1960s well Being a hippie is a culture, a belief system, and a code of behavior. I recall seeing the tail end of "The Beat Generation" another counter-culture (For the subculture surrounding the literary movement, see Beatnik. For the more, see Beat Generation (play).) And for even more information, a good place to go is: I I googled this term for the 1960s and this is what came up: 

"In the 1960's, there were many counterculture movements. This included civil rights, feminism, protesting the Vietnam war, segregation, sexual revolution and many more. It is argued that those came from the left of the political spectrum. To me, it was more of an intergenerational change."

I was in contact with all these aspects through the people I knew and associated with in the music/art scene in New York City's Greenwich Village. The main subculture that philosophically touched me the most and though I couldn't immerse myself into it entirely was The Hippies. The term? "I am Hip" means you understand something. " Hey, Joe is that a gun it is dangerous.", "I'm hip man."  

            From: People also ask: How did the term hippie originate?

"The movement originated on college campuses in the United States, although it spread to other countries, including Canada and Britain. The name derived from “hip,” a term applied to the Beats of the 1950s, such as Allen Ginsberg and Jack Kerouac, who were generally considered to be the precursors of hippies."

 Do hippies exist today? Yes. For an up-to-date assessment go to this article: and discover what the current status of hippies is.

This link really comes close to my experiences and who I crossed paths with: 

Hello Friends,

Ok, you want the job. They read your resume and are interested in you. Come to work tomorrow? NO "WE have to interview you."

A prospective mate is recruited like that: arranged marriages or "Mail Order Brides".  The vast majority of us when we date gather information and logically assess our prospective mates not really. We rely on superficial things maybe our "gut " feeling. That isn't the best approach but an interview is still important romantic or not.

I have looked for a prospective date (even though currently I can not date) and when I read that she wants, to cuddle watch a movie, take a walk go out to eat once a month; that is ok. But if she wants to travel, do expensive sports, hop around clubs, and party; I can not do it.

Dom Sub: Sub Dom Protocol. Have a protocol that delineates what you will and will not do. Agree or disagree in great detail. If you want some leeway spell it out so each has a clear picture. Don't leave it to chance.