Good enough.

Thoughts of a sub whose seen too much in her young life.

In my quest to make friends and become more of my true self I have had several people commenting on my size. I'm a BBW. It's true. The last thing you should ever do, especially the first time we speak, is say "You'd be prettier if you lost weight." Or "I can help you lose the weight and have the body you always dreamed of." Oh and my all time favorite is "it's not rude to tell you that you are fat and bring nothing to the table". If this is all your going to say keep your darn comments to yourself!

I personally have struggled with my weight since 3rd grade, so it's not like it's something that just happened. It's been a life long battle! And on top of that WHO SAYS I'M NOT HEALTHY OR HAPPY THE WAY I AM?! I can say honestly I am a healthy person minus my weight. Yes I am a Little out of shape but if my own doctor doesn't have a problem with it why should you a complete stranger have a say in it? Oh that's right, YOU DONT!! So just take your nasty and mean comments and shove it!

Sorry for my angry rant it's just this has happened to me now several days in a row and I feel it's getting out of hand. No reason to bring my size into it if you cant handle it. Plus no one said i had "wanted" you as a dom. You just assumed it.

Hope everyone else has a fantastic day.

SirsSunrise(sub female) - I’m sorry Pandabear...sometimes people just suck! ❤️

5 years ago

Pandabear(sub female) - It sucks! Like I would never do that to someone else so why do it to me?

5 years ago

Little moon(sub female){Not lookin} - But pandas are so cuddly and lovable who cares about weight?😭 if you’re happy and healthy then do your thing panda boo!!

5 years ago

Pandabear(sub female) - They are also my favorite animal!!! But I know right?

5 years ago

ulfhednar - Comment deleted by poster.

5 years ago

SchrodingersDinosaur(switch female){N/a} - They gave you a gift, Panda! A big hunken RED FLAG. A good Dom/me or friend may sometimes try to help you be your best self, but they earn that right by developing a relationship with you AND loving you as you are. A stranger who postulates like that probably isn't a legit Dominant, just some dude who thinks he's got some godgiven right to arrange the world to his personal liking...

Methinks this would be a fitting response.. 'Thank you for letting me know right away that you are not someone worthy of my submission, saves both of us a lot of time. If you'd like a project subbie there are other girls out there who'd appreciate that, but not me...have a nice day and good luck in your search!'

There are Dominants that appreciate a woman for her size, not in spite of it. Anyone who doesn't, doesn't deserve you.

*Henna hugs*

P.S. ...Grrr...Henna still irritated by stoopid comment about it not being rude and claiming you bring nothing to table...serious grrr...yes, it WAS uber rude AND its his failure, not yours, to see what you bring to table, what a putz!...okay, Henna better now, climbing off soapbox...)

5 years ago

Pandabear(sub female) - Thank you for the hugs!!!

5 years ago

pizzadarling(sub female) - Ugh, concerntrolls are the worst! It's your body! You know what's best for you! People acted like I was out of touch with reality when I informed them that I was getting off the diet roller coaster ride. "You don't want to lose weight?!?" No. I want to be healthier, but not thinner, and no, those aren't the same thing, or mutually exclusive! Proud of you for turning that into anger instead of self-harm <3

5 years ago

Pandabear(sub female) - Thank yoj

5 years ago

Little momma(sub female) - Serious red flags and so damned rude! If you're happy with you, then I guarantee you will find the right Dom who thinks you are the sexiest, most beautiful thing he has ever seen. If those comments were from dominants, then I would definitely question if they were true Doms.

5 years ago

Pandabear(sub female) - Agreed

5 years ago

ADIDAS - Ok, I might not get the popular vote here but I'm gonna say it anyway. Ms. Panda, I truly DO understand how you feel. I'm not a BBW, nor have I ever been. What I've been is the polar opposite. Too thin. It amazes how total strangers have the nerve to flat out make rude comments to me about it too! Exactly what someone said above... " gosh Lady, you look like you need to go eat a sandwich" , " oh honey, are you sick?" " are you alright?" And my personal favorite.... " jeez, what kinda drugs are you on, all of them?"

Overly thin people aren't having any fun either. It's hard. Especially when you're sitting with some one who wants to lose weight and says " I'd give anything for your body!" No you wouldn't! Sure, you'd be thin alright but if you think that is going to make your body issues go away, think again. Just trading one set of issues for another. Women should have meat on their bones. Handles to hold onto, lol.... Not bones jutting out.

But I'm happy to say, it's taken me a year but I have managed to gain 8 pounds! Trying to keep them is another story... But I am.... Btw, no I'm not anorexic or anything like that, lol....

So, yes Ms. Panda I agree wholeheartedly that people are asshats! Insensitive, rude, inconsiderate, thoughtless, brain dead, audacious asshats.

"That's all I have to say about that. "
Forrest Gump

Ms. A. 💗

5 years ago

Pandabear(sub female) - You see my exact point. No one should be making statements yo anyone about someone's body! Let everyone be themselves (unless they are obviously sick than try to offer some help) but other than that just let us be. Whether we are BBW or really skinny.

5 years ago

ulfhednar - Comment deleted by poster.

5 years ago

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Pandabear​(sub female)

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Pandabear(sub female)