Master and the Sub

It totally amazes me how this lifestyle has been judged by others but someone takes the time to judge me on here. Do you know me, do you have any idea what my life has been through, have you seen the scars that adorn my body like a story of bad things. Nope you sit behind your computer in the safety of your home and pass Judgement on others . Why we may never know, were you abused as a child like many here, did you have your heart broken by someone you trusted as many here, are you jealous of what others have and you desire that you must spew your vile feelings onto others. What makes you the expert on relationships I don't remember reading your book or seeing you lecture on the subject of how to have the perfect relationship, maybe you are just as they say an internet troll. It's sad that your only 34 and you seem to think you have all the answers, reminds me of my kids there your age, right up until the point they fall down and I'm there to pick them up because my children mean the world to me. Did you not have love as a child, were you left to raise yourself ( latchkey kid) who honestly knows because you refuse to take the time to get to know someone before you pass Judgement. It's sad that you judge me and you don't know me, speaks volumes about why you are single. Judge yet not lest ye be judged wise words maybe you should learn. The one thing you don't seem to understand about me is I've been through your bullshit all my life, if you would have gotten to know me then you would know people like you are insignificant you don't pay my bills, you have zero control over my life and my life is wonderful. As I say I'm an adult I'll make my own decisions not you. On a lasting note learn how to properly use the English language your criptic way of communicating make you look un educated. I hope you find what you're looking for in this world, I hope only the best for you, because life is hard enough without people turning on each other. Hate only works if you let it,  if you truly want to know me message me we can have a nice chat about many topics I'm old enough to see things you never will and I hope you never do on some things. 

As I walk through life with my beautiful lioness by my side it's amazing how time just slips away. This same time last year I was embroiled in a court battle with my first ex wife over my house, I got it in the divorce but she wouldn't sign the papers so the reason I was in the process of divorcing my second wife. You see a person's true self when things don't go the way they want, second wife blamed me because my first wife was a bitch and it was an inconvenience she had to deal with. Got called a lollygager, I had to laugh because it's not a word I would ever associate with someone who is hyper and it definitely doesn't describe me. Now by April 24th of last year I had got my house back in my name only, remove the woman who claimed she cared and went back to being single again, also added a new 15 year mortgage to a house I only had a few years left to pay on, love can be brutal. Now may rolls around and I'm looking at local sites and seeing that most of them are not what I'm looking for, my oldest child recommends fet life, my opinion craigslist of the lifestyle not what I'm looking for. One day I see a ad for the Cage and decided to check it out, first plus I don't have to sign up just to see if I like it, second was it seemed to offer what I was looking for a partner for life not just a one time thing or short term. So I join, start browsing profiles, create my own, start talking with people, find friends, even though I knew most I talked with it wouldn't work or we didn't match in what we were looking for it was nice making a friend and discussing life, someone to bitch about the daily grind, or maybe a problem with. I wrote some blogs about my past submissive, some about my life, some of my opinion or just life in general, I enjoy writing it gives me a way to release the turbulence of thoughts always running thru my mind. So one evening while on this site I get a message from my lioness, I had seen and read her profile and as I told her I thought she sounded angry and I thought she was too young for me. We sent messages at first, then step up to pm's on the site, she said I could call her if i wanted and gave me her number. That was a phone call I will never forget, my nickname was jabber jaws as a child, I like to talk part of being hyper but that particular night we talked for 16 hours. The talks got more frequent then daily, my family got a well deserved break from me for awhile, we finally decided on her coming for a visit in July of last year, after that I flew to Maryland and we drove back. Last October we got married, something that I swore I would never do again but she is my beautiful soulmate I can't imagine my life without her. She woke up a little bit ago while I was writing this, had a bad dream and her leg was bothering her. I comforted her best I could, tucked her back into bed with her stuffy and hope she sleeps without any interruptions. It's just shy of one year we met and come October it will be our 1 year wedding anniversary, it all seems unreal she makes me so happy, she takes care of me even though my mindset is I can take care of myself it's my job to take care of her. So as I started this blog time is magical in if you're happy, things are going well it flys by as they say but if you're unhappy of life is beating you down it seams to drag by so ever slowly. My advice, find what makes you happy, content and fulfilled time will race by, don't let things drag time like and anchor stuck in the mud. To everyone best wishes, big air hug for now, lots of love. Lion and his beautiful Hazel. 

As we enter into another week passing of mother nature grounding us for our sins against her, I want to exspress a concern. While most of the country is in a state wide stay at home rule, other states are not but may soon be. We all have noticed life as we knew it changed quite drastically, ordered to stay at home only leave to get essentials, keep a 6 foot distance between us, the streets, roads, and interstates have become less traveled. Now for most of us this sounds wonderful, can drive like normal, not stuck behind ( oh for heavens sake move slow poke, put the phone down and drive dumbass, wow did they not put turn signals on that car) you get the idea. My concern is it seems that you have to be a little more careful now,  my beautiful lioness is still working and coming home to tell me about the terrible ways people are driving, running red lights, pulling out it front of her so she has to slam on the breaks, when riding her bike had someone just start moving over without looking. I also while out running an errand on my bike had a guy come into my lane headed straight at me, 4 lanes no others cars around, saw a person looking at their phone driving down the street, oh and all speed limits have been temporarily removed. So my warning to all is please be extra cautious when going out, as they say look both ways and look again, take a little more time to get where you're going rather than be in a rush and maybe miss the asshole going through the red light. This virus is bad enough, getting in a car wreck would not be enjoyable. Stay safe everyone big air hug from lion and Hazel. 

Had an eye exam yesterday, while I stood in front of the receptionist wearing a bandana looking like an old cowboy robbing a bank I explained how I was immune deficient and how my beautiful wife didn't want me out anymore than necessary. In between exams I sat in the waiting area talking with another gentleman about how things had changed, stores with no food, empty isles where toilet paper, paper towels, cleaning supplies among other things used to sit waiting for a customer to buy them. He said it makes you think hard about and I finished his sentence with how delicate life is, he agreed. Just 4 short months ago we all were living life as usual, going to work, shopping, out for entertainment, getting our kink on with never a thought that the entire world would change to this extent. My local city was already under a stay at home rule but as of midnight the entire state is on lockdown, no unnecessary trips out only to buy essentials. I grew up in a time when stores closed by 5pm and nothing was open on Sunday except hospitals and maybe gas stations then the blue law passed and now you can get just about anything you want 24 hours a day 7 days a week. But over the last few weeks it's eerily similar to those times, stores here close at 8pm sharp, restaurants haven't been open in weeks except for drive thru or carry out and they close early, streets are almost deserted, only essential people out or someone making a food run. Watching the news, you get a sense of fear, panic, and sadness as life becomes more intense as the days go by seeing the number of infected rise along with the death toll, seems like watching a futuristic movie where people are used for some gruesome entertainment while someone places a bet, giving them limited supplies, and control to see if they can survive. One thing in particular I find interesting is, remember when they invented the game where everyone sitting at a table in a restaurant eating dinner trying to be sociable and the first person to grab their phone had to pay the bill. Makes you think God or some devine intervention, maybe nature is forcing us to slow down a bit, stay at home, quit running full speed ahead, enjoy life, enjoy family and friends be more sociable in our lives, see all these numbers as human's that we didn't take the time to get to know because we're wrapped up in being anti social or on the phone. Something so small it has to be seen with a microscope is taking down something as big as the world as we know it. Life is delicate, so cherish everyday with the same wonderment a child has discovering something new. To all please be safe, prayers and best wishes in these uncertain times. Lion and Hazel eyes. ??

Another day Americans are home quarantined, seriously which one of you little shits broke mom's favorite toy? Now we're all fucking grounded. It's kinda funny if you think about how we all bitch about working to much, not having time to do things or get things done, but the biggest complaint I heard is I'm bored or I feel trapped. I'm old enough to remember the Corona beer commercial which showed a man and woman sitting in lounge chairs on the beach when his pager goes off and he skips it across the ocean. They promoted unplug from the world for awhile. I totally understand the pressure from all this, financially some will be hit harded than others, fear of contracting this virus,  fatal for me and a lot of people. Watching as the world looks bleak at the moment, my father said he's never seen anything like this before and he was right in the middle of the cold war in the military. That whole scenario hinged on one thing, so since we have the power to do our part in all of this just by staying home I will gladly sit on my ass until the all clear comes from powers above my pay grade. To everyone stay safe, healthy, informed, but most of all laugh your ass off, tell jokes, play pranks on someone, enjoy your grounding the best you can. Oh and whoever broke mom's favorite toy were all not happy with you.? Big giant Air Hug to all.  Oh and if you think you have it rough I'm confined with a full blooded Greek woman with an attitude and she knows how to play pranks. ?

Well they call it social distancing in the news nowadays but it's been around for quite some time. Some people because of economics suffer it because they can't afford to be say more social cost money to attend events or go to dinner, movie, shopping, ect. Then there are the mentally isolated, think fear of going out or fear of crowds, anxiety attacks keep them isolated from people. Then we have people like my mother she would never leave home if possible she just doesn't like to go out. Then you have me, I don't enjoy going out but once out I don't want to go home two side fighting between themselves. Over the past 10 years since I left work I just don't go out much, some reasons are little money to spend on outside entertainment, lack of friends that have time to go out with, health issues. Now since I met my beautiful lioness I have been out more than the past years and it's been great but I had to realize the other day I'm playing Russian roulette with every trip out into society. Let me explain, with my gunshot I lost my spleen, I knew from the doctor that I had a lower immune system than others. I was told that I would need a booster shot of some kind every 5 years, when I ask about it many years ago I was informed it was just a pneumonia shot so I didn't get one. Ever since covid 19 hit I didn't think much about it, Hazel was concerned but hell it was the flu. Now last night I did a little research on living without a spleen and how many things I was susceptible to, pneumonia, meningitis, influenza, you get the idea, well let's just say that going out to run errands took on a whole new level of being a little more cautious about social distancing because any of those things would almost certainly kill me. I am not afraid of dying but the thought of leaving my lioness behind, would hurt her worse than the things she has been through. I found my soulmate and don't want to lose her due to my thinking I'm invincible because I hardly get sick. So in times like these please know that you not alone, if you have a significant other, if you have parents, kids, friends, work friends, pen pals, hobby friends, strangers that you can talk with, hell talk to yourself I do and it makes Hazel laugh at my conversations. Be sociable with all this technology that us old folks didn't have, most will have no idea what it's like to write a letter, mail it and wait for a week or two for a reply. Be cautious for yourself but also for those at a higher risk, practice what they taught you when you were young wash your hands, most of all take time to value your life, because so many have already lost theirs and more are going to. From both of us to all of you Big Air Hug. ??

I am totally fascinated with humans, they never disappoint me, some are quite entertaining, some are quite intriguing, most are normal, but there are the one's who are predictable that are fun to observe you learn a lot about them. All through history people have been studied, analyzed, researched, and quite frankly programmed to respond or act in a particular way due to a situation or influence. Let me now explain,  there have been focus groups for years trying to figure out what politician you will vote for and why, there are studies done to analyze how people respond to a crisis, war, economic fluxes in the stock market, national security, immigration, many more. Then there is the advertising industry, designed solely to analyze, study, conduct psychological research on how to get people to buy their products and continue to buy their products. They even have people who clean up bad press about their products incase they offend you the consumer. Now I will give you a project, while you are at the grocery store, Walmart, target, or wherever you shop make notes on which products are missing from the shelves. Yes I know about the obvious, toilet paper, disinfectant wipes, purell, paper towels, cleaning products, note here: that if you don't already have cleaning products in your home how often are you cleaning you home, something to think about next time you borrow the bathroom at someone's home. I'm talking more about food items trip to Walmart the other night revealed quite a lot about humans, this is a list of things I noticed missing from the shelves, bread, frozen pizza, french fries, (hot pockets, this company hasn't sold this many in years,) corn dogs, white castles burgers, pre made meals think TV dinners, pf chang meals, most any frozen throw in a microwave or oven, pre made spaghetti sauce, sugar, flour, cereal,  lunch meat, potato chips, popcorn, cookies, crackers, bottled water, canned soups, ramen, canned tuna, are you getting an idea of what kinds of foods people are eating. Now let me tell you what there was plenty of, meat, chicken, beef, pork, turkey, seafood,  fruits and vegetables, rice that requires cooking the old fashioned way. If it involved cooking it or seemed to be healthy for you there was plenty, good thing I love to cook from scratch, humans left me plenty to work with. In a time in this country when a large portion of the population is obese, overweight, has diabetes, has heart issues you would think that all the things good for you would be flying off the shelves but the items I saw gone looked more like food I ate as a teenager or what college kids live on. They say quarantine yourself for 2 weeks, since your going to be home with not much to do wouldn't this be the time to make good food choices rather than eating like you work 60 hours a week with no time to cook. Seeing what things were missing gave me information about what people were eating and how people shop all this is being analyzed as I write this by companies looking over their sales invoices so that incase of a next event now how much product to ship to stores and what price they can increase their products to. Seems like we as humans have been trained quite well over the years on how to react, what to buy and when to buy it. Powers that be have made us submissive so they can call themselves master. Just my opinion after an observation. Big hug to all, stay healthy. 

I have found over time that many people have this quality about them and then there's the percentage of people who lack the most basic of common sense. As we were taught from a young age the stove is hot, look both ways before crossing the street, looks like rain take an umbrella, you get the idea. So in the evolutionary scale shouldn't those who lack the common sense thing be dead? I see it on the news, read it on social media,  encounter it in person ask myself what were or are you thinking, oh sorry they weren't. So as with past deadly viruses,  sars, bird, influenza, just to name a few why are so many missing the most important thing, hell there putting it on the news wash your fucking hands folks. Have seen so many people buying hand sanitizer and disinfecting wipes like it's a limited edition barbie that will be worth millions. Oh let's not forget the mad rush to buy toilet paper, I don't think I read anywhere that this particular flu was making you shit yourself like a drunken man after eating taco bell, can we say explosive diarrhea. Biggest problem with this flu is pneumonia like effect on the body which can be fatal,  I know because I had both pneumonia and sepsis while in the hospital from my gunshot, 8 ivs filled with antibiotics. So what in the fuck is having enough toilet paper to wipe everyone's ass in your neighborhood for a month going to do? I say again wash your hands, I find it most funny that people are freaking out about this on a major scale but ask how many of them have had sex with a stranger via no condom and it's quite a high number. So you're willing to get a really nasty disease that you could avoid by using a condom but you need to disinfect your entire house for fear of the flu. Seems common sense went right out the window, friends it's pretty simple, wash your hands after contact with anything your not willing to put in your mouth, drink plenty of juice with vitamin c, get plenty of rest, relax don't get stressed it lowers your immune system, avoid people who show signs of being sick, stay home if you are sick so as to not infect others. Fear causes chaos and that leads to people buying all the toilet paper and like you I don't want to wipe my ass with newspaper,  oh shit I forgot this is the digital age there are no newspapers. Damn there goes another perfectly good pair of underwear.  Big hug to all from both of us and yes she made sure we had plenty of toilet paper. ??

This has been the plot line of many a good books, plenty of movies but what about life? What is good, well we might think about our health, the food we're eating, a book we read, movie we saw, a smell, a thought of something or someone, many things could be classified as good. Evil what comes to mind, murder, abuse, smoking, drinking, drugs, atheists, lawyers, politicians, BDSM, LGBT. Lots of things people have labeled good or evil, to one person something is good to another it's evil. Here on this site looms both good and evil, people come to this site looking for what most would classify as something or someone good but in some instances find the evil. No it's not the evil of Satan or a demon going to rip your soul out feasting on it for pleasure but more of the evil ways and thoughts people have. Reading blogs here you get the sense of it just takes that one apple to spoil the whole bunch or in this case the asshole who thinks being a dominant is asking for naked pictures, demanding a submissive on a first contact to obey them like there a jedi with mind control. I'm old so it's ghosting nowadays in my time we called it an inconsiderate prick blowing you off. This site like many others in this day and age needs a vetting process just like in my time we ask a young lady out on a date if she was interested she said yes, no ment just that, she didn't find you attractive or interesting enough to waste her time.  Not to sound one sided plenty of dominants have been subjected to this behavior as well and it seems age is not a factor young or old ghosting is just another way to fuck with you digitally. I can't stress this enough ask fucking questions, asking questions gives you information and power to make an informed decision about whether you want to invest your time, feeings, and emotions into someone who might just waste your time. My beautiful lioness is all I could ever ask for, but let me say lots and I mean lots of questions were ask, some were asked more than once because we both had been hurt before by others we wasted our time on. Doesn't matter if you're a dominant or a submissive ask questions, talk to other doms or subs hell ask the opposite side questions they can help you in how things should be in this lifestyle but remember to protect yourself, evil can come in all forms. Hope everyone is doing well,  big hug from the lion den.

Perception a way one perceives how someone or something is looked at. Glass half full, half empty, color of your skin, which sex you are may be factors of how you are perceived by someone else. Many factors can affect why one sees things the way they do, way you were raised, social influence, economic influence,  religious beliefs, lifes bitter experience may open or close your eyes to how you perceive people or things. Judgment comes from our perception of people and things. Acceptance, ones ability to understand, be educated about something and come to terms with it. This may not be something that you believe in or participate in but you have accepted it as part of life or the way things are. Tolerance, ones ability to put up with, live with, someone or something that may irritate or rub us the wrong way we may do this out of love, respect, or just not to cause more problems. This lifestyle is perceived by others as wrong, some are accepting, some are tolerant but for the most part no physical harm comes from society,  people don't physically abuse you at a bar, nightclub,  or just walking down the street because of your choice to live this life.  LGBT people are perceived as not normal, their rights are taken away, they are physically abused,  discriminated against, left feeling alone, commit suicide. The year is 2020 when do we as human beings start to act like caring, compassionate, accepting, tolerant people instead of perceiving things we don't understand or are uneducated about and passing Judgment? I write this standing in the middle between my older parents set in their ways, misconceptions, and perceptions and my 2 transgender children who have to live in this world full of racism, hate, the perception that they are not normal. I only see how loving, caring, helpful, friendly, outgoing, funny they are why can't others. As with this life style perception can give it a oh that's not normal, but education can bring acceptance or at least tolerance.  I implore all who have been passed Judgement on to educate those who perceive people who are different as wrong or not normal. For my children I will always protect them, stand by their choices and be accepting and tolerant because I lovek them. My only wish is to one day see a world where we are all seen as humans with no labeling. Peace be with you all.