Help me teach my husband to be a dom.

The fact that you said, "I want him to be selfish and domeneering." Is a big red flag to me.

No /true/ dominant will be either of those. If that's what you're looking for I do suggest you reevalua ...

Mon Nov 12, 2018 10:53 am • 28 Replies • 14037 Views

What do you do for fun? / What type of D/S are you?

According to the test now that I understand more, I'm a Rigger/Mistress/Primal dominant Haha. Rope bunny was #1 cause, admittedly, I do still like to submit in bed and mostly in ways where I'm tied up ...

Mon Nov 12, 2018 9:23 am • 35 Replies • 19303 Views

Does anyone on here use BDSM as a way of processing sexual assault?

So, here's the thing...

Everyone copes differently.

It makes complete sense that BDSM would be one method if you do any sort of research on it. There are a bunch of articles and recountings ec ...

Sat Nov 10, 2018 12:04 pm • 25 Replies • 10654 Views

What just happened?! Found pet i want keep ..im hella new!

Everything that my Wolfy said, I second. He was/is patient and willing to work with me while I figure myself out in the lifestyle, and that makes a /huge/ difference. Being able to have the trust that ...

Fri Nov 09, 2018 12:01 pm • 8 Replies • 5381 Views

First session with mistress at nuetral site

I definitely agree that going somewhere not related to the lifestyle is a smart and safe option. Get to know them over dinner or coffee. Learn to trust them - since that's a big deal in this community ...

Wed Nov 07, 2018 10:02 pm • 8 Replies • 3497 Views

Alternative Names?

I feel like the names are totally up to the two of you.

I don't really use any "BDSM names" for my husband. A lot of them - just for me - dont feel right to use on him. Because of the connotation ...

Wed Nov 07, 2018 11:47 am • 19 Replies • 8690 Views

Consequences for Invoking Safe-Word

No one in their right mind should punish for using the safe word. I dont even understand where that thought would come from. What the heck?

Sat Nov 03, 2018 7:10 pm • 33 Replies • 17967 Views

Anyone excited for the new Pokemon game and Fantastic Beasts movie?

I'm super frigging excited!! Preordered the games as soon as I could and you bet I'm gonna be driving an hour+ to get to a good theater to see Fantastic Beasts. My inner geek is squealing.

Fri Nov 02, 2018 3:16 pm • 12 Replies • 8206 Views

Love and BDSM

It can absolutely coexist, imo.

I'm still new to everything and we haven't gone far into S&M at all, but if my husband asked for more pain (Really all I've done is slapping his ass or scratchin ...

Fri Nov 02, 2018 7:21 am • 7 Replies • 4137 Views

*WELCOME to THE CAGE!* Introduce Yourself Here

Hello everyone!

I'm pretty new to the community and trying very much to learn everything and anything I can about it, to try and deepen my understanding, find out if where I believe I fall is actu ...

Thu Nov 01, 2018 8:08 am • 3043 Replies • 883776 Views