Advice for starting BDSM?

BDSM is such a big field with so many options for kinds of relationship and ways to play!

If you haven't yet, I'd recommend reading some of the essential how-to books to give you both ideas for opt ...

Thu Aug 26, 2021 4:40 am • 7 Replies • 2704 Views

Re: The Art of Introductions

I'm curious if any other subs have this problem and what their view point on it is; as well as what other doms thoughts are. I'm not sure if I'm being over dramatic as this is a sexual website.

I d ...

Tue Aug 24, 2021 6:02 pm • 21 Replies • 5920 Views

Punishments

Punishments (or whether punishment is used at all) are highly individual to different peoples' different relationships, but if you want some general examples to give you ideas:

https://www.consensu ...

Mon Aug 23, 2021 6:07 pm • 16 Replies • 7898 Views

Blocking

There's an easy way to ensure that you never again have problems being blocked by people you barely know. Here's what you do:

Step 1: Accept that people you barely know do not owe you their time or ...

Mon Aug 23, 2021 8:56 am • 72 Replies • 18346 Views

Re: Chivalry is dead

Thanks to third wave feminists. You can't want everything exactly the same to the point you shout at men who hold doors open for women and call them sexist and then complain chivalry is dead.

What ...

Sat Aug 21, 2021 9:30 pm • 57 Replies • 16356 Views

Blow Jobs as punishment

A key thing to learn about kink culture is that there isn't a standard manual with precise definitions for the jargon we use. There are lots of people with strong feelings about exactly how they think ...

Sat Aug 21, 2021 9:35 am • 23 Replies • 13162 Views

Munches, parties and events

Yup: Fetlife.

Use the "Places" tab to find your town, then look at the associated Groups and Events. You'll have to sift a little bit--they way they match groups to places is far from perfect and t ...

Fri Aug 20, 2021 5:00 pm • 6 Replies • 2616 Views

Artwork and BDSM

I have an abstract painting I treasure that came out of a house party years ago.

There was a group scene that was the focus of the night and that involved drawing blood. That resulted in having syr ...

Fri Aug 20, 2021 7:26 am • 8 Replies • 2411 Views

Is Anal Play Taboo For Young, Straight Subs?

Anal is great for people who like it and no good for people who don't like it. Isn't a male or a female thing, and it doesn't have to be a sub or a dom thing--everybody has an asshole.

What's absol ...

Thu Aug 19, 2021 5:29 pm • 76 Replies • 38011 Views

Anal play for beginners

Anal Pleasure and Health, by Jack Morin, is the ultimate resource for all things anal.

For basics, like Daniel said: use twice as much lube as you think you need, start with something small and go ...

Tue Aug 17, 2021 5:12 pm • 9 Replies • 2745 Views