Lifestyle vs “bedroom” play

Yay you for knowing who you are and what you want/need.

This is as good a place as any, and i think probably better than some places if you want kink because there is a great core group of stable ...

Thu Sep 16, 2021 12:42 am • 18 Replies • 6880 Views

Is Anal Play Taboo For Young, Straight Subs?

This thread has been around for awhile, and resurfacing again. i noticed that i'd read it, but never responded.

i don't know that age is really much of a factor? i was anal way before i discover ...

Wed Sep 15, 2021 5:24 pm • 76 Replies • 44149 Views

Military BDSM

i agree with much of what SubtleHush says.

i think a lot of people who identify as "dom" approach D/s from the top down. What i mean is, they are looking for someone who submits from day one, or mo ...

Wed Sep 15, 2021 3:46 pm • 6 Replies • 5812 Views

Subspace - here's mine, can you tell me yours?

@Thotferatu

The experience was out of left field for me, totally unexpected. If someone had told me ahead of time: "hey, you look like a good candidate for regression" i'd have likely rolled my eye ...

Mon Sep 13, 2021 9:07 pm • 19 Replies • 5832 Views

Re: How do you determine the difference for yourself?

How do you determine whether your hesitation is simply a fear of jumping in, or intuition (“your gut”) telling you it’s just not the right path for you?

Ooooo, great question! (caution: nerd alert ...

Mon Sep 13, 2021 5:59 pm • 28 Replies • 7702 Views

Where to find *real* subs

Ok. Wow. I get the feeling in the room!
I think I have found a starting point. Thanks for the wake up call

lol, you "think?"

i think for many, the qualifier "real" in your question makes it ...

Mon Sep 13, 2021 4:46 pm • 23 Replies • 10886 Views

Questioned role

@ House Talon.

my initial, visceral response to what those people said to you is "fuck that." lol, sorry. Hopefully, i would keep that to myself in actuality and respond as you did when confronted ...

Sat Sep 11, 2021 9:51 pm • 13 Replies • 6535 Views

SPOT THE DIFFERENCE?

i think you have some great answers.

i will add that i think the question and answer to your first question is subjective, so there is no universal answer. We are all fluid and change, so the term ...

Sat Sep 11, 2021 8:15 pm • 15 Replies • 9004 Views

Golden showers

Golden showers can be an awesome part of WS (aka 'watersports').

Like others have expressed, it has a huge psychological/humiliation/degradation layer to it for me. Degradation/humiliation can ha ...

Sat Sep 11, 2021 7:37 pm • 53 Replies • 27889 Views

Less Experienced Dom and More Experienced Sub

@ButterfliesAndCuffs​

i think that in some D/s dynamic, simple communication can be construed as trying to 'top from the bottom' or control things. And that can indeed happen, eh? To me it has to ...

Sat Sep 11, 2021 4:29 pm • 13 Replies • 8106 Views