Dear Kit...BDSM vs Love

@MasterKit​(sadist female){Hmmm}

"Do you think that love in our realm should be monogamous? What I mean is, should that love be for only one? To me, this lifestyle...is one of trust in body. "

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Mon Jan 18, 2021 8:36 am • 12 Replies • 4057 Views

Dear Kit...BDSM vs Love

Define "love."

i do not know if it is possible? i have examined and worked at it for most of my life, and have a working definition, but it is incomplete. And that, for me, points to another o ...

Sun Jan 17, 2021 9:11 pm • 12 Replies • 4057 Views

Typo or My Subconscious?

Extrapolating.

Waiters are in a chosen servant profession, most 'slaves' are also bottoms, so topping would prolly be a welcomed tip (butt prolly not just the tip)

Thu Jan 07, 2021 12:36 am • 5 Replies • 2154 Views

Why are dominant women the smallest demographic in BDSM?

Wow, i think there are some great and thoughtful replies to this.

Ditto those who point out that a lot of guys do not make a distinction between bottom and sub. i'm gay, but i was married to a wo ...

Thu Jan 07, 2021 12:22 am • 47 Replies • 18515 Views

What are some non-sexual traits or things that turn you guys on?

Self awareness/openness
Awareness of others/listening
Curiosity/the desire to see and understand

Wed Dec 23, 2020 7:34 pm • 119 Replies • 32745 Views

Re: Can you be a sub and still be a feminist?

How do you indulge your submissive side while also maintaining your own sense of power and independence? What would a D/s relationship look like if that dynamic didn’t apply 24/7? All advice is greatl ...

Wed Dec 23, 2020 1:34 am • 15 Replies • 4342 Views

Domestic Discipline

Personally, stuff like domestic discipline and punishment do not connect with or evoke the sub in me.

i do not see discipline and punishment as synonymous. To me, just the idea of punishment shut ...

Wed Dec 23, 2020 1:09 am • 8 Replies • 4163 Views

Looking for special someone

Ditto dijinn.

Adding some thoughts as well.

i did read your profile, it's sparse. So is your ad. You note that you are in a poly relationship, but do not make clear in your ad or profile that ...

Sun Dec 20, 2020 8:31 pm • 9 Replies • 2562 Views

Why is it so hard

i'll venture some thoughts.

Anger is an emotion, it isn't necessarily rational. If a person knows they are real, questioning that they are may hurt them. i think anger is often, if not usually? an ...

Sun Dec 20, 2020 7:51 pm • 20 Replies • 6158 Views

No dommes want me ???

Ditto Kara.

@ShadowyXx

This is meant to help.

The title of your thread it "No dommes want me." To which i would reply: "Who are you?"

Your profile is sort of generic and virtually emp ...

Thu Dec 10, 2020 4:59 am • 16 Replies • 7170 Views