Bet Ya Can't Eat Just One

Snickers frozen ice-cream bars.

OMG, right? i cannot believe how good these things are. The candy bar itself is no comparison and i passed the ice-cream version by for years thinking they'd just ...

Tue Feb 20, 2024 6:23 pm • 36 Replies • 1623 Views

Do You Copy & Paste?

I am with Snow on this one. If you are not willing to put in effort on the initial "investment" on the encounter, how can some one expect you to put the effort in the relationship? Sub/dom is no diffe ...

Tue Feb 20, 2024 5:57 pm • 63 Replies • 6606 Views

Continue watching BDSM porn?

i agree with TopekaDom's assessment of BDSM porn being "90% crap" (and think that's true of porn in general). i can't really weigh in on straight porn, only really familiar with the gay stuff, but im ...

Fri Jan 26, 2024 9:43 pm • 9 Replies • 970 Views

My ex revealed his kink to me and I don't know what to do

i think you've gotten some great input here. i also suspect you derived something just by writing it down, sort of like journaling. It can really help put things in order to write it down.

To me, ...

Fri Jan 19, 2024 6:40 pm • 24 Replies • 4585 Views

Re: Looking for advice

I have been in a relationship with a submissive for a year and a half and we've gotton along very well.
I miss being with her and she feels the same.
When we sit down to talk though, the conversa ...

Fri Jan 19, 2024 5:30 pm • 18 Replies • 2243 Views

Writing vs phone vs chat

For those who want to nerd out, here's some science on the topic (it's long). Interesting find that with kids, texting can actually help develop communication skills and establish/maintain bonding... ...

Sat Jan 13, 2024 7:00 pm • 13 Replies • 1507 Views

Writing vs phone vs chat

I liken face-to-face as getting to know eachother from the outside in. Whereas writing I see as getting to know eachother from the inside out. )

i love this!! This describes how i feel so well. ...

Sat Jan 13, 2024 6:00 am • 13 Replies • 1507 Views

Writing vs phone vs chat

To me, generally the 'best' format for communication is face to face. That incorporates things like tone, visual cues, as well as words.

Online? i like writing as a means of getting to know someo ...

Fri Jan 12, 2024 10:29 pm • 13 Replies • 1507 Views

Surviving online with a new sub

Big topic.

To me, comparing online with irl is sort of like comparing a Hummer with a Swatch car. Both are technically cars, but a list of realistic expectations of where the former car can take ...

Wed Jan 10, 2024 5:52 pm • 18 Replies • 1888 Views

Cock worship.

i'm a total bottom gay guy. Simply put (it's more complex for me), being "total bottom" means receiving a Mans penetration, but i never penetrate.

That said, as a bottom, i do not perceive mysel ...

Sat Jan 06, 2024 7:10 pm • 13 Replies • 2539 Views