Master and the Sub

This is nothing information, educational, here but kinda funny story. So last year before my beautiful lioness got here to visit we were talking on the phone one morning and she got rear ended, did a significant amount of damage to her jeep, guy wasn't paying attention. So a few weeks later after all the damage is repaired, she has her mom drive the jeep home after picking up her motorcycle. Mom leaves before her, on her way home she sees an accident, thinks that looks like my jeep, oh shit it is, mom wasn't paying attention and rear ended a car, so back to the repair shop, she got it back right before her visit. So Saturday night I ordered pizza after we both worked in the yard all day, quick and easy. Went picked up the pizzas, turned on my street, tried to hurry up and back her jeep into the driveway before the car behind me got up the street, boom hit the speed limit sign that has been sitting at the end of the driveway for almost 30 years I've lived here. My first thought oh shit, second thought she's going to kill me, parked the jeep, grabbed the pizzas, looked at the back of the jeep, oh shit just a scratch, now the sign on the other hand is leaning 45 degrees pointing towards my backyard. Luckily she loves me, I will never live it down but I'm still breathing as of now. Hope everyone had a wonderful weekend. Big hug 

In a conversation with a dear friend of mine he used the term old guard in this lifestyle, now my mind went to an image of an old white guy sitting in a chair with a finely tailored suit, a glass of expensive bourbon in his right hand, and a tightly wrapped cuban burning in between his fingers grasped in his left hand, with a beautiful young naked girl at his feet and him with a wry smile knowing what wealth and power could get you. He replied it was when you served as a submissive before coming a dominate, not at all what I was thinking, I ask if he had been trained this way and he replied no. So after a few days of pondering my thoughts I can say I was born a submissive, now unless your born with a attitude of an evil fucking person or on the day you had your first thought after soiling your diaper I am a dominate, I think we are all born a submissive and at some point in life decide to become either a dominate or submissive via our own decision or life experiences. As a child I was always told children are to be seen not heard, many relatives told me to sit down and shut up, one baby sitter used to lock me in a room until lunch then I made the mistake one day of putting my elbow on the table and getting the back of her hand across my face knocking me to the floor, think she might have been a sadist, needless to say I didn't get lunch and back to the room for not having proper manners. Years later I had my ass beat by a lady we were staying with at the time with a razor strap, blood running down both legs because I got caught playing hide and seek with my brother when we should have been in bed. Countless school bullies would keep me a submissive, as I got older bosses would because of the threat of losing my job, an ex wife because I didn't and still don't enjoy confrontation and the children were involved. I have always known I was a master, I always wanted to be in charge and took charge in my jobs when I could, was told I would make good boss because I was fair but stern. I'm a Leo so for me it's always meant being strong and fight back which I've had to do most of my life, being submissive when the occasion demanded but deep down always knowing who I truly was. Today I still don't enjoy confrontation but I will fight you if I believe I'm right and I stand my ground if I truly believe in my cause. So I say this if you have compassion, empathy, love for all things good and wonderful, can bring yourself to see how others feel, wisdom from a lifetime of pain and servitude, knowledge from what life has taught you then you might make a good master. I wish everyone a wonderful day, big hug but I'm headed off to be a lioness tamer. Until next blog I bid you all a fair well. Lion

I just read a friends blog and would like to ask all of you this question. Are you happy? Now let me start with this I'm happy I have damn good reason to be I found my soulmate, but wait there's more. I was happy before I met my beautiful lioness,  how can that be you ask, let me explain. My life has been a interesting one, moved 31 times in 29 years, been abused both physically and mentally, seen things done things most will never do. But I learned a valuable lesson in life its not others who make you happy it's yourself. Someone comes into your life to make it better, whether it be love, strength, companionship or some other reason. Truth is I don't need one specific person to make me happy I have my parents who love me, I have my children who love me, I have friends who love me, I have pets for companionship, I can play with myself if I'm horny. Don't need anyone to wash my clothes, do my dishes, mow my yard, run my errands, no one to fix my problems, I can go to concerts, the movies, out to dinner,  whatever I want, I'm a grown adult who was taught to take care of myself. Now let's talk about want I want out of my life, someone to love, someone to share my life with, someone to correct me when I'm being an ass, someone who helps me when I'm to stubborn to ask, someone to make memories with, someone to take care of, someone who will think about me when I'm gone, someone I can say makes me whole when I already think I am. This is what my beautiful lioness brings to me, I don't need her to do my bidding, I want her to know where she stands in my life, as an equal no better no worse. So in this lifestyle and in a dynamic don't think what can I do think what can we do because you should already have everything you need go after what you want. If you truly are happy then your partner can only take you to a new plain of happiness you didn't know existed. Love yourself for all that you are and share your love with someone who sees it. Just my crazy thoughts from my life. Big hug to all,  love from Lion.

I want to offer a warning to all the beautiful subs on here trying to find their present and hopefully long term Dominant. This morning I read a blog post about a dominant that was going to give up because some people thought he was a weirdo. A couple of subs had already responded with positive words, I wrote a comment also that was reassuring that we are all one big weird family here. Went to show my lioness the blog because she's the type to give words of encouragement. My comment had been deleted, why what was worded to cause this reaction. I had even gotten likes on my comment. So I give this warning to all subs, this person who wants sympathy because he felt out of place is just a child looking for attention, any dominant worth your time will treat you with respect from the first point of contact. He has since talked inappropriately to 2 of my friends and blocked them, he has blocked both me and my lioness. Seems he's not the dominant or man that he projects himself to be. On the west coast and little to no information on his profile, poor little boy needs to grow up because if you can't take criticism than you will never learn how to better yourself. To him I say I'm sorry that you haven't learned how to properly treat a submissive or a woman. Much love to all Lion.?

I want to ask, why to the Dominate that I wrote a very nice and witty comment, and you decided to deleted. Did I threaten your ego in some way shape or form? Did I threaten your manhood? I was trying to be supportive for the fact that you were judged fo being weird here. Are you just a posser looking for attention? My friends here will see through your bullshit, especially if you're not real. It kind of shocked me that I was trying to be nice to you, and you went and deleted my comment, but no one else's. Did I do something to you in a past life that I don't know about? Please feel free to let me know why I was the only comment you deleted. Sincerely, Lion.

I have to tell this story, it's funny. Let me start at the beginning! Way back, before I was introduced to this lifestyle, I had a one night stand with my neighbor (yes, Hazel knows and it's fine, our past is just that our past). So, when I had this tryst (I'll call her K) barked out orders and instructed me on what to do, I had never had anyone tell me what to do in the bedroom and didn't really know what a Dominate or sub was at the time. This kind of shocked me, but hey I hadn't had sex in years after the divorce, and I wasn't going to turn it down. Now, I met my second wife/sub and was educated fast on everything. I now realize that my neighbor was a Dominate in the bedroom. Now, fast forward to when I brought hazel here last September, she is very good at protecting me, she makes sure if I'm sleeping nothing wakes me up, she's quiet, keeps the dog from barking, intercepts the phone, you get the picture. Now picture this, my bedroom window is located on the garage side of my neighbors house (like all houses around here), so when K let's her dog out and he barks it's right next to my window waking me up. Now, let me explain something I am a Dominate or Master outside of the bedroom as well as in. My father, I see as more a submissive to my mother nothing wrong with it, they have been married over 50 years. Now, my pets are more submissive in the fact when I raise my voice to tell the cats to quit scratching the furniture they stop, when I tell my dog to be quiet when she barks she stops. My neighbor who can give commands in the bedroom is submissive to her dog, case in point, (I'll call the dog A for this part) "A stop, A stop" this is done in a voice tone that is soft and low, which welds no results and A continue's to bark. Please understand that if this Lion does not get at a minimum of 6 hours of sleep, he becomes very irritable and cranky, so in steps my beautiful lioness (when she got here), kindly asked K to keep her dog from barking, because I was sleeping, assured it wouldn't happen again. It happened, lioness tells K again in a more stern voice can you please keep the dog quiet. Now my lioness starts her job, night shift 3pm to midnight, A starts barking one morning, lioness tells the neighbor to shut the dog up she works nights, I also tell K this. Dog continues to bark driving us both insane. Around Christmas I have a few M-80's so one morning dog barks, I get up, light M-80 toss outside, loud boom, A runs across the yard and heads to the backdoor "Merry fucking Christmas!". Around New Years, dog barks M-80 goes boom "Happy New Year's mother fucker!", A is paranoid at this point. One afternoon we're in the kitchen and A is starting to take a piss, I say look there's A, lioness gets up A see's her through the back door cuts off mid stream and heads for the door, we both laugh are ass off. About a month ago I was sleeping, A starts barking by my window, I get up, go to back door yell at A to shut the fuck up, K tells me to just go back in the house, I tell her to shut the dog up, tell her I'll report the dog, and I shut the door. After that when the dog started barking, we hear K telling A to be quiet, K has always been submissive to me in the form of a neighbor until the day she got lippy, not sure what changed after that day, but it's been somewhat quieter now, he still barks and she still uses the low tone when she needs to dominate him into learning when barking is allowed. Pets and people are either submissive or dominate, but it takes a good Dominate to teach their submissive the proper way, so as to not annoy the neighbors. LOL Hope everyone is well, have a wonderful day! Lion

Why does one blame themself for something they didn't do? The wife who got dinner on the table late because she didn't have a good day, husband berates her or hits her. She blames herself for not being a good wife. Girl blames herself for not being pretty enough or thin enough or tall enough to get the high school jock. Woman blames herself for being raped, I shouldn't have worn those clothes, shouldn't have been in the bar, shouldn't have had a drink, just should have stayed home. First off the husband was an inconsiderate fucking prick, no empathy for others all about me. High school jock, just a egotistical person or he just wasn't into you, nothing wrong with her, his loss. Lastly the woman did absolutely and I repeat absolutely not one fucking thing wrong, she is entitled to go out, entitled to have a drink or two, entitled to wear whatever she wants with a somewhat level of guarantee that no man should ever fucking touch her, period. Two dates on a calendar haunt my beautiful lioness, we had a conversation about them, she blames herself for what she was wearing, where she was, and what happened. I told her in no way, shape or form was anything she did her fault, this person was a worthless piece of shit, that deserves to have karma slowly remove his balls with a plastic knife very slowly while injecting salt during the process. I asked her if you get robbed while at the grocery store do you starve to death because you blame yourself for needing food. I am trying to help her it's been 24 years since it happened, I don't want her blaming herself for what happened, I want her to live the most amazing life being the beautiful woman that she is, I want her to be able to wear what she wants, anytime she wants. I have had things happen in my life, I did blame myself but I learned that I had to dig a hole, place said memories in hole, cover it up, say a prayer. God give me the strength to not forgive but to forget those who have done me wrong, give me the strength to find a new road or path to follow so as the scenery will make me foget the past and focus on a beautiful new memory so I may find happiness, love and contentment, letting old memories fade away until they are no longer a memory. My beautiful lioness, I will always be by your side to protect you, I will never let you feel scared, alone, or frightened, I will always Roar loudly so others will know you belong to me. With each passing day I hope to fill your mind with beautiful new memories of our lives together so one day you can live without blaming yourself for being the beautiful person you are. Love you more than you love your yarn. Love your Lion.??

The words written in this blog are mine, formed by life, things I've seen, experienced, and learned over my time on this planet. I'm sure I'm going to piss a few people off but in life it will happen and I'm not sorry for having my opinions and perspective. So now I begin, what happened to Mr. Floyd was nothing less than murder, his fellow officers are just as guilty, this is why the word accessory is greatly associated with crimes. These men did as they say in the field, failure to act, not one of them step in to say get off him or push him away saying he's not going anywhere, or your killing him. They did nothing but stand by and watch as a man died, the saying goes the punishment should fit the crime, nothing this man did justified being murdered in the street. He was not given any rights to a speedy trial to be judged by his peers, just executed by one man who saw a black man and assumed he was guilty. Now cities are protesting, mostly peaceful, but some not so much, I watched in my city as they threw bottles, rocks, whatever they could find at the police, I was raised with the words two wrongs don't make a right. Do you  know the officers your throwing shit at, do they have racist tattooed on their foreheads, do they have families, maybe get to know someone before making a judgment. Have we become a nation that judges everyone on the horrible deeds of a few, please don't ever group me in with the fucking, karma needs to hit them with a truck kkk, just because I look white, I'm part native american. All germans weren't nazi's, all native americans weren't savages, the many judged by the few. I understand completely the frustration felt by this country but riots aren't going to change the attitudes of people it hasn't for years, Watts riot 1965, history shows us that. I purpose this if we want change in this country, Vote, get out and vote, vote these old, set in their fucking ways mostly old white men out. If your politician is outdated, maybe it's time to vote in new blood, someone younger, someone of color, someone gay, someone who brings people together rather than divides a nation. It's hard to fight an attitude, so maybe just replace it with a better one, but the biggest problem is our president, white, privilege, old man, who insights hate, discrimination, discord, lies out his ass on a daily basis, and who has done nothing but divide this country from day one, are you willing to see what his next four years will be like. Oh so you don't call me a bleeding heart liberal I vote for the most qualified person Republicans included. Until we as a society truly make changes instead of just hoping the problems go away, this will not be the last time something happens like this. Let the judgement begin. 

Ok I'm asking this question after a discussion about it. Can a sexual position be deemed not submissive? Position in question is cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, keep in mind spanking can be applied to both ways. Both subs had the same opinion that they felt they weren't submissive but being the dominant one while in this position. My opinion is as long as the master/dominant is in control then he is still the dominant one he just likes the position. Views, comments, and opinions are welcome from all. Going to bed my beautiful friends. Hope everyone has a wonderful day. ?❤

So if someone's attitude can't be changed overnight then what the hell is taking so long in this country? President Abraham Lincoln on January 1st 1863 gave fourth the emancipation proclamation so all slaves were free. It took until 1964 for blacks in the country to have equal rights, as we have all seen lately this doesn't seem to be true. I was born 2 years later and I have never been taught to be a racist by either of my parents. As a child growing up I have had many black friends, my parents were friends with a single black woman in the apartment complex we lived, she had 3 boys oldest was my brothers age, middle was my age. She treated me and my brother like her own children, took us out to eat with them, took us to an amusement park that's been gone 40 years at least. We ate at her mother's house we were family I miss them because we moved away, and lost touch, very good memories. When I was 10 I first heard the term salt and pepper, my friend at the time told me that it was a reference about us, some older kids were yelling it from the pool we passed by. It's 2020 how long is it going to take for people to see people as humans not a color, an age, a religion, a sexual orientation, but as we are all humans hopefully trying to work on a better world not just for the few but for everyone. I want change I'm pretty sure it won't happen in my lifetime but I'm hoping that someday my children will see it or maybe my grandchildren. I have fears because if the attitude hasn't changed towards blacks in this country since 1863, how long before my children are accepted for being LGBT. My youngest said we need to get rid of cops like that, I stated well if we had a test so you could find the racist it would be fine but when they hide along side everyone keeping their narrow minded thinking to themselves until such time as to spew their vile amongst others like themselves its difficult. Only when they gather in groups, face off against people who hate what they stand for or let their hate show forth by killing a man clearly showing no threat then they are visible to the rest of us. Racism hides like a coward waiting for its chance to rear its ugly head when someone or something invites them to come out and play, this is one child who should never be given an invitation. A man once told me that we are all prejudiced but not all are racist. What I have learned in life is  don't see color see a person, if you're going to judge a person do it on how well they treat humans because in the end we're all the same doesn't matter of your race, color, religion, sexual orientation if you're an asshole your an asshole plain and simple. I'm over halfway through this life of mine so I can only hope that it won't take another 101 years to give rights that were already given. My heartfelt condolences to all the families of those who have lost someone due to hate. Big hug to all.