"collared" status

I agree with TallOne's essential reminders, whatever the quibbles with particulars might be.

I'd suggest some of these definitions somehow get included in the welcoming notes the staff creates. W ...

Fri Nov 30, 2018 5:40 am • 55 Replies • 12400 Views

BDSM: Best Advice You've Received?

Almost too basic to be needed--- but it can be a trap anyway---

DO NOT 'scene' when tipsy/drunk, and certainly don't scene with a drunk/tipsy Dom or Domme.

Same goes for an angry partner. I ...

Tue Nov 13, 2018 11:36 pm • 34 Replies • 13669 Views

Difficulty with kneeling

Haven't seen this mentioned yet, but a good bit of kneeling by a sub is frequently associated with oral service. To get yourself at the same relative height, AND not need to kneel at all, consider ...

Tue Nov 13, 2018 3:22 pm • 19 Replies • 8498 Views

Long Distance Ideas

If I read you right, you want "fun" punishments (an oxymoron, but hey..) he can use on you when your are bratty.

Maybe some simple things might work for him, on you...How about he makes you strip, ...

Fri Nov 02, 2018 10:52 pm • 4 Replies • 3453 Views

Sexual experience needed?

I might offer a little different slant than, Fud, though he is certainly on track and offering excellent observations.

Perhaps I am more loosy-goosy in new relationships, so my feelings might not ...

Sat Oct 27, 2018 6:16 pm • 10 Replies • 4742 Views

What are other methods for pain, nothing permanent, when playing?

I'd suggest a suede leather (genuine) tailed flogger for all around use. If you want harder thugs and bruises on top of redness, look for a rawhide type leather flogger with heavier wider tails....Th ...

Mon Oct 22, 2018 12:26 am • 20 Replies • 8736 Views

What are other methods for pain, nothing permanent, when playing?

Nobody has yet mentioned 'figging' for a different sort of pain....For some it is tolerable, for others it can be nearly intolerable --well into pain, with no marks and nothing lasting more than hour ...

Sun Oct 21, 2018 4:21 am • 20 Replies • 8736 Views

New Sub

WOW! Well done, Kara ! I don't see how anyone could post a more complete and inclusive answer to this question than you just offered. Clearly took a good while to put all that together in one pac ...

Sat Oct 20, 2018 9:55 pm • 10 Replies • 5421 Views

Cyber/solo-sub/dom-space/drop??¿

Ivy said "I can't spank myself or do anything that needs a partner." I think several of my online subs would raise eyebrows at that very limiting feeling.

A beautiful pink glow CAN certainly be ...

Sat Oct 20, 2018 4:29 am • 9 Replies • 4974 Views

Nipples!

Nobody has yet mentioned my fave--simple basic bobby pins..... not as hard as clothes pins, but adjustable by how far they are pushed on....AND if the loop of the bobby pin is down, ends up, then s ...

Tue Oct 16, 2018 4:46 pm • 23 Replies • 13533 Views